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UnderdogCrash · 10-31-2012, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Blarobbarg

You're not socially retarded, you're socially inexperienced. There is a difference.

Meh they sound the same to me. I just don't really like socializing I mean they don't understand the music or they way I dress. I get weird looks every time I go into the class. I don't mind being a loner some days.

VEGANGELICA · 10-31-2012, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by UnderdogCrash

Meh they sound the same to me. I just don't really like socializing I mean they don't understand the music or they way I dress. I get weird looks every time I go into the class. I don't mind being a loner some days.

I think that being an outsider is especially hard when one is 16, because most people that age want to "belong." However, sometimes the people around you just aren't the type who make good friends.

For example, people who care about how you dress and who give you weird looks probably aren't capable of being good friends at this time in their lives. In my experience (recalling high school), many people aren't afraid...they're mean. I always avoided those.

I was thinking today about your situation, and I agree with Blarobbarg about the importance of being yourself. I also thought about how, when friendships develop, they may develop almost without your realizing it. Among hundreds of people you meet, there may be one or two where you'll find that you understand the way each other thinks and you'll both feel happier and less stressed after being together than you did before you see them.

So which of the music that you like isn't understood by the people in your classes? I suspect you'll find people here...such as Kelli!...who like many of the same groups you do, and they'll understand why you like them. That's the benefit of the Internet.

UnderdogCrash · 11-01-2012, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

I was thinking today about your situation, and I agree with Blarobbarg about the importance of being yourself. I also thought about how, when friendships develop, they may develop almost without your realizing it. Among hundreds of people you meet, there may be one or two where you'll find that you understand the way each other thinks and you'll both feel happier and less stressed after being together than you did before you see them.

Thank you. I'm too nervous to be myself though. When I'm around family I'm crazy but as soon as I'm around public I'm shy. I used to along well with my sister but then she's got a boyfriend now (who lives in Manchester) which is almost 400 miles away. It's all boy boy boy now and it is really making me feel lonely.

I tried telling her but she's like "Yeah after I've sent this message" then I'm waiting an hour or more. So I am 100% a loner right now.

Bokonon · 11-01-2012, 02:16 PM

I think a bit of lonliness goes with being a true fan of music especially if you live in places where your tastes and favourite genres are not well known.
Anyway, welcome. I'm new here myself.

Trollheart · 11-01-2012, 03:05 PM

I've been pretty much a loner all my life too. In school I had a few (two or three) very close friends and outside of that it was an "us against them" situation --- not that we wanted it that way, but when you stand apart from the mainstream (not into football, pop, gross humour, drinking etc) you tend to get ostracised and compartmentalised. After leaving school and getting a job I made some friends, but none I'd see outside of work. I had one or two --- literally --- good friends I would see but as time went on these drifted away, due to various circumstances.

When I took redunancy from work in 2009 to look after my sick sister, I had at that point no friends outside of work (though I keep in touch with one) and so I became basically a loner, again. But I have made friends through MB and though it may seem sad to say that your only friends are online, there have been times when the support of these guys has seen me through tough times. It's hard to be on your own, the moreso when you're caring for someone and your family has generally lost interest in the situation, casting you adrift, so the friends I've made here are as valuable as just about any I had in the "real world", some more so.

Of course, I can't exactly go for a pint with any of them or watch a movie, or go to dinner or to a match, or the other things you do with friends, but even so, a lot of them I would regard as true friends.

UnderdogCrash · 11-03-2012, 10:36 AM

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply and try to show that I'm not the only loner (obviously) thank you again.

Kristina85 · 11-03-2012, 12:55 PM

Hi, I'm Kristina from Croatia. I came to your Forum because I need one information, but first I need to gather the 15 posts so I can share link.

11-01-2012, 03:05 PM	#15 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,970	I've been pretty much a loner all my life too. In school I had a few (two or three) very close friends and outside of that it was an "us against them" situation --- not that we wanted it that way, but when you stand apart from the mainstream (not into football, pop, gross humour, drinking etc) you tend to get ostracised and compartmentalised. After leaving school and getting a job I made some friends, but none I'd see outside of work. I had one or two --- literally --- good friends I would see but as time went on these drifted away, due to various circumstances. When I took redunancy from work in 2009 to look after my sick sister, I had at that point no friends outside of work (though I keep in touch with one) and so I became basically a loner, again. But I have made friends through MB and though it may seem sad to say that your only friends are online, there have been times when the support of these guys has seen me through tough times. It's hard to be on your own, the moreso when you're caring for someone and your family has generally lost interest in the situation, casting you adrift, so the friends I've made here are as valuable as just about any I had in the "real world", some more so. Of course, I can't exactly go for a pint with any of them or watch a movie, or go to dinner or to a match, or the other things you do with friends, but even so, a lot of them I would regard as true friends. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

11-03-2012, 10:36 AM	#16 (permalink)
UnderdogCrash Groupie Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Lowestoft, United Kingdom Posts: 5	Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply and try to show that I'm not the only loner (obviously) thank you again. __________________ Down under the night sky I lay in wait. Praying to whoever will listen to me...

11-01-2012, 02:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
Bokonon Groupie Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 6	I think a bit of lonliness goes with being a true fan of music especially if you live in places where your tastes and favourite genres are not well known. Anyway, welcome. I'm new here myself.

11-03-2012, 12:55 PM	#17 (permalink)
Kristina85 Groupie Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: CROATIA (Primorsko-goranska županija) Posts: 17	Hi, I'm Kristina from Croatia. I came to your Forum because I need one information, but first I need to gather the 15 posts so I can share link.