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Astronomer 07-19-2010 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 902045)
I think people should be able to do whatever they want. Why should I care whether they shave or not?

For what it's worth, I'd love to be able to wear sandals and sleeveless shirts around the office in the summer the way women are allowed to.

I would love to not have to wear a bra every single day, is this another thing that females dislike about their gender just out of curiosity? (I'm directing this question at the girls, here). Because I hate bras so much, they are the most uncomfortable things in the world, I would love be able to just wear a shirt without a bra, and not worry about my boobs jiggling around or nipples showing. I hate bras.

I also would have loved to wear pants during high school, instead of the segregated boys and girls uniforms, which still occur in Australia and many other places in the world. So impractical.

I also agree with Janszoon in that people should just do whatever they want. There seems to be so many guys on here who seem to have ridiculous standards regarding female bodily hair which really disturbs/ perplexes me. I don't have high standards when it comes to male body OR facial hair. I admit that I think some guys look better without or with facial hair or body hair but if they don't want to shave areas of their body then why should I interfere with that? There is more to life than hair.

jibber 07-19-2010 06:32 AM

Meh, I don't mind bras so much, it's more uncomfortable for me to NOT wear one, plus in the summer I often just cheat and wear a bikini top :) I've never worn a school uniform in my life, and I've never had a single job where jeans and a nice looking top weren't appropriate attire, so I can't really sympathize but I do agree, uniforms are ridiculous.

Janszoon 07-19-2010 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Lateralus (Post 902159)
I also would have loved to wear pants during high school, instead of the segregated boys and girls uniforms, which still occur in Australia and many other places in the world. So impractical.

Well at my high school there was no uniform. Girls could wear pants or skirts or dresses or whatever they wanted, while I'm sure any boy showing up to school in a skirt would've been sent home. We also had a rule against wearing outdoor jackets or hats to class but they only enforced it with the boys.

FETCHER. 07-19-2010 06:41 AM

I feel more uncomfortable not wearing a bra, because it's obvious. But nothing beats taking your bra off after a tough day or when you're knackered :laughing:

jibber 07-19-2010 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 902178)
Well at my high school there was no uniform. Girls could wear pants or skirts or dresses or whatever they wanted, while I'm sure any boy showing up to school in a skirt would've been sent home. We also had a rule against wearing outdoor jackets or hats to class but they only enforced it with the boys.

This is another reason why it's good to be a woman, there isn't a single item of clothing that people would look twice at a woman wearing. Even wearing a tuxedo to a formal event isn't all that uncommon anymore (so long as it's nicely tailored). A man however showing up in a sparkling evening gown...

VEGANGELICA 07-19-2010 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by adidasss (Post 901804)
Obviously not so trivial. And I don't know why you put having in quotations, it's obviously a social imperative, regardless whether most women unthinkingly conform to it, and as such very much deserves to be questioned.

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Originally Posted by boo boo (Post 901820)
Aidasss is PMSing again.

Boo boo, I feel your joke at adidasss' expense is sexist, homophobic, and hurtful. I wish you wouldn't have made it.

You are trying to say that adidasss' point isn't valid or important (when in fact it is a good point, and I know that because I agree with him! :D). Yet instead of saying your feelings, you try to put him down by claiming he is a woman, so that's sexist AND homophobic. Being gay has nothing to do with someone's gender identity. Also, there is nothing wrong with women menstruating and having mood changes related to hormone fluctuations.

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Originally Posted by cardboard adolescent (Post 901828)
being sexually defined is a nuisance

I agree.

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 902045)
I think people should be able to do whatever they want. Why should I care whether they shave or not?

For what it's worth, I'd love to be able to wear sandals and sleeveless shirts around the office in the summer the way women are allowed to.

I agree that people should be able to do what they want with their bodies and not be disciminated against either socially or in their jobs because of their bodies' physical appearance.

If you weren't getting a job because you are disabled and someone doesn't like how you look, you'd feel that is wrong (right?). So, if you aren't getting a job because you are fat or you have a beard and someone doesn't like how you look, that should also be wrong. Why care? Because someday it might be YOU being discriminated against? I care because people are hurt by discrimination.

Why can't you wear sandals and sleeveless shirts around the office?

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Originally Posted by Lateralus (Post 902159)
I would love to not have to wear a bra every single day, is this another thing that females dislike about their gender just out of curiosity? (I'm directing this question at the girls, here). Because I hate bras so much, they are the most uncomfortable things in the world, I would love be able to just wear a shirt without a bra, and not worry about my boobs jiggling around or nipples showing. I hate bras.

