Thanks for all of the support and suggestions.I have to make the decision soon and your help has been invaluable.I take advice from any one any age so long as it's good advice.If it turns out that she is like a shaft of gold when all around is dark then i may have to re-think my plans but i feel that i should't be pressured into any thing and should only do something that i want to!!

It's all so tricky on first dates!!!!

Open relationtionship behind closed doors

Thats very sincere and heartfelt, I will give you some advice about those doors...later.

I will look forward to you whispering in my ear!!!

well ya, but if they're pretty good friends, then making a mistake and taking it too far too fast can ruin a friendship, as I found out

I say go for it. Never know how long you might live.