a long life (no thanks)

DwnWthVwls · 07-30-2018, 09:05 PM

And you think thats somehow better than if she was 17? I dont understand the arbitrary value youre placing on age. Id expect an answer like when my last one is successful and out on her own. Knowing you did your job as a parent seems like the goal you should be striving for versus "well shes 18 now so i can die comfortably".

Zhanteimi · 07-30-2018, 09:57 PM

The arbitrary value is the one assigned by the government. If I die after all my children are legally adults, then they won't have to go into foster care or whatever. I'd rather live longer, of course, but if not, I hope I live at least until the youngest is 18.

Key · 07-30-2018, 10:00 PM

If I were to have lost a parent and I'm sensitive to the fact that you did dwv so this comes from solely personal opinion and I'm choosing my words carefully, but I think I'd feel worse and be worse off if I lost a parent at a younger age and maybe not as worse when I'm 18-19 because I've learned to deal with it at that age. Though again I'm sensitive to the fact that I know it's not just black and white like that so don't take this as a jab at either of you.

DwnWthVwls · 07-31-2018, 06:01 AM

Its not a sensitive subject for me Kiiii. it just seems strange to me he way he looks at it. No age is ever going to prepare you for the death of your parents so picking an age to die at which you can be satisfied based on the age of your children rather than based on where they are in their own life seems bizarre to me.

Like i said if i was a parent the youngest i would be "comfortable" dying is whenever i felt like my kids were less dependent on me and i did everything i could do for them so that trey are successful and happy.

Key · 07-31-2018, 08:12 AM

But you're assuming he's just going to die when his youngest is 18. He's saying IF. I think that's the part you're missing. It's not like he's waiting until they're 18 to die. That silly.

The Batlord · 07-31-2018, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Its not a sensitive subject for me Kiiii. it just seems strange to me he way he looks at it. No age is ever going to prepare you for the death of your parents so picking an age to die at which you can be satisfied based on the age of your children rather than based on where they are in their own life seems bizarre to me.

Like i said if i was a parent the youngest i would be "comfortable" dying is whenever i felt like my kids were less dependent on me and i did everything i could do for them so that trey are successful and happy.

I think you're taking his casual throwing out of a number too seriously.

DwnWthVwls · 07-31-2018, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I think you're taking his casual throwing out of a number too seriously.

I think I'm being unclear or you guys are dense.

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Originally Posted by Kiiii

But you're assuming he's just going to die when his youngest is 18. He's saying IF. I think that's the part you're missing. It's not like he's waiting until they're 18 to die. That silly.

Yes, I'm aware of that.

Key · 07-31-2018, 10:39 AM

Then that's my point. Your point doesn't make much sense because you're assuming he wants to die at that age. That's not what he's saying. I picked up from his posts that worst case scenario, at least his youngest child is 18. Less worry I'm sure. That's literally all that was being said.

DwnWthVwls · 07-31-2018, 10:41 AM

I'm not assuming that, lay off the weed.

Key · 07-31-2018, 10:42 AM

Then I'm not sure what you're arguing. I'm totally fine mentally.

07-30-2018, 09:57 PM	#122 (permalink)
Zhanteimi Mord Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: Tokyo Posts: 4,874	The arbitrary value is the one assigned by the government. If I die after all my children are legally adults, then they won't have to go into foster care or whatever. I'd rather live longer, of course, but if not, I hope I live at least until the youngest is 18. __________________ Zhanteimi LetsTalkMusic

07-30-2018, 10:00 PM	#123 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	If I were to have lost a parent and I'm sensitive to the fact that you did dwv so this comes from solely personal opinion and I'm choosing my words carefully, but I think I'd feel worse and be worse off if I lost a parent at a younger age and maybe not as worse when I'm 18-19 because I've learned to deal with it at that age. Though again I'm sensitive to the fact that I know it's not just black and white like that so don't take this as a jab at either of you.

07-31-2018, 08:12 AM	#125 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	But you're assuming he's just going to die when his youngest is 18. He's saying IF. I think that's the part you're missing. It's not like he's waiting until they're 18 to die. That silly.

07-31-2018, 10:39 AM	#128 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	Then that's my point. Your point doesn't make much sense because you're assuming he wants to die at that age. That's not what he's saying. I picked up from his posts that worst case scenario, at least his youngest child is 18. Less worry I'm sure. That's literally all that was being said.

07-31-2018, 10:42 AM	#130 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	Then I'm not sure what you're arguing. I'm totally fine mentally.