Internet hookups

Laces Out Dan! · 04-01-2013, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Black Francis

lol, that i am

i just don't wanna ruin everything ya know?

we work together and have to see each other everyday
if it ends up bad, it's gonna SUPER AWKWARD between us

Dont shit where you eat.

PoorOldPo · 04-01-2013, 07:34 PM

Never internet dated before, the population density per square mile isn't large enough in the west of Ireland for it to be realistic in my opinion.

And Black Francis, sort your **** out and stop cheating on that girl. Pick one.

Stephen · 04-01-2013, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Black Francis

i prefer her cause even though she's far away

Being far away I imagine gives the relationship something of a mythical quality. Your real life girl friend/ buddy has the disadvantage of being part of reality.

**Janszoon** · 04-01-2013, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Burning Down

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Originally Posted by Hermione

He just wants us to make him feel like he's not a douche for this

That's my feeling as well. We're not here to validate or justify somebody's poor choices.

**Exo** · 04-01-2013, 09:58 PM

I went to a wedding where my girlfriend and I were the only ones out of a 300 person wedding including the families that knew the bride and groom met on myspace. I made sure not to get too drunk so I wouldn't spill the beans.

ladyislingering · 04-01-2013, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

If your girlfriend believes you're monogamous, then you're a complete sleaze, dude.

For real. OP is making my stomach churn!

Engine · 04-02-2013, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Black Francis

on a personal note, right now i have a GF

well we're not official, but i don't wanna call her a f*ck buddy cause we are more than that but we are not quite BF and GF

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

If your girlfriend believes you're monogamous, then you're a complete sleaze, dude.

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Originally Posted by ladyislingering

For real. OP is making my stomach churn!

Far be it from me to give give dating advice but in the case of internet "hookups", an emotional affair is what's being had.

However, I think the OP made a point (more than once) to say that his current physical relationship is established as casual, uncommitted, and not monogamous. So.. why would his "internet hookup" be any worse than him dating multiple people in real life? That's pretty normal for humans.

I'm confused about why people presume that the real-life girl expects monogamy. OP said expressly that she does not. If she does then, yeah, I agree with the "you're a sleazy douche" comments but he claims that she does not. If in doubt, he should talk to real-life girl about it and accept the consequences, as has already been said.

I agree that OP shouldn't lie by omission to the real-life hookup if, as everybody presumes, the real-life one would be concerned/alarmed. But I think it's kind of offensive to the real-life hookup for people to assume that she even wants to have that conversation. OP said they're not committed. Maybe she would also like to retain her own privacy.

ZiggyStardust · 04-02-2013, 02:31 AM

Are you sitting comfortably, children? Then I'll begin.

I'm probably going to take a disliking of the OP due to his ''fuckbuddy'' approach. For me to fuck someone, I have to be in love with someone, have an emotional connection. I probably read too much D.H Lawrence, but oh well.
People with ''fuckbuddy'' approaches are no better than prostitutes. Their lives revolve around the physical sex, the carnal hunger, the animal instinct, rather than the beautiful human love. Love is beautiful. Sex is noisy and messy, just the expression of love. Painting is beautiful, paintings are just the expression.
Can you have love and sex at the same time? Of course. But they've got to be in a balance. Too much of one will upset the relationship. Too much of a relationship that's solely based on the sex and it will undoubtedly fail. You will no grow to love her. You will just love her vajayjay. You've got to love her being, not her sexual organs.

That wasn't too bad, was it? That was probably I in my most philosophical.

Engine · 04-02-2013, 03:24 AM

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Originally Posted by ZiggyStardust

Are you sitting comfortably, children? Then I'll begin.

I'm probably going to take a disliking of the OP due to his ''fuckbuddy'' approach. For me to fuck someone, I have to be in love with someone, have an emotional connection. I probably read too much D.H Lawrence, but oh well.
People with ''fuckbuddy'' approaches are no better than prostitutes. Their lives revolve around the physical sex, the carnal hunger, the animal instinct, rather than the beautiful human love. Love is beautiful. Sex is noisy and messy, just the expression of love. Painting is beautiful, paintings are just the expression.
Can you have love and sex at the same time? Of course. But they've got to be in a balance. Too much of one will upset the relationship. Too much of a relationship that's solely based on the sex and it will undoubtedly fail. You will no grow to love her. You will just love her vajayjay. You've got to love her being, not her sexual organs.

That wasn't too bad, was it? That was probably I in my most philosophical.

Thanks, dad, but today's sexual politics are more enlightened than Lawrence's 100 year old misogynistic views/writing that passed as feminism back then.

ZiggyStardust · 04-02-2013, 03:29 AM

Misogynistic? Which is more anti-women, respecting their bodies or just using them for sex?

04-01-2013, 07:34 PM	#42 (permalink)
PoorOldPo Blue Pill Oww Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Luimneach, Eire Posts: 1,107	Never internet dated before, the population density per square mile isn't large enough in the west of Ireland for it to be realistic in my opinion. And Black Francis, sort your **** out and stop cheating on that girl. Pick one. __________________ https://www.instagram.com/hennas.lullaby/

04-02-2013, 02:31 AM	#48 (permalink)
ZiggyStardust Music Addict Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Mars Posts: 108	Are you sitting comfortably, children? Then I'll begin. I'm probably going to take a disliking of the OP due to his ''fuckbuddy'' approach. For me to fuck someone, I have to be in love with someone, have an emotional connection. I probably read too much D.H Lawrence, but oh well. People with ''fuckbuddy'' approaches are no better than prostitutes. Their lives revolve around the physical sex, the carnal hunger, the animal instinct, rather than the beautiful human love. Love is beautiful. Sex is noisy and messy, just the expression of love. Painting is beautiful, paintings are just the expression. Can you have love and sex at the same time? Of course. But they've got to be in a balance. Too much of one will upset the relationship. Too much of a relationship that's solely based on the sex and it will undoubtedly fail. You will no grow to love her. You will just love her vajayjay. You've got to love her being, not her sexual organs. That wasn't too bad, was it? That was probably I in my most philosophical. __________________ Welcome to the internet, where opinions are like toilets; everyone thinks theirs are perfect but the public ones stink.

04-02-2013, 03:29 AM	#50 (permalink)
ZiggyStardust Music Addict Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Mars Posts: 108	Misogynistic? Which is more anti-women, respecting their bodies or just using them for sex? __________________ Welcome to the internet, where opinions are like toilets; everyone thinks theirs are perfect but the public ones stink.

04-01-2013, 09:58 PM	#45 (permalink)
Exo All day jazz and biscuits Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 7,359	I went to a wedding where my girlfriend and I were the only ones out of a 300 person wedding including the families that knew the bride and groom met on myspace. I made sure not to get too drunk so I wouldn't spill the beans.