Hey, is anyone else married here?

YorkeDaddy · 05-02-2015, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by innerspaceboy

Just two years this August. We moved in together after the first 6 months and have never in any of our past long-term relationships been more sure that we're right for each other.

We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well.

I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen.

Sounds like an awesome relationship!

Burning Down · 05-02-2015, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by innerspaceboy

Just two years this August. We moved in together after the first 6 months and have never in any of our past long-term relationships been more sure that we're right for each other.

We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well.

I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen.

Nice. It sounds like you complement each other quite well. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now.

**Frownland** · 05-02-2015, 12:36 PM

If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too.

YorkeDaddy · 05-02-2015, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Frownland

If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too.

but what if she looked like this

I could totally see her diggin MMM

Oriphiel · 05-03-2015, 05:44 AM

It's a toss up. Some people really hate kids and see them as life-draining screaming little goblins, and others find it amazing that they can bring life into the world and try to help them to be a great person. For every Ki and Lis, there is a Chula.

The Batlord · 05-03-2015, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Oriphiel

It's a toss up. Some people really hate kids and see them as life-draining screaming little goblins, and others find it amazing that they can bring life into the world and try to help them to be a great person. For every Ki and Lis, there is a Chula.

Either way, the human race is ****ed.

Oriphiel · 05-03-2015, 06:01 AM

Actually, now that I think about it, I think Lis and Ki would make great parents. I can imagine Ki teaching them how to play violent video games, while Lis spins her favorite records. They seem pretty self-conscious about the whole thing, like they believe that they would make horrible parents, but I think that doubt would drive them to be a lot more careful and truly loving than many other parents (who just assume that their parenting skills are amazing, and everything that goes wrong is the child's fault).

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

Either way, the human race is ****ed.

It's only a matter of time before the ants have their rebellion.

Freebase Dali · 05-03-2015, 12:11 PM

Not married. No kids. Am 34.

I don't really have the inclination to go through with it. I don't feel like there's anything there except an expectation from others. It's funny, we were just talking about this at work on Thursday when a potential hire came through to meet us and get a feel for the environment. We ended up talking about family, etc. and when my boss got to me, asking if I was ever going to shack up I just yelled "NOPE". It has become an automatic response now, but when I think about it, it's not as if I'm actively trying not to get married and have kids... it's that I'm not actively trying TO.

There isn't a sense of urgency. I don't feel like kids are a legacy and I don't feel an obligation to the human race.

Of course, I say that because I don't have kids, therefore I am on the other side of my own possible feelings about the matter in that I don't have them and therefore am not qualified to know how I'd feel about them in that context. But as far as marriage is concerned, apart from an act of commitment, I don't view it as much more than a societal tradition.

I'm open to it, I guess. I'm just not thinking about it as some sort of requirement or goal.
I'm sure I'll regret it on my death bed, should I never start a family of my own, but goddamn if I'm going to not live my entire life the way I want for the sake of having someone to hold my hand when I'm sh*tting the bed during my final hours in a rest home.

Chula Vista · 05-03-2015, 12:14 PM

Sometimes it just kinda happens. That's how it was for us.

Freebase Dali · 05-03-2015, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Chula Vista

Sometimes it just kinda happens. That's how it was for us.

Yea, that's how I think it would happen for me if it ever happens.

I'm not pushing it, but if it makes sense when the option is on the table and circumstances agree, I wouldn't say no.

05-02-2015, 12:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
Frownland SOPHIE FOREVER Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: East of the Southern North American West Posts: 35,541	If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too. __________________ Studies show that when a given norm is changed in the face of the unchanging, the remaining contradictions will parallel the truth. d e a f b o x

05-03-2015, 12:11 PM	#8 (permalink)
Freebase Dali Partying on the inside Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 5,584	Not married. No kids. Am 34. I don't really have the inclination to go through with it. I don't feel like there's anything there except an expectation from others. It's funny, we were just talking about this at work on Thursday when a potential hire came through to meet us and get a feel for the environment. We ended up talking about family, etc. and when my boss got to me, asking if I was ever going to shack up I just yelled "NOPE". It has become an automatic response now, but when I think about it, it's not as if I'm actively trying not to get married and have kids... it's that I'm not actively trying TO. There isn't a sense of urgency. I don't feel like kids are a legacy and I don't feel an obligation to the human race. Of course, I say that because I don't have kids, therefore I am on the other side of my own possible feelings about the matter in that I don't have them and therefore am not qualified to know how I'd feel about them in that context. But as far as marriage is concerned, apart from an act of commitment, I don't view it as much more than a societal tradition. I'm open to it, I guess. I'm just not thinking about it as some sort of requirement or goal. I'm sure I'll regret it on my death bed, should I never start a family of my own, but goddamn if I'm going to not live my entire life the way I want for the sake of having someone to hold my hand when I'm sh*tting the bed during my final hours in a rest home. __________________

05-03-2015, 12:14 PM	#9 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Sometimes it just kinda happens. That's how it was for us. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

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05-03-2015, 05:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
Oriphiel Ask me how! Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The States Posts: 5,354	It's a toss up. Some people really hate kids and see them as life-draining screaming little goblins, and others find it amazing that they can bring life into the world and try to help them to be a great person. For every Ki and Lis, there is a Chula.