I am definitely not gay, I have had many accusations cause I shaved some of my hair off and got piercings (yeah to stereotypes!). If there was any time to come out of the closet it would've been then :laughing:

Well I feel quite the opposite I still have a sex drive but I'm never interested enough in anyone, I enjoy flirting with guys casually but nothing more. I have never had a "real" boyfriend, but I don't really think that should matter?

You sound just like me, you don't want to be tied up with someone when there's no real need for it.

Nothing wrong with not having a 'real' boyfriend, it's not like you're some 2 headed sociopath with psychotic tendencies.

Don't worry about it, I'm the same right now. Well, aside from the never had a boyfriend part. And the nothing beyond flirting part. Anyway, my point was it's not a weird outlook and if it's what you're comfortable with for now you shouldn't try and act like you want something else.

I guess I'm possibly straight then? The thought occurred to me and every single time my instant reaction is "that's so wrong."

I don't think dating necessarily has to do with sexuality. There are plenty of people who play around but don't do relationship. Relationships are a lot more involved than that.

In my case... The part of the problem is I absolutely cannot stand most lesbians around here. They come off as macho/aggressive/violent and all they care about is their own little lesbian world. Passing everyone around like some incestuous circle. Constantly talking about who slept with who and connecting the dots. Campaigning around like being a lesbian is a hardcore political stand and don't actually have personalities of their own except for being a lesbian.

There are some chicks who aren't in the scene but they're hard to find. I mean, who gives a ****? So you have an attraction to girls. Big whoop, it's just a sexual preferrance. I know gay marriage is an issue but seriously?

Totally. The thought of living with someone and sharing your life and your thoughts and waking up next to them and all that just seems so alien to me. And it's not a commitment phobia as much as it is just a people phobia. I'm just so used to being alone and only having my inner thoughts to talk to, that allowing someone else to be that intimately involved with my little world just feels...wrong.

I'm ridiculously private, it never occurred to me that that could be a part of it.

Nice, :laughing:

I know the feeling. At least I think I do. For about 3 or 4 years (maybe age 17 - 20) I sort of rejected the idea of being in a relationship with anybody and closed myself off to it. I didn't see any men that I met as potential boyfriends either, just as friends. But since men usually don't like to be friend zoned, they just disappeared from my life.

Two years ago I was asked out by a guy who sat next to me in class. I said no thanks (as of course, I didn't view him as a potential partner). He continued to sit next to me despite the awkwardness (or maybe he didn't notice it?) I thought he was cute but I never flirted. We became study buddies in class but all the contact I had with him was strictly homework related and I vowed to keep it that way.

I actually ended up going out with him about 6 months later (when he dared to ask me out again, and after I spilled coffee all over him, :laughing:) He's my boyfriend now!

I thought that I was the only person who ever felt that way towards potential dates.

Step away from the computer guys. :shycouch:

BD you pretty much hit the nail on the head with some of that.

And I don't gettit Fred? :/