Friendships (quote)

blackTshirt · 01-11-2007, 11:08 AM

well adidasss i understand what you're saying too but i think in this day and age socializing is very important in a career and well it improves a lotta things
i don't do small talk either but thats cause small talk refers to people who you don't normally talk to so i dont bother with that shit either

but friends are a totally different subject. why do we need them?
because it's always nice to laugh with someone and when you have a problem they can help and when something good happens they will be happy for you
i have 2 best friends, another "medium" one and belong to a group of 5 - 6 people in school but it only comes down to us talkin during breaks and stuff like that
but i'm really close to the other two
and i need for it to be that way.
i guess the reason you or other people say they don't like to socialize and think it's hard is just cause you didnt find the right person who'd make the socializing come naturally
i don't like havin to socialize either when i don't enjoy it and thats normal..
i don't think its cause you're a "loner" or somethin like that. i don't even like people, but for my friends. i know how that goes and sometimes i worry about bein a loner. sometimes i dont feel like seein my friends, everyone needs to be alone from time to time but NOBODY wants to end up alone. everyone needs a partner and everyone needs love. or else we'd all be bitter and miserable
and adidasss, spending time with your friends IS your free time.. if you feel that it isn't it's because you look at it like a job and that's the way of thinkin you should change about it. of course, if you want to. when you find the right people
friendship is a blessing, really and like someone said (i dunno who) "my friend is the second me"
thats what it means, someone you can relate to and who understands, in other words, someone you'd like to be with

ArtistInTheAmbulance · 01-11-2007, 11:18 AM

friendship overrated?
my christ, i'd be screwed without them.
i have one best friend who means that absolute world to me, shes got the most beautiful personality ive ever known, & theres noone there for me more than her.
i have about 4 other closest friends, some of them i very rarely get to see, but its never a "hassle", ill fight all i can to see them as often as i can.
i know its a dumb thing to do, & i learn this lesson ten times harder each time someone dies, but i cant help but live for the people around me & rely on them to keep me happy. not in the way that they always have to be there to listen to me talk or whatever, but.. they're all i got to live for. & theyre all fucking amazing.
ive no idea how you can say its a hassle.. seriously. people mean the world to me & id go the the most extreme of lengths to be with them.

Mr Sensitive · 01-11-2007, 12:15 PM

I seem to give out a very unfriendly vibe to most people. I have a lot of acquaintances, but no one I would call my best friend. I don't really care to be honest, the only person I rely on is myself.

Merkaba · 01-11-2007, 02:08 PM

Yeah I'm a bit like that. Not exactly an unfriendly viber but I come off as rather serious. Even when I'm joking, like explicitly, people will still pick it up as some form of snide attack. But it has been a bit better lately, I think I have a friendlier demeanor about me these days. I have some really good mates and I get along with lots of people but first impressions are not my forte' haha.

cardboard adolescent · 01-11-2007, 03:21 PM

I only have one or two really close friends, but then I have some other friends that I hang out with and generally like. For the most part, I can tolerate people, unless they're complete idiots. I can't really talk to people about their emotions though, partly because it bores the crap out of me and because generally they can tell I don't care. That and I'm really narcissistic so it takes a pretty special person to actually get close to me.

Ma Cherie · 01-11-2007, 05:20 PM

i tend to give off an " i'm gonna beat your ass vibe" to most people, and they do't like to come around....

riseagainstrocks · 01-11-2007, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by cardboard adolescent

I only have one or two really close friends, but then I have some other friends that I hang out with and generally like. For the most part, I can tolerate people, unless they're complete idiots. I can't really talk to people about their emotions though, partly because it bores the crap out of me and because generally they can tell I don't care. That and I'm really narcissistic so it takes a pretty special person to actually get close to me.

Me and you have almost the same personality. Move down here so we can smoke and make fun of people.

*high-five*

cardboard adolescent · 01-11-2007, 05:39 PM

Where you goin to college? We'll chill.

