The Relationship Thread

Originally Posted by WWWP

This girl I've been seeing was in a similar situation to me when we met - we had both ended long-term relationships at the beginning of quarantine and decided to continue living with our exes through the end of the year for the benefit of all involved. Naturally the subject of our exes comes up a lot, and jesus christ I know my relationship was ****ed up in a lot of ways, but ffs hers stresses me out to even imagine. The things she put up with and participated in are making me start to think of her differently. Logically I know that's not fair, and I know that I will never understand the full scope of their dynamic, and so it's fruitless to even analyze. But like it's a little concerning that her standards are so low. I think ultimately it all comes back to my own insecurities, like "how could she want a relationship with THAT but not want a relationship with me?" [I'm actively avoiding monogamy but it's like some lizard brain ****]

didn't you suggest she was still in love with the ex or something

Tbh I smell trouble there but that's just me

That's why I hate monogamy. If you stop caring who else your partner ****s with then you can view it as either they choose to keep seeing you or they don't. Then you truly don't have to worry about the ex at all.

The last sentence in your post says it all. You are looking for validation through your partner. That's monogamy 101 bruh.