The Support and Encouragement Thread
It's come to my notice that, while most of us are relatively happy and (very loosely speaking of course) well adjusted, there are some of us here who have problems, some of them serious, and they don't often get heard. Whether this is from a fear of ridicule, embarrassment or a reluctance to share such things publicly, there are times when you just can't use the Bitch Box.
Also, often I find people who come in with genuine problems are ignored, laughed at or the thread is diverted away from their issue. Not that this is to say that some people do not genuinely try to help, but it doesn't always happen. So here I'd like to start a proper, serious thread where you can post your problems. If your music isn't working out, you can get advice here. If you have a relationship problem, you can talk to us about it here. If you're depressed for no reason, we'll listen to you. Whatever your problem is --- even if it's not an emotional one and you just want advice --- you can post here. I would ask the mods to please not close this thread saying things like "thread exists for this already", as I've gone to pains to point out that this will, hopefully, be a different type of thread. I would also ask that while nobody expects a sepulchral respect to be maintained at all times, there is not too much off-topic conversation, and that if you can't help or contribute you don't just fill the thread up with smileys, gifs or YouTubes. I am hoping --- though this may be a vain hope --- that this will help someone, and if it only helps that one person then it will have achieved its purpose. Of course, it'll probably die within hours, but it's worth a try. So if you have something specific bothering you, and you need an ear or a shoulder, or some professional advice or just some encouragement, another set of eyes on a problem or a fresh perspective, or even just a friend to talk to, here's where to go. Cue Batlord and pithy gifs/comments no doubt. |
I wish I weren't too drunk to make use of this thread
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I want to kill myself regularly...............
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Overdose seems like fun but looks pretty scary. I watched a man I used to buy weed from die from a heroin OD when I was 16. I couldn't tell if he was dying happy or fighting to live. I'll never forget hearing who I assume was son sort of lover of his scream "I told him not to take it, I told him it was too much;". Either way suicide, tempting as it is, is one pansy ass bitch way to go. I hope you're only joking. But if you're not, I get the appeal. RIP, Rodney. I think that was his name. I always thought it was a weird one, at least for a hippie.
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I can't deny how true that is, actually. I suppose I have a different take on it as my suicidal ideations are more impulsive than inate.
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I'm not going to get drawn on my feelings on suicide, but if anyone is seriously considering it and not just ****ing with us here, please think about it and talk to us. I wouldn't want anyone here taking that huge and final step unless it is actually the only way out. I have no experience with talking to people about this but I'm sure there are those here who can.
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I really want a threesome with a chick that's hot, but not as hot as me. Actually I just enjoy seducing women, I'm good at it, and always wanted to beat someone to death.
Is that so wrong to think about? Will there ever be porn hard core enough for me? Oh yeah I have mommy issues btw. |
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As for the other part, it depends on your choice of designated victim. |
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Why are you always hiding behind the couch? Your gonna miss the 3some.
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I'm trying to find the post where Carpe talks about how her seductive methods with chicks includes getting physical with them and violently tossing them around and ****. I think there was some choking involved too.
Good stuff man! |
Women dig me because I'm sexy, more intelligent than their boyfriends, and unapologetically wild. True story. I once broke a bed with a girl from throwing her on it so hard. Wish I had just broken the girl with the bed.
I'm not bragging, just saying. Facts, man. If I was more into women I could have anyone I want. But vaginas are gross. You poor men. |
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I went on a 4-week liquor binge that ended up in total burnout and this is my 2nd day sober.
I'm suddenly hyper-aware of every little pain in my body and it's making me want to crawl out of my own skin. |
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I encourage anyone who recognizes they have a problem in real life to stop using the internet to solve it. Seek help from people who can actually help you, not advice from a stranger who only knows your biased side of the story.
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For the most part, I agree with you, just wanted to point out that there are times when internet people can be just as helpful as real life people. |
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Well when all is said and done, the only person who can /really/ help you is yourself. People are amazing but they are very fickle and very unreliable and if you stand or fall based on others, you'll always inevitably fall because they won't be able to hold you up forever, whether because they lose interest or they just can't do it anymore for whatever reason. It's okay to let people help you, but I only think you should go looking for help when it is absolutely necessary to your survival or well being. Obviously therapy is amazing though. I'm talking about like personal relationships and stuff. Even therapy though -- mere sprinkles on the ice cream... same thing with medication. These are both potentially helpful tools, but they mean nothing if you don't put in the leg work to improve yourself. |
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It's a grim reality, but at the end of the day, the only person you can rely on is yourself. |
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That said, if its worth anything to you I'm very sorry to hear about how your mother treated you. I've known a few people who dealt with trauma like that, its sad how cold people can be.
