Cheating...
So like, I have regular sex with my close friend. This has been going on since we were like 3-5 years old. But she has a boyfriend now. She's had this boyfriend for about 8-10 months now, but we've been having sex on the regular in the last few months. So like, she's basically cheating on her boyfriend? She claims she loves him and that it's just sex for us. But it feels wrong considering I've met the guy like a million times. I mean, I wanna hear your opinions. What do you think of this scenario? Should I tell her that I love her? Or would that ruin our friendship and is not worth asking. Should I just keep ****ing her or should I start attempting to start a relationship somehow? I mean, I dunno at this point. I just want a wide range of advice to help me decide what I should do, because I'm lost at the moment. I've asked Mord and he said she was using me and DWV said...well I'm not entirely sure what he said.
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Not "basically". She is straight up cheating on him. Quote:
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****, you guy's are right.
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If you are telling the truth then this is a messy situation. |
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U ok hun?
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Staying 'friends' isn't going to work from what you're saying and nor is entering a relationship (in my opinion), so I would nip it in the bud now and move on. I mean you can do what you want, but I'd stop now if it were me. |
Hey Vi, talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. You'd be surprised how easy it is to solve situations like this with a serious conversation. Before you cut a good friend oit of your life, be upfront with her and try to work things out.
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so are threesomes an option or are we past that
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If the bf finds out he has been cheated on this whole timr. I doubt threesome is even an option on the table.
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sharing is caring
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I think this is a perfect example of how poorly some people understand and treat sexuality. It would be great if the dude could handle an open relationship like that but people tend to be insecure. If you've ever had a lot of female friends you notice they always disappear when they get married because the dude doesn't want her hanging out and I think that's sad and a sad way to handle relationships. You might be the reason for that though.
Regardless, she might just be polyamorous. How you handle it is up to you. Remember that she's playing with somebody's heart here and that's not something to **** around with. The potential to destroy somebody and you never know how they may react. It's a dangerous game. At the same time her relationship is going to fail because she is lying to him. You'll be cutting ties with a close friend for a doomed relationship. In your heart you know what you want though and I can't tell another person how to act on their heart. One thing for sure though is that the current situation can't continue with out serious consequences. |
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You're going to hell for fornication and adultery.
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Yeah tbh there's no saving the friendship, and you're equally guilty in this situation - knowingly ****ing someone with a bf is pretty ****ty. I also agree with elph that this is not a polyam situation, if it were that would have been communicated between all parties. I have a feeling you already know all this though violet and you're just looking for validation/legitimization for continuing ****ing her. And ffs don't tell her you love her unless you really do.
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I'm not going to pretend I've got the answer, but whatever you do, throwing out a lifelong friend seems like the worst course of action.
Maybe you two shouldn't be doing this when she's in a relationship. That's not hard to see. Why not just bring that up with her? Tell her you feel that it's wrong and hear her side of it. Chances are she will agree. It might cause short term tensions between you, but if she's really a good friend, it wont likely kill off your friendship forever. |
Yes because everyone that cheats is poly. Lol
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You don't think that do you Lucem? |
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Knowledge and consent of everyone is the key part.
She might be happy being in a polyamorous relationship but all parties would have to agree to it ahead of time. |
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You're young. If it turns out badly for you, the two of you will probably reconcile by the time you're thirty.
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