The Relationship Thread.

[scleaves]

I had a great relationship with a woman and then all of a sudden, one day she dumped me for no apparent reason.

[Burning Down]

Originally Posted by Blarobbarg

Plus, my lifestyle isn't exactly normal for a 21 year old middle class American male. I live in Nicaragua for heaven's sake. And my favorite activities include eating at ethnic restaurants (or food trucks... or sketchy groceries), drinking copious amounts of exotic coffee, jamming for hours on end, reading by myself, and shopping at record stores and thrift stores. I go to the movies once or twice a year at the most, I don't drink, and I tend to not like huge parties. I feel like I need to move to somewhere with more hipsters like Portland or Seattle or something, I tend to get along better with the "freaks" than anyone else in my hometown. Maybe then I would finally find a girl who is weird enough to like me and share a few of my interests (who doesn't turn out to be horrible).

Are you sure you're not me? LOL! Although I go to the movies a lot, I drink (but I don't go crazy and sometimes go for long periods without it), and I'm simply uncomfortable at huge parties. I often wondered how someone could ever love me with all my idiosyncrasies and interests. But then I concluded that if they love me, then they can accept those things. There's no such thing as "normal", really. I'm a little strange, and my boyfriend is equally as strange in his own way. Some of that could be due to him being from another country - different cultural norms and such that might be weird to me but not to him.

One of my biggest idiosyncrasies (if you want to call it that), is that I don't like the feeling of being touched. I really like my personal space, and I was happy to meet someone who respected that and who waited until I got to know him better before going forward.

Originally Posted by Blarobbarg

Joining a club, maybe, when I get back to the States. Not really anything like that for me here in Nicaragua. As far as flirting with random girls in coffee places, I am beyond uncomfortable flirting with strangers. Plus, I've never decided I "liked" someone just by seeing them. I'm not against it... but it's definitely way out of my comfort zone. And again, that would be something to do in the States, not here. They honestly only have a handful of coffee shops here, and I live in Managua, the capital. It's kind of like the 20th century here, they don't have too many of the things we take for granted in the majority of the western world. All that aside, I appreciate the suggestions.

I know the feeling. I really do. But one time I tried it and it worked wonders, setting everything in motion. Worked wonders for my parents too

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by scleaves

I had a great relationship with a woman and then all of a sudden, one day she dumped me for no apparent reason.

There is always a reason maybe you just didn't pick up on the signs before it happened.

[Blarobbarg]

Originally Posted by Burning Down

Are you sure you're not me? LOL! Although I go to the movies a lot, I drink (but I don't go crazy and sometimes go for long periods without it), and I'm simply uncomfortable at huge parties. I often wondered how someone could ever love me with all my idiosyncrasies and interests. But then I concluded that if they love me, then they can accept those things. There's no such thing as "normal", really. I'm a little strange, and my boyfriend is equally as strange in his own way. Some of that could be due to him being from another country - different cultural norms and such that might be weird to me but not to him.

Hey, it's good to see someone with many of the same quirks as myself. Yeah, that's the conclusion I've come to, myself. If they're worth pursuing, they'll enjoy my weirdness, not be turned off by it. I'm pretty sure I'm just going through some post-20 angst, looking at the world, my life, and my future and wondering, "what the flying fudgemonkey am I doing?" Cue confusion and stress.

One of my biggest idiosyncrasies (if you want to call it that), is that I don't like the feeling of being touched. I really like my personal space, and I was happy to meet someone who respected that and who waited until I got to know him better before going forward.

Interestingly, I'm the exact opposite. I thoroughly enjoy touch, all touch. And I mean, beyond a sensual, sexual way. I just mean, I enjoy casual physical contact with those I am close to, friends, family, whatever. I don't really feel like I'm a friend of someone until I can hug them, but I know this is NOT the case with most of America, so I just have to convince myself that just because they're not wanting a hug, does not mean they aren't my friend. I know there's some psychological oddity there, but hey, at least I recognize it.

[Burning Down]

Originally Posted by Blarobbarg

Interestingly, I'm the exact opposite. I thoroughly enjoy touch, all touch. And I mean, beyond a sensual, sexual way. I just mean, I enjoy casual physical contact with those I am close to, friends, family, whatever. I don't really feel like I'm a friend of someone until I can hug them, but I know this is NOT the case with most of America, so I just have to convince myself that just because they're not wanting a hug, does not mean they aren't my friend. I know there's some psychological oddity there, but hey, at least I recognize it.

I should have been clearer. I actually meant that I don't enjoy touches from people I don't know that well. People brushing past me in a crowd is uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, I like most kinds of physical touch. I'm just very selective about who gets into my personal space.

[scleaves]

Originally Posted by djchameleon

There is always a reason maybe you just didn't pick up on the signs before it happened.

I saw it coming and even told her that but she completely denied it. This is what threw me off, because I started to think we had something.

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by scleaves

I saw it coming and even told her that but she completely denied it. This is what threw me off, because I started to think we had something.

I've been there, letting love cloud your judgement and second guess your gut instincts.

[FRED HALE SR.]

Originally Posted by scleaves

I saw it coming and even told her that but she completely denied it. This is what threw me off, because I started to think we had something.

How can you have something if you never stuck your dick in her?

[scleaves]

Originally Posted by FRED HALE SR.

How can you have something if you never stuck your dick in her?

In theory you can. We were talking about getting married before she broke up. We talked about doing it eventually as well.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by scleaves

In theory you can. We were talking about getting married before she broke up. We talked about doing it eventually as well.

So you were talking about having sex AND get married? Are you all in high school or something? Not being condescending, just asking.