Kids: you gotta love 'em!

Overcast · 05-04-2015, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

i disagree, regarding your ranking

elderly have a sort of charm to them that you can't really hate them cause they're survivors and they're just trying to keep it up, but at the same time when i'm not interacting with them directly they can annoy me by wandering around aimlessly and getting in my way and being completely oblivious to that fact. they have a lot of the same traits that make kids a nuisance sometimes tbh.

I feel comfort in the presence of the elderly for some reason, I dunno why. I relate to them more often than not.

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

right, so developmental psychology must not have had any influence on the behavior of those fully grown adults. gotcha.

Also, yeah, this.

Oriphiel · 05-04-2015, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

for me its got more to do with monogamy/marriage than kids themselves which makes me reluctant to be a parent

or more specifically the prospect of managing the 2 projects simultaneously

sounds complicated and difficult to me and i'm just so impulsive and borderline irresponsible at times (though i've been gradually trying to move away from that behavioral trend as i get older) that i don't trust myself to pull it off the right way

I hear where you're coming from. Believe me, as long as you legitimately loved your family and weren't abusing them physically or mentally, you'd be doing a better job than plenty other parents out there. There's this lady that lives in an apartment next to mine that loves to scream at her young child for nothing until they start crying, usually at midnight or some other ungodly hour. Every time I think I might be ready for raising a kid or seeking a relationship, I hear her and her kid screaming their lungs out like they hate each other's guts. And then the father gets home and he's just like "Fuck this, i'm going to bed." I really don't want to end up like that, but I also don't want to give up without trying just because of what might happen.

Anyway, if it's being faithful to your spouse/partner that you're worried about, maybe you just need to find the right person, someone that you really love and feel loyal to? Or hell, you could try having an open relationship. I think Chula's mentioned that he and his spouse are in one, and he's got nothing but good things to say about their marriage.

ladyislingering · 05-04-2015, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Oriphiel

But what if i'm at a party, and they start playing that newfangled Rock and Roll music? To not instantly start copulating with the hosts would just be rude.

control your boner goddamnit

YorkeDaddy · 05-04-2015, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

right, so developmental psychology must not have had any influence on the behavior of those fully grown adults. gotcha.

Stop being facetious. You know there's a difference

Pet_Sounds · 05-04-2015, 08:27 PM

My parents are cool, even though I can be a typical teenage ******* at times. I'm from a split family with depression/anxiety running on both sides, so life is challenging, but they've always been supportive.

The only time my dad has missed one of my baseball games, he was watching my little brother play. No other dad on any of the teams I've been part of (not even the coaches) comes out day in and day out like that. He's also given me a love of reading and writing.

My mom taught me (and is still teaching me--she's got a degree in music) to play piano, and she's the person who introduced me to so much of the music I listen to.

I owe them both an incredible debt that I'll never be able to pay, but I try to show my appreciation for them every day. They're selfless individuals who have molded (and continue to mold) me into the person I am (and will become).

So I guess that's my contribution to this thread. Parents: you gotta love 'em!

Oriphiel · 05-04-2015, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkeDaddy

Stop being facetious. You know there's a difference

Oh no you don't.

This thread is going to get back on track, dammit. You can argue all you want... in the shoutbox.

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Originally Posted by Pet_Sounds

My parents are cool, even though I can be a typical teenage ******* at times. I'm from a split family with depression/anxiety running on both sides, so life is challenging, but they've always been supportive.

The only time my dad has missed one of my baseball games, he was watching my little brother play. No other dad on any of the teams I've been part of (not even the coaches) comes out day in and day out like that. He's also given me a love of reading and writing.

My mom taught me (and is still teaching me--she's got a degree in music) to play piano, and she's the person who introduced me to so much of the music I listen to.

I owe them both an incredible debt that I'll never be able to pay, but I try to show my appreciation for them every day. They're selfless individuals who have molded (and continue to mold) me into the person I am (and will become).

So I guess that's my contribution to this thread. Parents: you gotta love 'em!

I can always count on you to cheer a thread up, and warm a few hearts along the way.

Your family sounds wonderful.