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I think that total independence is something that everyone should aspire for. I don't think anyone is totally 100% independent. I'm definitely not. But the fact that I make a point to be independent, at least emotionally... I don't know. I think it helped me love myself... so when people leave, or break up with me, or whatever... It's just like... yeah it hurts, but **** them because I'm amazing and I'm a beautiful person and I have so much to offer. It's easier said than done, but you can't live or die based on the acceptance of others, especially for people like you and me, who don't necessarily operate within the mainstream binary of sexuality or gender. I guess it's a defense mechanism. People leave. They get fed up. They get bored. They cheat on you. They die. They get addicted to drugs. They move on in one way or another and there have been so many times in my life where I'm sitting alone in my room feeling like a ghost because someone somehow passed on. At the end of the day, who you are is really the only thing that truly belongs to you. That is the only thing that is truly yours -- that little voice in your head. Regardless of what you've put yourself through, what you've put other people through, etc... You have to love that voice. You have to love yourself. You have to enjoy yourself. You have to see yourself as worth love. You have to laugh at your own jokes. You have to do all of these things because of the terrifying inevitability that the people you love are going to somehow leave, and they need to know this too, because one way or another, you're going to leave them. Quote:
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Cops came, locked him up, we had made it to my Aunt's house some fifty miles away. The state came in and said we couldn't be there because of legalities - blah blah blah. It was that day that I completely gave up on the system, because they sent me to stay with one family and my brother (who was 12 at the time) to a completely different family. The day I turned 18, I enlisted into the US Army, and shipped off to boot camp a week after I graduated high school. I fought tooth and nail to find my brother (even went to the JAG to see what could be done). I'm in my late twenties now, and it's only been in the last 3 years I've actually been able to find my brother again. When we fled our home, I learned real damn fast to relay on myself and only myself. I took that attitude to basic training, and doing the team building exercises my squad landed in the mud every single time, because of me. It took me a while to realize that counting on someone gets the job done, but if it doesn't, you still gotta hold your own. (A sweaty Drill Sergeant and a ticked off platoon and a few dozen push ups helped along the way) |
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It's also dumb. Whatever problems you have, and plenty of people do have problems (emotionally and psychologically) so severe that their ability to take care of themselves is severely hampered, but there's just no getting around the fact that you have to take care of yourself, lest you develop a mentality of dependence that leaves you at the whim of others. In this day and age, there is a sad idea that this is at least more acceptable, due to liberal ideas about welfare and social responsibility -- though I'm certainly not saying I'm against those on principle, but like grtwhtgrvty mentioned in another thread, nothing ever has purely good consequences, and whatever their virtues, these relatively modern ideas have the unfortunate consequence of making self-sufficiency less of a "revered trait". I don't agree with many of the old school, pre-sixties ideas about these issues either, as they tend to ignore and treat with contempt individual circumstances that can leave people literally at the mercy of their own unchangeable problems -- whether it be less obvious, and therefore easily dismissed, mental illness, or the kind of economic disparity suffered by minorities at the hands of society and the government -- although I also recognize that much of this mentality arose after the Depression traumatized an entire generation into believing in relying entirely on their own initiative rather than seeking help from others, since they were likely as bad off as you. But I do think that the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction, so that America -- or at least the more liberal sections of our society -- has adopted an unrealistic, touchy feely mentality that can cause dependency on outside help, at the expense of personal growth. Being raised in a libertarian, Irish Catholic family, centered around a grandfather who made himself a success story after coming from severe poverty on the streets of New York City, there was never much sympathy when it came to failure, and I was never coddled as I grew up to be a... less than independent slacker, who just doesn't understand how so many of my relatives can be such goal-oriented, A-type personalities. Their relentless "encouragement" (i.e. well-meaning, yet self-righteous lecturing) hasn't done much for my self-esteem, but in the end, my failures are still my own, and even if mental issues outside of my control have legitimately hampered me, I still can't rely on the "kindness of strangers". My family might help and support me (which I am grateful for, as even though their attempts can be ham-fisted and discouraging, it all comes from a place of love and concern), but that will never cause me to get my **** together by itself until I take my life back into my own hands under my own initiative. Is it fair that it might be harder for me to overcome my issues than it is for others? No. But that's life, and I just have to make the best of the hand I'm dealt, without hoping to be given better cards out of pity. An atheist such as myself would never pray to any god to intervene on my behalf, and it's similarly unrealistic to hope for the same from someone outside myself. *** Like I said, I'm not a libertarian who hates the idea of welfare or government intervention in some instances, but I'm just saying that self-reliance has to come hand-in-hand even in most of those cases (If you're so mentally ill that you need to be institutionalized, then yeah, you might deserve to be given a pass.) |
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I forget who it was -- I think it was the singer for The Haunted -- but he basically said that you kind of have to fool yourself into thinking that it'll all work out, just to get yourself through the times when you'd otherwise listen to your common sense, throw in the towel, and go get a "real job". |
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I know it's a little thing, but come on: the guy is pouring out his heart and you're correcting his ****ing grammar? I mean, I'm a Grammar Nazi too, one of the worst, but time and place, ya know? :rolleyes: |
Well trollheart I did answer the guys question ;)
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Don't you actually have to demonstrate encouragement and positivity on a casual level before you can go offering personal advice?
Ironic thread. |
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By all means, feel free to keep reinforcing people and their beliefs. I think I'll do the opposite, and who knows, maybe questioning people (and, in turn, causing them to question themselves) will end up being more helpful in the long run. |
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Boo I wouldn't even explain myself to that bully. He got a lot of nerve trying to skool anybody on how to treat people when he has been disrespectful to a lot of people here. Also, you are one of the nicest members here so I personally think you should not feel that way at all. |
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That's some of the most glorious bull**** I've ever seen. |
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