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Blarobbarg · 10-31-2012, 03:08 PM

You're not socially retarded, you're socially inexperienced. There is a difference.

Just be yourself, do your best, take chances, and don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. And remember, most other people are just as scared as you, they're just more adept at hiding it.

UnderdogCrash · 10-31-2012, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Blarobbarg

You're not socially retarded, you're socially inexperienced. There is a difference.

Meh they sound the same to me. I just don't really like socializing I mean they don't understand the music or they way I dress. I get weird looks every time I go into the class. I don't mind being a loner some days.

VEGANGELICA · 10-31-2012, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by UnderdogCrash

Meh they sound the same to me. I just don't really like socializing I mean they don't understand the music or they way I dress. I get weird looks every time I go into the class. I don't mind being a loner some days.

I think that being an outsider is especially hard when one is 16, because most people that age want to "belong." However, sometimes the people around you just aren't the type who make good friends.

For example, people who care about how you dress and who give you weird looks probably aren't capable of being good friends at this time in their lives. In my experience (recalling high school), many people aren't afraid...they're mean. I always avoided those.

I was thinking today about your situation, and I agree with Blarobbarg about the importance of being yourself. I also thought about how, when friendships develop, they may develop almost without your realizing it. Among hundreds of people you meet, there may be one or two where you'll find that you understand the way each other thinks and you'll both feel happier and less stressed after being together than you did before you see them.

So which of the music that you like isn't understood by the people in your classes? I suspect you'll find people here...such as Kelli!...who like many of the same groups you do, and they'll understand why you like them. That's the benefit of the Internet.

UnderdogCrash · 11-01-2012, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

I was thinking today about your situation, and I agree with Blarobbarg about the importance of being yourself. I also thought about how, when friendships develop, they may develop almost without your realizing it. Among hundreds of people you meet, there may be one or two where you'll find that you understand the way each other thinks and you'll both feel happier and less stressed after being together than you did before you see them.

Thank you. I'm too nervous to be myself though. When I'm around family I'm crazy but as soon as I'm around public I'm shy. I used to along well with my sister but then she's got a boyfriend now (who lives in Manchester) which is almost 400 miles away. It's all boy boy boy now and it is really making me feel lonely.

I tried telling her but she's like "Yeah after I've sent this message" then I'm waiting an hour or more. So I am 100% a loner right now.

Kristina85 · 11-03-2012, 12:55 PM

Hi, I'm Kristina from Croatia. I came to your Forum because I need one information, but first I need to gather the 15 posts so I can share link.

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