I really need your help

franscar · 01-10-2005, 03:48 PM

That's good to hear.

My ex-girlfriend got herself into a similar situation actually, a while back now. She had been cheating on me for a few months and she finished the relationship, I was totally heartbroken because she was someone I cared for more than anything in the world. A month or so later she told me that she had been expecting my child (pretty big news to me because we'd ALWAYS been careful) and that she had had an abortion. At the time this news totally crushed me, but looking back with the benefit of hindsight, becoming a father at that time would have been unfair on both myself and the child.

It's incredibly important to not be selfish in a situation like this, and think of the other two people involved, in my case the mother of the child, and most importantly, the child itself. I couldn't have given that child the sort of life he or she would deserve, and so I now think it best to wait until I can.

01-10-2005, 03:48 PM	#17 (permalink)
franscar Honky Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Birmingham Posts: 667	That's good to hear. My ex-girlfriend got herself into a similar situation actually, a while back now. She had been cheating on me for a few months and she finished the relationship, I was totally heartbroken because she was someone I cared for more than anything in the world. A month or so later she told me that she had been expecting my child (pretty big news to me because we'd ALWAYS been careful) and that she had had an abortion. At the time this news totally crushed me, but looking back with the benefit of hindsight, becoming a father at that time would have been unfair on both myself and the child. It's incredibly important to not be selfish in a situation like this, and think of the other two people involved, in my case the mother of the child, and most importantly, the child itself. I couldn't have given that child the sort of life he or she would deserve, and so I now think it best to wait until I can.