Dirty

This comes off as incredibly douchey to me. Basically telling someone to not have children because their parents or grandparents beat them. The compliment at the beginning masks it a little bit, but you are really just telling him there is like a 1% chance he won't beat his kids. Dickhead comment in my opinion.


I will spank my children light-medium, which is basically enough for it to just sting a little bit and get the point across. I got spanked, never beaten or hit with anything else, and it was very effective. I feel like the best way to teach a kid morals is by punishment and I don't think physical punishment is bad at all. I think it can definitely be excessive, and I think the hot sauce example is definitely excessive. But light spanking I have absolutely no problem with and I don't see it as abusive or anything like that.

s_k

Douchey as it may be, I'm really worried this will indeed happen.
I'm not saying this to hurt DJChameleon in any way. It's just my opinion on being physically abused and having kids. I'm not picking on him or something.
I'd just advise him not to have kids as chances are pretty big he will hit (abuse) them too.
I definitely hope I'm wrong. But as I said, you may want to google this. It's a well known thing.

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s_k

I should probably point out I never got punished and I was a pretty impossible kid from age 4 to... 14 or so. So it's not like my parents had an easy son.
Still I think I behave pretty well now. It's just not neccesary to physically discipline anyone in my opinion. It's... well... weak.

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Urban Hat€monger ?

And I did get punished, and I was a good kid.

So there you go.

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s_k

I was just talking about moral here .
And I pointed out I wasn't a good kid to show that physical punishment isn't needed to turn an impossible kid into a good kid. I'm pretty much the best example you can get for that.

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Dirty

I know you aren't trying to hurt him or picking on him. Not that he would listen to anyone on MB on whether or not to have children, but I'd advise dj to do the opposite of what you suggest. I think the people who were abused as children and abuse their own kids are generally people who aren't really smart in terms or realizing the wrongness of the abuse and analyzing better ways to handle things. It's people who don't know anything else, they don't know better. I think dj does know right from wrong and if he had kids could make a solid decision on whether or not to abuse them. I think you are WAY over exaggerating things.

RVCA

*Personal anecdote here*

therefore

*Generalized conclusion here*

djchameleon

yeah that's why I said sorry for bringing up the dead horse but I really wanted to discuss the situation about Hot Saucing and what people thought about it.

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s_k

Allright. DJ has both our opinions, it's up to him in the end .
I learned (I actually studied children's psycology as a part of my logopedic study) and experienced things don't work like you say, you obviously experienced the opposite.
I can't agree with you because I know better, you can't agree with me because you know better .

Eitherway, I've made my point.
I just want to say that DJChameleon was just a reason to talk about this, as a part of this thread. I realise it may look like I was trying to change the way he leads his life and maybe that's a wrong of me. I'm sorry .
Everyone should do what they think is the right thing. I'm just scared of a lot of things going wrong in this world. Pessimistic? Yeah. Hugely.

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Dirty

I certainly disagree with your views on spanking and physical discipline. I feel like you live in a bit of a happy-fairytale land sometimes. You can't always sit down with a 4 year old and explain something and have them listen. After the 10th "hunnie, don't do that again ok? That's bad" something has to change in the parents approach.

But basically flat out telling someone: "You were abused as a kid. You shouldn't have kids. You will almost certainly physically abuse them and be a bad parent...but good luck!!" is just being a shithead.