Actually, if you'd have caught me four years earlier I would have lived quite close.

riseagainstrocks · 01-12-2007, 08:33 AM

James Madison University. You?

cardboard adolescent · 01-12-2007, 02:42 PM

**** if I know, somewhere in New York or Chicago probably though.

01-11-2007, 11:08 AM	#51 (permalink)
blackTshirt The Randomness Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: romania.. shut up Posts: 854	well adidasss i understand what you're saying too but i think in this day and age socializing is very important in a career and well it improves a lotta things i don't do small talk either but thats cause small talk refers to people who you don't normally talk to so i dont bother with that shit either but friends are a totally different subject. why do we need them? because it's always nice to laugh with someone and when you have a problem they can help and when something good happens they will be happy for you i have 2 best friends, another "medium" one and belong to a group of 5 - 6 people in school but it only comes down to us talkin during breaks and stuff like that but i'm really close to the other two and i need for it to be that way. i guess the reason you or other people say they don't like to socialize and think it's hard is just cause you didnt find the right person who'd make the socializing come naturally i don't like havin to socialize either when i don't enjoy it and thats normal.. i don't think its cause you're a "loner" or somethin like that. i don't even like people, but for my friends. i know how that goes and sometimes i worry about bein a loner. sometimes i dont feel like seein my friends, everyone needs to be alone from time to time but NOBODY wants to end up alone. everyone needs a partner and everyone needs love. or else we'd all be bitter and miserable and adidasss, spending time with your friends IS your free time.. if you feel that it isn't it's because you look at it like a job and that's the way of thinkin you should change about it. of course, if you want to. when you find the right people friendship is a blessing, really and like someone said (i dunno who) "my friend is the second me" thats what it means, someone you can relate to and who understands, in other words, someone you'd like to be with __________________ My rims never spin, to the contrary You'll find that they're quite stationary.

01-11-2007, 11:18 AM	#52 (permalink)
ArtistInTheAmbulance enchanted. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: cornwailles, angleterre. Posts: 2,537	friendship overrated? my christ, i'd be screwed without them. i have one best friend who means that absolute world to me, shes got the most beautiful personality ive ever known, & theres noone there for me more than her. i have about 4 other closest friends, some of them i very rarely get to see, but its never a "hassle", ill fight all i can to see them as often as i can. i know its a dumb thing to do, & i learn this lesson ten times harder each time someone dies, but i cant help but live for the people around me & rely on them to keep me happy. not in the way that they always have to be there to listen to me talk or whatever, but.. they're all i got to live for. & theyre all fucking amazing. ive no idea how you can say its a hassle.. seriously. people mean the world to me & id go the the most extreme of lengths to be with them. __________________ shake your wings like theyre laced with sound! Last edited by ArtistInTheAmbulance; 01-11-2007 at 12:17 PM.

01-11-2007, 12:15 PM	#53 (permalink)
Mr Sensitive Hyperkinetic Rabbitything Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: In the Noodle Mines Posts: 811	I seem to give out a very unfriendly vibe to most people. I have a lot of acquaintances, but no one I would call my best friend. I don't really care to be honest, the only person I rely on is myself. __________________

01-11-2007, 02:08 PM	#54 (permalink)
Merkaba Whitewater! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New Zealand Posts: 2,885	Yeah I'm a bit like that. Not exactly an unfriendly viber but I come off as rather serious. Even when I'm joking, like explicitly, people will still pick it up as some form of snide attack. But it has been a bit better lately, I think I have a friendlier demeanor about me these days. I have some really good mates and I get along with lots of people but first impressions are not my forte' haha. __________________ She thinks I'm a reclusive genius, she's going to be very disappointed when she finds out i'm a reclusive wanker

01-11-2007, 05:20 PM	#56 (permalink)
Ma Cherie The Forums Sadistic Ghost Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: beyond midnight, in the abyss of time, the syren in the night Posts: 457	i tend to give off an " i'm gonna beat your ass vibe" to most people, and they do't like to come around.... __________________ I'm not a freak on a leash, I'm just the freak holding the leash. http://www.myspace.com/yukiko_mori

01-11-2007, 03:21 PM	#55 (permalink)
cardboard adolescent ;) Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: CA Posts: 3,503	I only have one or two really close friends, but then I have some other friends that I hang out with and generally like. For the most part, I can tolerate people, unless they're complete idiots. I can't really talk to people about their emotions though, partly because it bores the crap out of me and because generally they can tell I don't care. That and I'm really narcissistic so it takes a pretty special person to actually get close to me.

01-11-2007, 05:39 PM	#58 (permalink)
cardboard adolescent ;) Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: CA Posts: 3,503	Where you goin to college? We'll chill. Actually, if you'd have caught me four years earlier I would have lived quite close.

01-12-2007, 08:33 AM	#59 (permalink)
riseagainstrocks Music Addict Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: DC Posts: 3,320	James Madison University. You? __________________ One note timeless, came out of nowhere...

01-12-2007, 02:42 PM	#60 (permalink)
cardboard adolescent ;) Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: CA Posts: 3,503	**** if I know, somewhere in New York or Chicago probably though.