Originally Posted by tore

To me, yeah - it does. I've also been in the situation where I hold someone's door up/is willing to carry stuff and get told that they're not handicapped and can do it themselves. Although these comments may have been a bit confrontational, I get them and I wouldn't call them angry. I doubt the girl you're talking about was really angry too, it just makes your point look better if you make it seem like she was.

Of course she gets angry when you let the door hit her. That's because you did something which is not morally okay. Why are you being chivalrous in the first place? Reading your post, I get the feeling it's only a vague attempt at masking the unchivalrous person you are underneath. When a little thing challenges your interest in behaving right, you do the opposite. Chivalry on you is like a nice coat of paint on an ugly car, although probably less permanent.