Spent my first 37 years in Boston. Have been in San Diego since 1997.

You probably just stole some hooker's eggs out of evidence and grew a baby in a test tube. Wouldn't be the first time I heard a story like that.

It's literally not a habitable environment. I'm surprised there aren't mushrooms growing out of the carpet and molluscs in the shower.

that's a one-way ticket to Nopeville.

@Fiddler

My cousin met her husband over the net and now they have a daughter but they still live in different countries. it's not the fear of breaking up that worries me, it's living with an inconvenient relationship like that.

Do you still have a boston accent?

Why?? :(

That's the kind of sh*t douchy guys would say about a single mother with a kid.

For the most part I've shed it but it stills come out now and then. Especially after a visit back there or after having a long phone call with family.

Pizzer and beeah anyone?

Heh nah. We met at a theater, she was an actress. Community theater type deal. Got friendly before I went to Egypt for two months. Came back she had left town to pursue something elsewhere. About a year and a half later, a sheriff's deputy and a CPS dude show up at my doorstop with the munchkin, tells me she can't handle him and has given him up. Haven't seen/heard from/of her since.

Sometimes relationships are inconvenient. Have to figure out your balance. And so true haha. It's all good.

it's just my personal opinion.

I'm sure there are people out there that want children and they're totally cool with being stepmom/stepdad or whatever, but not me. My ex actually had a son, who I actually met on two occasions - just a child, only 2-3, but his mother was struggling financially (she had another son with another guy, and the kid has autism) and the whole situation was just a fuckin' disaster.

Furthermore my core values would be compromised by settling for someone who has a child (as I'm childfree by choice) and contrary to popular belief, opposites do not attract.

Hey, that's cool, kids aren't for everybody! Being a step dad/step mom is a HUGE step either way. Hence why when I'm gettin' friendly with a girl I tend to tell her up front about the munchkin. Rather not get attached if she isn't a kids person haha.

As long as you don't guilt trip her. I got the guilt trip and really had to force myself into the role, made me sick. I couldn't do it.