I also would have loved to wear pants during high school, instead of the segregated boys and girls uniforms, which still occur in Australia and many other places in the world. So impractical.

I stopped wearing a bra around 10 years ago, for the very reasons you mention...and yes, my breasts jiggle and my nipples show, and sometimes I feel a little uncomfortable about that...exposed, as if I were being lewd by not wearing a bra. But I fight that feeling of fear because I know that's how breasts are and there's nothing wrong with them. It's very liberating! :D And no one has ever commented on or reacted to my not wearing a bra in public, so that makes it easier.

Girls being forced to wear skirts in school sounds SO archaic, Lateralus! That's one great thing about most U.S. public schools: no uniforms.

If all the girls in an Australian school organized and wore pants on one day, I bet the school district would change its uniform policy quickly. How sad that the *parents* haven't stood up and fought this old-fashioned, sexist uniform policy!

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Originally Posted by jibber (Post 902221)
This is another reason why it's good to be a woman, there isn't a single item of clothing that people would look twice at a woman wearing. Even wearing a tuxedo to a formal event isn't all that uncommon anymore (so long as it's nicely tailored). A man however showing up in a sparkling evening gown...

Yep, I argued earlier in the thread that one of the reasons I like being a woman rather than a man is that women in the U.S. have a lot of social freedom regarding dress and physical appearance, just like you say. Where I live, I can wear shirt or pants, have long head hair or short hair, pretty much wear anything I like. The one remaining sexist problem regarding dress here is that I can't expose my breasts in public unless I'm breastfeeding, while men go topless all the time without being arrested.

Another benefit of being a U.S. woman is that no one mutilated my clitoris, while here in the U.S. people cut little baby boys' penises all the time just for looks and tradition.

TheBig3 07-19-2010 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 902178)
Well at my high school there was no uniform. Girls could wear pants or skirts or dresses or whatever they wanted, while I'm sure any boy showing up to school in a skirt would've been sent home. We also had a rule against wearing outdoor jackets or hats to class but they only enforced it with the boys.

To go with this, and the beard issue in the work place (I was asked to shave once if I wanted to promotion they were offering me - then mocked for the baby face I was hiding once I did) I think it highlights a disparity of progress.

Women had suffrage then feminism to highlight what they felt they were lacking in a society of equals. Men haven't really seen the same rebellion come to the forefront. I genuinely feel as if women have been given many more options from the traditional roles of the Patriarchy but the roles men occupied then are still expected to stick.

VEGANGELICA 07-19-2010 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by TheBig3KilledMyRainDog (Post 902272)
To go with this, and the beard issue in the work place (I was asked to shave once if I wanted to promotion they were offering me - then mocked for the baby face I was hiding once I did) I think it highlights a disparity of progress.

Women had suffrage then feminism to highlight what they felt they were lacking in a society of equals. Men haven't really seen the same rebellion come to the forefront. I genuinely feel as if women have been given many more options from the traditional roles of the Patriarchy but the roles men occupied then are still expected to stick.

Men tried to fight these traditional and limiting expectations and hazing in the 1970s...long hair, and all...but I agree with you that this attempt didn't stick. Men seem very pressured to have short hair...the whole "military, clean-cut" look. I think society tells men that they need to all look the same, while women are "allowed" more individuality and self-expression.

If my office did what yours did, I would be furious. Did you *have* to shave for the promotion, or was it just a request? Would they have not giving you the promotion if you didn't shave? That's awful.

boo boo 07-19-2010 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by cardboard adolescent (Post 901886)
that was mean

i genuinely dislike relating to people sexually, i feel it keeps me from being able to love everyone in the same way, or even really know what that means

It only keeps you from treating people the same way because you choose to treat them differently based on their physical distinctions and what society might expect you to do, it's your fault if you don't treat people equally, don't blame it on the fact that people are different or have institutions based on these differences, that's pretty much the lamest excuse you can give for being sexist, racist or wishing everybody was the same in general.

Did I forget to mention that I find you pretentious?

Janszoon 07-19-2010 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA (Post 902271)
Why can't you wear sandals and sleeveless shirts around the office?

Because I'm male. It's generally considered too casual for a man to wear sandals and sleeveless shirts in a typical office setting but fine for women.


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