I'm not overly gregarious (unless I'm blazing drunk), but people seem to like something about my demeanour. Plus I tend to remember details about people which seems to work as a kind of accidental flattery because they think I've been paying them extra attention.

Having 6 close friends means you're gregarious, just the amount of time you have to spend to maintain those friendships means you like spending time with people. People like me too, but they give up on me after the gazzilionth time of asking me to go out or for a cup of coffe.

You should go for the coffee. Coffee is great!

Coffee is great, but after every such date, I feel like I've been digging canals the entire day...human interaction drains all energy out of me.

Who the hell are these friends then, that tire you out so much? I don't really understand how people get socially or mentally tired so I'll take it from you that its a valid reason. I guess it isn't just these friends that wear you out, but people in general.

^^ Is exactly the reason I am single, can only count 3 maybe four friends, and dont get out much...

True, talking for more than an hour straight is very exhausting for me physically and mentally...especially if the converstion isn't flowing naturally.

about 5-7, i say that because there are time whenm i feel i can't count certain people as friends.., if you know what i mean, like one of then nly wants me around to seelok like part of the penut gallery or because she knows i have a hard time saying no to things like cooking for parties or helping do something, mainly because i need to get out of the house, generally everybody calls me to see if i feel like socializing, and i use to bee very anti social up to a few years ago

adidasss I'm almost in the same situation. Even if I seem to be a very open person, I am not. I work at a radio station and make a lot of contacts, but I just don't have too many close friends. I do get along great with my BF and he's my best friend too. He is the only I like to socialize to. And it seems like we're both loners. I also spend a lot of time online and that could explain a bit the fact I kinda became a recluse. I am not antisocial, I have good some good speaking and public skills, but lately I just hate the fuss :D

I have a pretty large peer group and I don't feel like it is work to keep them up. My best friend and I went almost a year without getting together and when we finally did it was like we had just seen each other yesterday, this is the way most of my friendships are and I don't really find it taxing at all. The only time I find it an annoyance is if one of them is getting married and wants me in the wedding party or when one of them has a baby, then unfair pressure is applied to get together. Overall it isn't a big issue at my age, everyone is pretty busy with their own lives and understands that I am busy with mine

well adidasss i understand what you're saying too but i think in this day and age socializing is very important in a career and well it improves a lotta things
i don't do small talk either but thats cause small talk refers to people who you don't normally talk to so i dont bother with that shit either

but friends are a totally different subject. why do we need them?
because it's always nice to laugh with someone and when you have a problem they can help and when something good happens they will be happy for you
i have 2 best friends, another "medium" one and belong to a group of 5 - 6 people in school but it only comes down to us talkin during breaks and stuff like that
but i'm really close to the other two
and i need for it to be that way.
i guess the reason you or other people say they don't like to socialize and think it's hard is just cause you didnt find the right person who'd make the socializing come naturally
i don't like havin to socialize either when i don't enjoy it and thats normal..
i don't think its cause you're a "loner" or somethin like that. i don't even like people, but for my friends. i know how that goes and sometimes i worry about bein a loner. sometimes i dont feel like seein my friends, everyone needs to be alone from time to time but NOBODY wants to end up alone. everyone needs a partner and everyone needs love. or else we'd all be bitter and miserable
and adidasss, spending time with your friends IS your free time.. if you feel that it isn't it's because you look at it like a job and that's the way of thinkin you should change about it. of course, if you want to. when you find the right people
friendship is a blessing, really and like someone said (i dunno who) "my friend is the second me"
thats what it means, someone you can relate to and who understands, in other words, someone you'd like to be with

friendship overrated?
my christ, i'd be screwed without them.
i have one best friend who means that absolute world to me, shes got the most beautiful personality ive ever known, & theres noone there for me more than her.
i have about 4 other closest friends, some of them i very rarely get to see, but its never a "hassle", ill fight all i can to see them as often as i can.
i know its a dumb thing to do, & i learn this lesson ten times harder each time someone dies, but i cant help but live for the people around me & rely on them to keep me happy. not in the way that they always have to be there to listen to me talk or whatever, but.. they're all i got to live for. & theyre all fucking amazing.
ive no idea how you can say its a hassle.. seriously. people mean the world to me & id go the the most extreme of lengths to be with them.

