Proposal for a minumum age limit

Sparky · 06-08-2012, 03:20 PM

trollheart you seem a little too over-protective of yourself eh

we all have skeletons in our closet

Trollheart · 06-08-2012, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Sparky

trollheart you seem a little too over-protective of yourself eh

we all have skeletons in our closet

No, I just think that if we allow "underage" people to join and participate, then perhaps we should be a lot more careful what we say, as a jokey, off-the-cuff remark, particularly a sexual one (or one that could be interpreted as such) could end up getting us into trouble.

If you're in a room with a lot of kids you know to watch your language and so forth. If you're in a forum where you know there may be kids (or at least, people under say 16) you should be able to conduct yourself accordingly. A chance remark, taken up the wrong way, and mentioned to someone underage, could have for instance their parents getting at you online.

It's a valid point, and a real problem. If there was some way to incorporate birthdate or age in the profile, that would be a way of at least defending ourselves. Saying "I didn't know he/she was only 12/13/14" won't really wash: you'll be asked does your forum allow these ages, and if yes, then why aren't you more mindful that there are young, impressionable minds in your midst? I can see it happening...

BTW I had a spring clean last month and threw out all my skeletons. Well, nearly them all: couldn't let old "Repressed Sexual Urges" (or as I call him, Boney) go!

GuitarBizarre · 06-08-2012, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

No, I just think that if we allow "underage" people to join and participate, then perhaps we should be a lot more careful what we say, as a jokey, off-the-cuff remark, particularly a sexual one (or one that could be interpreted as such) could end up getting us into trouble.

If you're in a room with a lot of kids you know to watch your language and so forth. If you're in a forum where you know there may be kids (or at least, people under say 16) you should be able to conduct yourself accordingly. A chance remark, taken up the wrong way, and mentioned to someone underage, could have for instance their parents getting at you online.

It's a valid point, and a real problem. If there was some way to incorporate birthdate or age in the profile, that would be a way of at least defending ourselves. Saying "I didn't know he/she was only 12/13/14" won't really wash: you'll be asked does your forum allow these ages, and if yes, then why aren't you more mindful that there are young, impressionable minds in your midst? I can see it happening...

BTW I had a spring clean last month and threw out all my skeletons. Well, nearly them all: couldn't let old "Repressed Sexual Urges" (or as I call him, Boney) go!

That reminded me of the Red Dwarf episode where they discover the planet that changes itself according to the persons mind, and it has gravestones for all of rimmers positive personality traits, and when they died.

Unfortunately, can't find a pic, so here, have this heartbreaking reminder of what once was:

Mojo · 06-09-2012, 05:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

To hell with an age limit, I want an IQ limit.

^^ Goodbye then urban. It was nice knowing ya.

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

If you're in a room with a lot of kids you know to watch your language and so forth. If you're in a forum where you know there may be kids (or at least, people under say 16) you should be able to conduct yourself accordingly. A chance remark, taken up the wrong way, and mentioned to someone underage, could have for instance their parents getting at you online.

Where kids are present, I change my behaviour, yes, To an extent.

For example if I'm smoking, waiting for a bus or whatever, and a parent then stands next to me with their child, I will move away. The parent made the choice to stand next to me but it's still not necessary and so I decide to move away.

However, and this is the main one that comes to mind, where there are kids in the pub with their parents I don't change my behaviour. I suppose that I do in some ways, it's unavoidable, but I have had someone ask me to watch my language before and my response was not completely mature, to say the least. If you don't want your child subjected to bad language and adult conversation, don't bring them to the pub where it's almost an absolute certainty that people will be drinking, swearing and having conversations that are not exactly child-friendly.

My point, basically, is that where we are aware that we do have younger members here it is worth bearing in mind. there are still gonna be comments directed towards these members that, because of their age, could be deemed inappropriate and so it's probably best to be aware. However, generally speaking, it isnt our responsibility, nor is it all possible for it to be, to change our attitudes, content and behaviours because there could potentially be young members here. If parents dont want their children to be using certain community, networking or forum sites like this one then they are responsible for monitoring what they are doing on the net. Plus, lets face it, the age-related security of porn sites is no different to this one. At least here you have to register an account to use it. There are far bigger potential issues for parents and their childs internet usage than Music Banter.

Gucci Little Piggy · 06-09-2012, 05:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

If you're in a room with a lot of kids you know to watch your language and so forth. If you're in a forum where you know there may be kids (or at least, people under say 16) you should be able to conduct yourself accordingly. A chance remark, taken up the wrong way, and mentioned to someone underage, could have for instance their parents getting at you online.

Maybe it's because you're from the dinosaurs' age (=P), but honestly, kids know pretty much the whole urban dictionary when they're 12+ nowadays so it's not a big deal. And anything below 12 years old probably shouldn't be on the internet anyways (I think that IS too young in general, honestly), so yeah, it's not big deal. =P

Paedantic Basterd · 06-08-2012, 04:14 PM

There is absolutely no way to enforce this policy, and if it were made known, people would simply lie to get around it. I guarantee kids who wind up on 18+ sites don't simply shrug and leave the page.

I'm inclined to agree with Vanilla; it's a parent's job to monitor their child's internet useage, and to know who they're speaking to.

As for me, my inbox is as of yet testicle-free, and hopefully remains that way. Don't the rest of you get any ideas.

**Janszoon** · 06-08-2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

As for me, my inbox is as of yet testicle-free, and hopefully remains that way. Don't the rest of you get any ideas.

I have no idea what this means but it's probably the funniest thing I've read all week.

GuitarBizarre · 06-08-2012, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

As for me, my inbox is as of yet testicle-free, and hopefully remains that way. Don't the rest of you get any ideas.

Sigging this.

Salami · 06-08-2012, 04:48 PM

Does anyone think there's anything my seventeen year old eyed ought to be protected from on this site? The NSFW threads have "NSFW!!!" written prominently on them. I'm sure there's no way we should actually move towards Jayshreddz' "Family Friendly" music banter idea either.

Paedantic Basterd · 06-08-2012, 04:55 PM

It would be impossible to monitor our behaviour in that sense, as anyone can view the site without signing up to it.

06-08-2012, 03:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sparky not really Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 5,223	trollheart you seem a little too over-protective of yourself eh we all have skeletons in our closet

06-08-2012, 04:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	There is absolutely no way to enforce this policy, and if it were made known, people would simply lie to get around it. I guarantee kids who wind up on 18+ sites don't simply shrug and leave the page. I'm inclined to agree with Vanilla; it's a parent's job to monitor their child's internet useage, and to know who they're speaking to. As for me, my inbox is as of yet testicle-free, and hopefully remains that way. Don't the rest of you get any ideas.

06-08-2012, 04:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
Salami Get in ma belly Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 1,385	Does anyone think there's anything my seventeen year old eyed ought to be protected from on this site? The NSFW threads have "NSFW!!!" written prominently on them. I'm sure there's no way we should actually move towards Jayshreddz' "Family Friendly" music banter idea either.

06-08-2012, 04:55 PM	#10 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	It would be impossible to monitor our behaviour in that sense, as anyone can view the site without signing up to it.