U ok hun?

no, feeling really stressed out that i might lose a friend over this. I meet her next on saturday and im being told I need to confront her or leave her. It's a ****ing hard decision man and I don't know know what she's gunna say.

This is definitely not a wind up then?

Staying 'friends' isn't going to work from what you're saying and nor is entering a relationship (in my opinion), so I would nip it in the bud now and move on.

I mean you can do what you want, but I'd stop now if it were me.

Hey Vi, talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. You'd be surprised how easy it is to solve situations like this with a serious conversation. Before you cut a good friend oit of your life, be upfront with her and try to work things out.

Ride it til the wheels fall off then deal with the aftermath later. I would be wary of getting into a relationship with her if I was you. If it is so easy for her to cheat on her current relationship. What makes you think she would do that to you down the road?

so are threesomes an option or are we past that

If the bf finds out he has been cheated on this whole timr. I doubt threesome is even an option on the table.

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I think this is a perfect example of how poorly some people understand and treat sexuality. It would be great if the dude could handle an open relationship like that but people tend to be insecure. If you've ever had a lot of female friends you notice they always disappear when they get married because the dude doesn't want her hanging out and I think that's sad and a sad way to handle relationships. You might be the reason for that though.

Regardless, she might just be polyamorous.

How you handle it is up to you. Remember that she's playing with somebody's heart here and that's not something to **** around with. The potential to destroy somebody and you never know how they may react. It's a dangerous game. At the same time her relationship is going to fail because she is lying to him. You'll be cutting ties with a close friend for a doomed relationship. In your heart you know what you want though and I can't tell another person how to act on their heart. One thing for sure though is that the current situation can't continue with out serious consequences.

Could be, you don't know she's not polyamorous.