Is this site more important than the ones you love?
Hi everyone,
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Less important than my mum, dad and sister. But more important than anyone else. Family wise at least.
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Is brushing your teeth more important, if you do that first? Checking your email? Turning on the TV?
No. These are things we do out of habit. They're inconsequential, reflexive, irrelevant things. The day my grandma died, I turned on the television for a week and disappeared in it. Doesn't mean I loved my mother any less. She sounds like the sort of girl who would read your text messages. |
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Personally, many members of my family mean very little to me. This community may be essentially just a group of randoms, but I feel more of a connection to the general membership than those of my family. |
I don't have a very strong sense of family either, but I don't necessarily have a comparably strong sense of community on a website.
I'm on the side of the fence that she shouldn't get worked up, because she's interpreting the situation in a way that's absurd, regardless of whether or not he does feel a strong bond with others on the internet or not. I've been in both situations, having addictive bonds and having little attachment, and it wasn't the case in either place that it meant I didn't care for my family or significant other. |
Ahh, that makes more sense. I generally agree as well.
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No, people that I love in real life are more important to me than this site. However I've developed friendships with people on this site and other forums, and although they're long distance, they are still significant.
There were 3 deaths in the family over the last 5 years and I didn't shed a tear at their funerals. Nothing affected me and I just went about my daily business like nothing happened. My mom thought that was inappropriate but I didn't care. Still don't. |
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...but yeah, she is overreacting. |
I hope she is reading the thread, as she can hear how possessive, controlling, and emotional she is being.
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I can understand if maybe you didn't remember but if you totally knew that she is still having a hard time with it then just be there for her. |
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I'm not saying she shouldn't be sad or whatever, but I think it's irrational to take it out on you with accusations and guilt trips. Be there if she actually needs you, but don't fall victim to attention seeking and don't let her make you feel like a dick for posting on the internet.
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The more you speak, Slappy, the more worried I get that you didn't take from my words what I meant for you to take, haha.
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Why are you even in a relationship with her? Are you just with her for the sex? I mean really?
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Honestly, if it was my boyfriend I would be far more caring than I even need to be. That's just me though. It's so much easier emotionally being single.
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Right Vanilla! See! SHE should be more caring to ME. That is what you are saying right?
*hoping!! |
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The next time you wonder why women talk shit about men once in a while, just come back to this thread. |
I get what he's saying, he doesn't want to alienate her but she's manipulating him into doing what she wants. I've been there. It sucks. I hope it gets better for you slappy.
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Dude, do you even care about this girl? Seriously. If you don't care about her feelings and have no intentions of offering your love and support when she's grieving, let her find someone who does.
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I think that's fair enough to ask of someone.
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So is this thread an indirect way of getting her to break up with you?
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This is making my head hurt.
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I find the title to this thread disturbing, unless you're a hermit I can't imagine picking a site over a loved one.
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I will be happy to provide any response if you want my opinion. Please reiterate. |
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I'm confused why do you keep posting if she'll see it? If you're not trying to get back w/ her I don't see the issue of you posting, I mean the world doesn't stop b/c her dad died.
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