~~John Wilkes Booth~~ · 05-04-2015, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Overcast

I feel comfort in the presence of the elderly for some reason, I dunno why. I relate to them more often than not.

if i'm in a room with them and we're just keeping eachother company, i agree

i guess my view is warped by always being in a rush and interacting with the majority of the elderly people i encounter on a pretty impersonal/logistical basis.

~~John Wilkes Booth~~ · 05-04-2015, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Oriphiel

I hear where you're coming from. Believe me, as long as you legitimately loved your family and weren't abusing them physically or mentally, you'd be doing a better job than plenty other parents out there. There's this lady that lives in an apartment next to mine that loves to scream at her young child for nothing until they start crying, usually at midnight or some other ungodly hour. Every time I think I might be ready for raising a kid or seeking a relationship, I hear her and her kid screaming their lungs out like they hate each other's guts. And then the father gets home and he's just like "Fuck this, i'm going to bed." I really don't want to end up like that, but I also don't want to give up without trying just because of what might happen.

Anyway, if it's being faithful to your spouse/partner that you're worried about, maybe you just need to find the right person, someone that you really love and feel loyal to? Or hell, you could try having an open relationship. I think Chula's mentioned that he and his spouse are in one, and he's got nothing but good things to say about their marriage.

it's just not the top priority for me atm.

maybe if i met the right person and she was into it i would start to feel differently for her sake. but when it comes down to it i'm not that worried about passing on my genetic lineage to make room for such a massive endeavor just for the sake of it.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 05-04-2015, 11:54 PM

I'm very attracted to by kids. This might sound funny but any time I'm sitting at the bus stop or on the bus with one they stare/smile at me and when we chat they are super responsive to me. No idea why. I have no idea whether I want or will have children but it depends on whether my situation improves. Being in pain all the time doesn't pave the way for children. I have to care for myself and that takes enough effort. I'm in and out of hospital regularly. I can't bring kids into the world until I know I'm ready.

GuD · 05-04-2015, 11:56 PM

^more or less how i feel. i wouldn't bail on someone i knocked up but i'm not considering having children until i can actually take care of myself. in the meantime they're loud, obnoxious, little things i worry about tripping over.

05-04-2015, 08:27 PM	#55 (permalink)
Pet_Sounds Remember the underscore Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: The other side Posts: 2,489	My parents are cool, even though I can be a typical teenage ******* at times. I'm from a split family with depression/anxiety running on both sides, so life is challenging, but they've always been supportive. The only time my dad has missed one of my baseball games, he was watching my little brother play. No other dad on any of the teams I've been part of (not even the coaches) comes out day in and day out like that. He's also given me a love of reading and writing. My mom taught me (and is still teaching me--she's got a degree in music) to play piano, and she's the person who introduced me to so much of the music I listen to. I owe them both an incredible debt that I'll never be able to pay, but I try to show my appreciation for them every day. They're selfless individuals who have molded (and continue to mold) me into the person I am (and will become). So I guess that's my contribution to this thread. Parents: you gotta love 'em! __________________ Everybody's dying just to get the disease

05-04-2015, 11:54 PM	#59 (permalink)
Scarlett O'Hara Make it so Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,181	I'm very attracted to by kids. This might sound funny but any time I'm sitting at the bus stop or on the bus with one they stare/smile at me and when we chat they are super responsive to me. No idea why. I have no idea whether I want or will have children but it depends on whether my situation improves. Being in pain all the time doesn't pave the way for children. I have to care for myself and that takes enough effort. I'm in and out of hospital regularly. I can't bring kids into the world until I know I'm ready. __________________ "Elph is truly an enfant terrible of the forum, bless and curse him" - Marie, Queen of Thots

05-04-2015, 11:56 PM	#60 (permalink)
GuD Dude... What? Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 1,322	^more or less how i feel. i wouldn't bail on someone i knocked up but i'm not considering having children until i can actually take care of myself. in the meantime they're loud, obnoxious, little things i worry about tripping over. __________________ I spit bullets in my feet Every time I speak So I write instead And still people want me dead ~msc