The Negative Effects of Porn (May be NSFW)

duga · 02-09-2012, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

If it's done in the right way.

There's porn out there that neither objectifies or humiliates either sex that's designed to be enjoyed by both sexes. It's probably in the minority but it is there.

Yeah, exactly. If I start watching something and it starts to involve really aggressive slapping or choking, my mood is immediately killed. I really can't get into that ****. I like watching porn where it appears both sides are satisfied.

Salami · 02-09-2012, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by duga

Yeah, exactly. If I start watching something and it starts to involve really aggressive slapping or choking, my mood is immediately killed. I really can't get into that ****. I like watching porn where it appears both sides are satisfied.

Have you ever tried watching something like that with your partner? Would you be comfortable doing something like that?

duga · 02-09-2012, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Mighty Salami

Have you ever tried watching something like that with your partner? Would you be comfortable doing something like that?

I don't mind slapping an ass here and there, but choking just doesn't appeal to me in the slightest.

If my partner was into it and wanted to watch it, I guess I would...but I don't think I would enjoy it. I definitely still wouldn't DO it.

Salami · 02-09-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by duga

I don't mind slapping an ass here and there, but choking just doesn't appeal to me in the slightest.

If my partner was into it and wanted to watch it, I guess I would...but I don't think I would enjoy it. I definitely still wouldn't DO it.

Awww no, I don't mean the weird violent stuff: I am referring to when you talked about porn where both people seemed to be happy and enjoying the experience. If that's the case, watching it with your partner ought to be OK, surely, and shouldn't really be awkward or discomforting?

Guybrush · 02-09-2012, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Mighty Salami

If that's the case, watching it with your partner ought to be OK, surely, and shouldn't really be awkward or discomforting?

Indeed

Salami · 02-09-2012, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by tore

Indeed

I suppose my personal opinion is that relationships are personal and important, and I feel a lot of porn is cheapening that and making something which ought to be private and the most special part of a relationship public and very impersonal. We never know anything about the people we see in porn, which for me is a bit uncomfortable: I never like the distinction between loving someone and wanting to have sex with someone.

This is again, merely my explanation of why I'm uncomfortable with it, and the test is to watch it with someone else. Don't think I'm trying to tell you that you're evil or anything, I accept that the OP was right about the uncertainty of it all.

14232949 · 02-09-2012, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by dirt mcgirt

yo son, if you jerk off to porno flick bitches a least you dont get burned wif gonnorhea (twice) an have some kracka doc stick a ****in qtip down your dick an have to take 2 weeks of cipro just to get rid of that ****, goddamit.

This is exactly what I was going to say!

Porn's great isn't it?

Guybrush · 02-09-2012, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Mighty Salami

I suppose my personal opinion is that relationships are personal and important, and I feel a lot of porn is cheapening that and making something which ought to be private and the most special part of a relationship public and very impersonal. We never know anything about the people we see in porn, which for me is a bit uncomfortable: I never like the distinction between loving someone and wanting to have sex with someone.

This is again, merely my explanation of why I'm uncomfortable with it, and the test is to watch it with someone else. Don't think I'm trying to tell you that you're evil or anything, I accept that the OP was right about the uncertainty of it all.

When you're in a long term relationship/marriage with someone, you don't necessarily want to make love every time you have sex. To put it in crude terms, sometimes you both just want to fuck. To keep it interesting, I think people should have a relaxed relationship with sex and an open mind - as long as it's consensual and doesn't flirt with outright illegal stuff. As such, I think enjoying porn together can be a good way to mix/spice things up in a relationship. If both go into it willingly with an open mind and can laugh about it, then I don't see why it should hurt a couple.

~~Farfisa~~ · 02-09-2012, 12:11 PM

I saw a mention of animated porn with minors in this thread. It's a-ok in Japan, but people who have "lolicon" type stuff in the US can actually be prosecuted and pretty much put in the slammer. Did I mention we are talking about drawings?

ps. my brain feels like pudding, so sorry if this isn't up to par MB's standards for grammar.

duga · 02-09-2012, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Mighty Salami

I suppose my personal opinion is that relationships are personal and important, and I feel a lot of porn is cheapening that and making something which ought to be private and the most special part of a relationship public and very impersonal. We never know anything about the people we see in porn, which for me is a bit uncomfortable: I never like the distinction between loving someone and wanting to have sex with someone.

This is again, merely my explanation of why I'm uncomfortable with it, and the test is to watch it with someone else. Don't think I'm trying to tell you that you're evil or anything, I accept that the OP was right about the uncertainty of it all.

To each his or her own. I look for a certain degree of openness in regards to sex in my partner, so it usually goes to say that we both can enjoy porn. To me, it just serves to get us both in the mood. Or to try new things. It's like when you are watching a movie with a sex scene or even just really attractive actors and you both get turned on. Porn is just the next level.

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Originally Posted by tore

When you're in a long term relationship/marriage with someone, you don't necessarily want to make love every time you have sex. To put it in crude terms, sometimes you both just want to fuck. To keep it interesting, I think people should have a relaxed relationship with sex and an open mind - as long as it's consensual and doesn't flirt with outright illegal stuff. As such, I think enjoying porn together can be a good way to mix/spice things up in a relationship. If both go into it willingly with an open mind and can laugh about it, then I don't see why it should hurt a couple.

This.

02-09-2012, 12:11 PM	#39 (permalink)
~~Farfisa~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,773	I saw a mention of animated porn with minors in this thread. It's a-ok in Japan, but people who have "lolicon" type stuff in the US can actually be prosecuted and pretty much put in the slammer. Did I mention we are talking about drawings? ps. my brain feels like pudding, so sorry if this isn't up to par MB's standards for grammar.