The Relationship Thread.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by WhateverDude

Does anyone have any advice on picking up on social ques? I feel like that's a weird question to ask but the only time I seem to understand a person's intentions is when they're completely point-blank and literal. I had a haircut today and spent my entire visit trying to figure out if my hairdresser was flirting with me. And there's times when I'm just completely oblivious to how the things I say may be interpreted until it's far too late. I feel so ****ing dumb and far behind in the world of relationships

I have the same problem. Without behavioral therapy though, I think it's something that you never just "get the hang of" if it's some kind of developmental thing, like autism or whatever.

Best I can tell you is to be aware of what a person's face is doing. A lot of the time I'll be talking to someone, but I'll only be passively paying attention to their facial expressions, so even if I have some idea of how they're feeling or thinking on the inside, it won't really register. It's not something I do on purpose, for some reason it just doesn't feel like interpreting someone's facial expressions and body language should be as important as it apparently is. If that's how you are, then don't do that.