The Relationship Thread.

grindy · 10-04-2022, 12:01 PM

Holy ****, talk about bad relationship advice!

Ghosting is definitely terrible.

WWWP · 10-04-2022, 07:37 PM

She just got her feelings hurt, you were NTA in this situation at all. A month is the amount of time it takes to feel things out, and a phone call is absolutely acceptable. She’s just trying to do the displaced emotions thing of making you feel bad because she feels bad. Find someone with more emotionally regulated/intelligent.

Norg · 10-04-2022, 08:04 PM

a single mom 33 years old with 2 kids from 2 different baby daddies

what do u think her mindset and attitude is on her life and future ..???

like it seems men have broke her heart so much she is border line insane or turned lesbian ..??? and it seems like in her mind its FUdge everbody her kids is the only thing that matters ..???

but is that truly the case ..???

The Batlord · 10-04-2022, 08:37 PM

Wtf are you talking about?

grindy · 10-05-2022, 12:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WWWP

She just got her feelings hurt, you were NTA in this situation at all. A month is the amount of time it takes to feel things out, and a phone call is absolutely acceptable. She’s just trying to do the displaced emotions thing of making you feel bad because she feels bad. Find someone with more emotionally regulated/intelligent.

Exactly what I was thinking but nice to hear it from someone else.

**Marie Monday** · 10-05-2022, 01:54 AM

Yes you did nothing wrong. It's understandable that she's hurt, but she shouldn't have reacted like that.
Nothing wrong with a phone call either. I tried to avoid doing it over the phone when breaking up with my ex, which means it took way too long before I had the opportunity to do it, and that was more hurtful in the end. Calling her would have been much better

grindy · 10-05-2022, 02:02 AM

Thanks, Marie!
While I know that I did nothing wrong and I understand where her reaction is coming from, I really hate hurting people and it makes me feel better to at least see my stance confirmed by you guys.

Mucha na Dziko · 10-06-2022, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by grindy

She says that I am an ******* and if I really did have these doubts I would have told her earlier.

Well, you've been seeing each other for a month. It's not like she spent half her life with you. Her reaction is completely incomprehensible to me, as you actually did tell her "early on".

grindy · 10-06-2022, 10:59 AM

I mean, I did have some doubts for at least two weeks before that but I still wanted to see where it goes and whether my doubts might be quelled when I knew her better. That's what the initial trial period is for, after all.

The Batlord · 10-06-2022, 11:14 AM

Did you at least get to bust?

10-04-2022, 12:01 PM	#671 (permalink)
grindy . Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: . Posts: 7,201	Holy **, talk about bad relationship advice! Ghosting is definitely terrible. __________________ A smell of petroleum prevails throughout.**

10-05-2022, 02:02 AM	#677 (permalink)
grindy . Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: . Posts: 7,201	Thanks, Marie! While I know that I did nothing wrong and I understand where her reaction is coming from, I really hate hurting people and it makes me feel better to at least see my stance confirmed by you guys. __________________ *A smell of petroleum prevails throughout.*

10-06-2022, 10:59 AM	#679 (permalink)
grindy . Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: . Posts: 7,201	I mean, I did have some doubts for at least two weeks before that but I still wanted to see where it goes and whether my doubts might be quelled when I knew her better. That's what the initial trial period is for, after all. __________________ *A smell of petroleum prevails throughout.*

10-04-2022, 08:04 PM	#673 (permalink)
Norg Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,344	a single mom 33 years old with 2 kids from 2 different baby daddies what do u think her mindset and attitude is on her life and future ..??? like it seems men have broke her heart so much she is border line insane or turned lesbian ..??? and it seems like in her mind its FUdge everbody her kids is the only thing that matters ..??? but is that truly the case ..???