Yeah I'm a bit like that. Not exactly an unfriendly viber but I come off as rather serious. Even when I'm joking, like explicitly, people will still pick it up as some form of snide attack. But it has been a bit better lately, I think I have a friendlier demeanor about me these days. I have some really good mates and I get along with lots of people but first impressions are not my forte' haha.

I only have one or two really close friends, but then I have some other friends that I hang out with and generally like. For the most part, I can tolerate people, unless they're complete idiots. I can't really talk to people about their emotions though, partly because it bores the crap out of me and because generally they can tell I don't care. That and I'm really narcissistic so it takes a pretty special person to actually get close to me.

i tend to give off an " i'm gonna beat your ass vibe" to most people, and they do't like to come around....

Me and you have almost the same personality. Move down here so we can smoke and make fun of people.

*high-five*

Where you goin to college? We'll chill.

Actually, if you'd have caught me four years earlier I would have lived quite close.

James Madison University. You?

**** if I know, somewhere in New York or Chicago probably though.

Pfft, two of my friends did the **** tonight! I invited my mate and his girlfriend to come pub, but they were out of money. So we left early but on the way home they got off the bus and said 'we're going to the local, take care' and didn't even bother to invite me. How rude is that, guys?!

I have a very low tolerance level. if somebody embodies even the smallest little thing that annoys me i tend to just go cold on them. Its a bad habit but nonetheless its me. i have about 6 really close freinds and several "acquantances", and im happy with it that way. but freindship is oh so very important... to me anyway.

It seems to me that most girls I am friends with turn into complete bitches then I think there is something wrong with me???

I have 3 sets of friends; best friends, drama friends, school friends.

Only 3 close friends though.

People come and go.
And seeings how most people in the world are generic if you have just one friend, you have enough to last a lifetime.

I don't think human contact however is overrated.

I've got four best friends and one of them is like my twin or something.

I thought you left...

oh, youre kidding :rolleyes:

no clue what gave you that idea

Friends are temporary allies. When your done with school and begin to make a life for yourself, you really don't have time for friends and over time drift apart.

yeah, not so much. I haven't been in school for 2 years now, and still keepin touch with my best friend. but then it depends on the friendship.

Go write a poem about it.

Just say: i don't have any friends

Ha, looking at that reminds me of that thing carlton said.

FRIENDS CAN BE USED IN TIMES OF WAR AND BE TORTURED FOR VALUABLE PERSONAL INFORMATION

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Fresh Prince of Bel Air is only like, one of the greatest shows of all time.

^Seconded

Thirded

Now this is the story all about how my life got flipped, turned upside down, and I’d like to take a minute just sit right there, I’ll tell you how I became the prince of a town called bel-air. In west philadelphia born and raised, on the playground where I spent most of my days, Chilling out max and relaxing all cool and all shooting some b-ball outside of the school when a couple of guys who were up in no good, started making trouble in my neighbourhood. I got in one little fight and my mom got scared and said "you’re moving with your aunte and uncle in bel-air" I whistled for a cab and when it came near the license plate said "fresh" and had a dice in the mirror. If anything I could say that this cab was rare but I thought now forget it, yo home to bel-air! I pulled up to the house about seven or eight and I yelled to the cabby "yo, home smell you later! "Looked at my kingdom I was finally there to sit on my throne as the prince of bel-air.

I bet you didn't even google that....;)

Woop, eveyone knows Fresh Prince theme, haha how sad.
I still don't think friendships are overated, it just depends who's in your life. If you're spending time with not so great people, then you're not gonna love it. But if your friends are people you can trust with anything, then you're gonna preach about how great it is. I just think if you don't have decent friends, you're just being too lazy to find the decent people in the world.

Maybe some people are just more demanding about people who they hang out with. It's not hard finding such people, it's a damn bitch finding someone intelligent that has a good sense of humor and is cool enough to be seen with me.

^Haha, but if people are your friends you automatically see them as cool. My friends are geeks I guess, but I love them sooo much.