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Old 01-10-2007, 05:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I may come off as a total bastard with this thread, but I'm in a rotten mood anyway so who cares right? Anyway, I was just thinking the other day that friends can be a total pain in the ass. Now, as you all know ( or should know by now ), I am virtually friendless, except for one girlfriend that I more or less have just for the sake of it. There is no logical reason why hanging out with her or maintaining contact should be such a strain, she's smart and funny, but it seems like more of an obligation than a pleasure. I haven't yet concluded if I'm simply a lazy bastard, seriously anti-social or have simply yet to find someone ( in real life that is ) that is fully compatible with me. She's basically the one that seeks out contact with me, and I have to say that I don't miss it the least bit.

Does anyone else think human contact is overrated? Because I do, which is why the internet is perfect for me, I speak to who I want to, whenever I want to...although I have noticed my social skills seem to be lacking as of late, I've always hated small talk, but now it seems like I can't even answer a simple " how've you been" without embarrassing myself or totally blocking...sure, I can say "fine, fine, thanks" but then the black hole of awkward silence sets in and I wish Scotty finally hears my plead and beams me the fuck out.

Why this need for social contact? Are human being really that pathetic that they need constant interaction so as not to feel alone and , I dunno, face their fears or summink? Silence is seriously under appreciated...

How many friends do you have? Is that enough, too little, do you care? How do you find maintaining those friendships, a strain or a pleasure?
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:06 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I have maybe 3 people that I consider myself to be really close friends with.
As far as i`m concerned thats plenty.
I don`t socialise with anyone I work with for the simple reason they`re a bunch of c*nts , and I consider going out with them a waste of my life when I can be doing something contructive like reading a book instead.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:10 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I only have like 2 friends and I don't feel lonely, bad, or inferior for it. Like said, I rather be doing something worth doing than trying to win over a bunch of arseholes.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:12 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I only have like five close friends, sort of. Lately we havn't been close, except for my best friend but I she knows I don't have the emotional energy? To deal with friendships at the moment.

They are pretty overrated.
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Having friends in highschool is easy, it's until after you've all gone your separate ways that maintaining friendships starts to be a chore and a strain.
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i also have mabey two or 3 friends im close with, but over the years i've had mabey 30 or so...

i like getting to know many different people at my school, it helps educate, make you more then just a one-dimensional person. I dont actually understand how you can call it "overrated", its one of the most important things in life in my opinion.

i wouldn't know nearly as many good bands if it hadn't been for talking with various stereotypes(wigger, punk, emo, goth, gangster, or preppy)

i think you should just try to not be over-critical, and just put some effort into getting to know people-generally most people like talking about themselves(as you can see by me), and if your willing to listen its a clinch.
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Having friends in highschool is easy, it's until after you've all gone your separate ways that maintaining friendships starts to be a chore and a strain.
Not when shit always seems to start up and you really don't have the energy to put up with it and argue and make up and shit.
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I much prefer my own company. I've been described as anti social by my own family before now.
The truth is, I've discovered over the years...is the more friends you have, the more problems you have.

I've always felt like an outsider looking in on the world.
I don't lack confidence, I don't find it hard to make friends, but I do at certain periods in my life, feel the need to be left alone.

I know exactly where your coming from adidasss.

And what's more, when I get like that I really don't care what people think.
I used to...the awkward silences and the, "what the fucks up with you" comments.

The people who really know me, know when to leave me alone.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:18 PM   #9 (permalink)
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i also have mabey two or 3 friends im close with, but over the years i've had mabey 30 or so...

i like getting to know many different people at my school, it helps educate, make you more then just a one-dimensional person. I dont actually understand how you can call it "overrated", its one of the most important things in life in my opinion.

i wouldn't know nearly as many good bands if it hadn't been for talking with various stereotypes(wigger, punk, emo, goth, gangster, or preppy)

i think you should just try to not be over-critical, and just put some effort into getting to know people-generally most people like talking about themselves(as you can see by me), and if your willing to listen its a clinch.
I love getting to know new people, it's just that I get bored with them pretty quickly. The getting to know them part is the most interesting part of the relationship really, after that it's all down hill....in most cases that is. And putting effort into relationships is really not my kind of thing, I want everything to come easy and naturally or I'd rather not have it at all.
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I used to have a large group pf friends, but when I lost my best mate they 99% turned their back on me. So it's just me and the guys which consists of 5 guys and 2 girls, tis small and secure, i'm happy And I have you guys of course lol
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