Your forum "tone of voice"
 

This is something I've been guilty of plenty of times in the past so I'm not gonna be all holier than thou, but have you ever tried imagining reading some of your posts as if you were speaking to real life people and not just faceless pieces of text?

Wouldn't it be an interesting exercise that, instead of the usual, knee-jerk reaction of uncensored posting that we normally make when "arguing over the internet", we try to apply the same standards of decency, patience and politeness most of us accord to other people in real life?

Does your "forum tone of voice" match your real life one?

Kinda yeah. I'm a misfit on and offline.

I speak to people here the same way I speak to my friends. As in real life I can be a bit controversial, sarcastic and ballbusty and as in real life I genuinely dislike hurting people's feelings and try to be more nice and polite to people who I know couldn't handle the usual me.

I think I'm roughly the same way. I offend people way less in real life since they can hear what tone of voice I'm saying it in. On here, I think I'm taken as being super serious waaaay more than I actually am.

I generally don't like fighting about things, so even when I complain about things, it's not really in any sort of ranty tone. Just calmly making observations. I speak sort of slow-ish real life... Not in any hurry.

I'm equally as critical and hilarious in real life as I am on here. It's not just an interesting exercise, it's what we Americans refer to as "being real".

I'm always WYSIWYG, with the exception being that irl I don't speak in acronyms.

I think most people are fairly toned down in person. Nobody is ever as confrontational in real life as they are on the internet.

Since I read more than I post here these days and my posts are usually short, I think it gives the impression that I’m a more tight-lipped, less outgoing person than I am in real life.

I know that many of you probably think I'm a borderline genius with mounds of knowledge pouring from my mouth do to how I conduct myself here. Nope. I'm fairly uneducated and of average intelligence.

You just made my day. I love self deprecating humor :beer:

https://www.musicbanter.com/media/92...netflix-4.html This is an interesting example of people who don't interact at all how they would in real life. People don't get into shouty matches with half-strangers, if they see they don't see eye to eye with someone on something, they usually walk away. Not on the internet.
It's an interesting phenomenon.

I've been threatened a lot over 2018 on facebook. You know how many of them did anything? 0.

This is a place meant for discussion and that usually means discussing disagreements, which is pretty different from most real life scenarios that are either more casual or business/school oriented. People don't catch the tone and tend to read disagreeing points as more aggressive than they really are, which spurs said shouty matches.

@Lucem: Why are people threatening you a lot on facebook...? :laughing:

Few reasons. Shortest answer is that a lot of people I know are just mentally unstable.

I don't think it's just misreading people's tones, I think it's also the fact that not being face to face with someone, for some reason we are less inclined to think of them as real people, persons with emotions and feelings that can get hurt. That's why normally, in real life, we walk away (also because this type of shouty match usually ends up in a fist fight, whereas there's no threat of that online, you can be as big of a dick as you want with no repercussions, and usually people take advantage of that).

So nothing to do with you then...? ;)

Wouldn't that be more reason NOT to fuck with you?

EDIT: I read that as "a lot of people know that I am mentally unstable" LOL. My bad.

Of course it does but usually the reaction isn't justified.

I'm sure it isn't. It's just the internet, it does things to people...;)

That's definitely at play, but I don't think it's as rampant as you make it out to be.

You got that lowkey only make a joke when its funny posting style versus the reat of us that sling a bunch of **** hoping something sticks.

Jans has got the bants.

I don't know about you but if I'm having an argument with someone in real life it doesn't take long before I don't give a **** about their feelings.

We can have arguments and heated exchanges with people in our lives that we've known for a long time and have an intimate connection with. Normally even in those moments I would never think about stooping so low as to insult them. In this case, we have people who don't know each other intimately going after each other in a way that doesn't seem normal or wouldn't be in person.

Is what I'm getting at...

I can think of many people in my life who are quick to insult in a disagreement. Unfortunately.

You need to move away from those people...asap.

And start hanging out with friendly, well-adjusted people? Get off our forum.

Way ahead of you on that. Well, I still kick it with the ones who have funny insults.

There are no funny insults. Those people are bad for you, listen to me, I know what's good for you.

My split sides suggest otherwise.

Cro **** yourself.

2/10.

Honestly this picture is awesome.

Oh snap, bottom right of that pic you can see my Azumanga Daioh box set. That's the best show.

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I'm more or less the same in real life. (though quieter and more aloof till I'm fully comfortable around them, like any normal human) I am overly accommodating and nice and polite to strangers-- a side effect, I think, of overcompensating for the social anxiety I used to have-- which often leads to them assuming they should immediately tell me their life story and talk about mystery rashes on their bodies, but I'm okay with this for the most part. Can be draining though. I've definitely been nicer than I should have to those who did not deserve it in the past. Nowadays I'm far more stoic and detached (especially after one of my former supervisors developed an inappropriate fixation with me), but I'm never impolite unless they're clearly awful.

And in terms of how I act online, honestly it just depends on the forum/people and the atmosphere. I generally like the atmosphere of MB (the fact that I'm inexplicably very fond of a lot of you gremlins probably helps)-- I just ignore the posters and threads that I know will inevitably annoy me and remain unbothered.

I think my tone is often misinterpreted as being a lot more serious than I actually am. As my musicbanter presence shows, I'm brief, direct, and on very rare occasions funny. The only time I really get talking is one on one when no one is around to hear and with someone who can hold a conversation without interrupting me constantly.

Well, irl my "tone of voice" sounds horrible like Jon Cryer's, but since this is the internet you don't get to hear my voice you can pretend it's smooth like Bob Ross' voice - you know the guy that painted trees and clouds and other landscape motifs.

The first result I found on Jon Cryer is him speaking on gay rumors. What do you have to say about the gay rumors?