Scarlett O'Hara

Anal bead's are okay, it teaches kids to explore their sexuality. I think from at least 5 years old is a good age to start. Really gets them set up for larger anal beads during adulthood. The bonus is - they don't need to wear condoms and can do it with friends!

Anal bead slumber parties are so going to be the new trend.

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The Batlord

My mother only spanked me very rarely. But I did get slapped ever now and again. Not on a regular basis, but sometimes I would just piss her off, and I would just see her face contort in anger and she would just lash out and slap me across the face. It was never a "normal" thing, but I still remember it very clearly and the feeling of shame and fear.

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Ska Lagos Jew Sun Ra

I would never EVER condone abuse a child that way... that is, unless you chop it up, and burn the remains. It's just stupid to leave evidence lying around like that... Especially the talking kind that doesn't go away. That's just being sloppy, and reckless.

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alli-oop

At first I thoughtit said Physical Disciples Against Children. I though hmm, Matthew, John, James, Steve the rusher, Eric the Head Smasher....

Dirty

This discussion died out a while back, but I've recently been taking courses that deal with forms of abuse, rap, crime in general, and deviance.

Relating to earlier in the discussion, where people thought abused children were very likely to abuse their own children eventually, I want to say that although those who are abused ARE more likely than non-abused people to abuse their own kids, but the majority of abused children DO NOT grow up to abuse their own children

The Virgin

it's totally unacceptable. a big no, no.
it's inhumane and it's totally inclined to violence which children shouldn't be exposed by the way.

Mr November

Certain kinds of physical punishment really isn't as big a deal as people make it out to be (like spanking or forcefully moving a child), but there are probably psychological effects that could spawn from even the most soft of "violent" acts.

But it's ridiculous to tell a parent that spanking their kid makes them a bad parent. It doesn't make them a good parent, but it isn't a write off.

I don't know enough to make a judgement.

Peace Frog

Only to an extent. A spanking never killed anyone, but parents that beat their children should be imprisoned.

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Liljagare

Isn't spanking though beating your children albeit a more acceptable name ? And the spank itself may not have killed anyone but it could have been the beginning of something more violent. To me, I cannot condone spanking. I mean, honestly, hitting a child to make them listen to you? And then later on when they become older and have children, perhaps they too will hit their children because to them it is an acceptable . I just cannot accept this (though, I do live in Sweden and here it is not acceptable to hit a child, in fact we outlawed spanking/slapping/hitting children over 30 years ago. Which makes sense. There are laws the world over that make it illegal to for an adult to hit another adult. So shouldn't these rights extend to children? And shouldn't those nations that signed the UN's rights of a child also enforce anti-spanking? Although the US and Somalia are still currently the only countries who have not ratified it .). Although it gives them something in commen.

I realise that there are many on this thread that are proponents of spanking and accept it as an acceptable form of punishment. Yes spanking may teach a lesson, but it is a short-term solution at best, and also teaches children that violence is an acceptable solution and perhaps encourages more violence in society. To me, even contemplating hitting a child (and I work with them all day) honestly sickens me. And what happens when one spank doesn't work? Do you increase the number of spanks? Brag about the effects of spanking to your friends when they feel that their kids are "out of control" or don't listen? Where are the "Hitting your kids works!" t-shirts? I mean, if you support spanking why not show the world rather than keeping it in the home? Why not let teachers spank kids as well (as they say, there should be a commen thread between the home and the school..)?

I cannot see how speaking does not equal beating and does not only incorporate physical violence but also psychological violence. There are many positive, more effective long term solutions that do not incorporate violence.

I do apologize for the slight sarcasm in my text but..come-on..what did that little kid do that makes them deserve a smack?

Guybrush

The daughter of american judge William Adams published a video showing her parents disciplining her when she was 16. The video is awful to watch (you've been warned), but hopefully it will spark some discussion in the US (where millions can probably relate to the experience) and change some opinions in those on the fence or for corporal punishment.

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