ribbons

Yes. If he were a good person, and we loved each other and were compatible, it wouldn't matter to me at all.

VEGANGELICA

I agree with you, ribbons. If a person is missing an arm or leg, that wouldn't make a difference. When someone needs a lot of care, though, that does become an issue in a relationship, because I feel relationships work best when both parties feel they can contribute equally. It probably takes some working out of issues to prevent resentments from building up if the person, say, lacks *all* limbs and needs extensive daily care. It is probably a good idea for the couple to hire some caregivers so that sole caregiving responsibility does not fall on one partner.

Whether a person's mind is clear or not would be an issue for me, though. I think I'd have some worries about being in a serious relationship again with someone who has a difficult mental illness, because in my experience when a partner has a mental disorder, it becomes like a third person in the relationship, making it hard to communicate clearly with the person you love. I'm afraid I'd feel lonely...as if the person isn't really there with me. Someone losing an arm or leg seems trivial to me compared with someone losing a grip on reality.

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Sljslj

I can see why people would not. I mentioned it to my friend sitting next to me, who is an addmitedly insecure individual, and he said he would be embarassed for both her and himself to be seen with her. That makes sense, but I don't feel that way. I honestly don't care what people think of me. If we clicked on a personal level and I was physically attracted to her, then yes, beyond the shadow of a doubt, I'd try to get with her.

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CanwllCorfe

I would! I'd only feel uncomfortable with her if she felt uncomfortable with herself.. which pretty much goes for any girl regardless of if she's an amputee or not.

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Alfred

If it was just one limb I don't see why not. Any more and it would be an issue.

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Freebase Dali

Why is no one saying it? Amputated penis. Now what?

Wait... why am I asking you???

Harry

I don't understand why someone wouldn't.... missing limb isn't some sort of hideous disfigurement, i'm a bit confused on why this is a dilemma at all

Sansa Stark

I was actually just thinking "as long as it ain't his dick that's amputated..."

Sljslj

Dom and glastonelle, not to put either of you on the spot, but why did you select "No"?
I'd hate to use the "s" word (you know the one I mean), but it seems that would be the only reason for not wanting to be with someone because of a missing limb.
Please, if you don't mind, explain.

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VEGANGELICA

Do you mean, why ask her because "Oh yeah, she'd probably be the one who amputated the dude's penis in the first place!"

No no. I wouldn't do THAT. Do not fear for your little friends, men!

I think if someone wanted children, she probably would prefer for the man to retain his penis. However, even if he were missing his P, he would probably still have his testicles, so in vitro fertilization would be an option. And you don't need a P to get to the big O, anyway. O comes beFORE P.

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