The Confessional Thread

[butthead aka 216]

Originally Posted by hate paper doll

I have literally been on the phone with him for six hours and I'm shaking right now, I'm so mad. No matter what, i'm wrong. I tried to apologize, tried to tell him that I'd try to be more considerate. Doesn't matter. Then he starts asking questions about people I've slept with in the past. I try to explain to him that you shouldn't ask questions if you can't deal with the answer but he won't drop it. So I answer his questions and he expects me to apologize for a one night stand I had years before we met and has zero bearing on our relationship. I refuse because I don't think I did anything wrong and he proceeds to tell me that's slutty and disgusting to him and the fact that I don't agree with him upsets him. Then I told him to fvck himself and hung up, and now I want to just scream. This is all such bullsh1t, i'm over it.

i will be very candid n honest here as i am very wise when given the chance and ppl should heed my advice


this behavior you describe is exactly what i went thru when i was like 20 so this was yrs ago. im guessin this is his first 'serious' relationship. at some point u may just start feelin insecure for whatever reason or unsure of the relationship in general. maybe ya feel like its a mistake and there could be glory out there elsewhere. maybe ya feel like you dont deserve the other person, etc. who knows.

the girl i was with at the time had sex with quite a few more ppl than me. that was a problem for me, not sure why. maybe an ego thing at the time cause i wanted to bang other chicks and felt like i was wasting that chance being with her a little bit. and its just a thing with guys in general, u can ask whoever u want. in Plug the other nite, myself and a member who shall remain nameless were talkin bout his girlfriend and he said he was dissapointed he wasnt the first guy to put it in her butt. i bring this up as a way to show the mindset, not sure really what it means tho but im not sure. i lol @ the slut-shaming crowd but guys are territorial and there is nothin wrong with being turned off by someone who is slutty. for me i couldnt get over that i fell for, and started dating someone who was just supposed to be a one night stand type of thing. it made her seem cheap to me but i knew she wasnt after i knew her better

so anyways after my relationship with this girl ended for totalyl different reasons i was able to process things in my brain much clearer after some time had passed. i was creating a situation where i had the power in the relationship. in reality i didnt need the reassurance. i did at first cause it just felt good and made me feel special. after awhile tho it was just about having her always be thinkin about me and creatin this ****ty dependence thing. its hard to explain i guess but it was just an immature relationship that i learned from and now i strive for glory

[hate paper doll]

Originally Posted by butthead aka 216

i will be very candid n honest here as i am very wise when given the chance and ppl should heed my advice


this behavior you describe is exactly what i went thru when i was like 20 so this was yrs ago. im guessin this is his first 'serious' relationship. at some point u may just start feelin insecure for whatever reason or unsure of the relationship in general. maybe ya feel like its a mistake and there could be glory out there elsewhere. maybe ya feel like you dont deserve the other person, etc. who knows.

the girl i was with at the time had sex with quite a few more ppl than me. that was a problem for me, not sure why. maybe an ego thing at the time cause i wanted to bang other chicks and felt like i was wasting that chance being with her a little bit. and its just a thing with guys in general, u can ask whoever u want. in Plug the other nite, myself and a member who shall remain nameless were talkin bout his girlfriend and he said he was dissapointed he wasnt the first guy to put it in her butt. i bring this up as a way to show the mindset, not sure really what it means tho but im not sure. i lol @ the slut-shaming crowd but guys are territorial and there is nothin wrong with being turned off by someone who is slutty. for me i couldnt get over that i fell for, and started dating someone who was just supposed to be a one night stand type of thing. it made her seem cheap to me but i knew she wasnt after i knew her better

so anyways after my relationship with this girl ended for totalyl different reasons i was able to process things in my brain much clearer after some time had passed. i was creating a situation where i had the power in the relationship. in reality i didnt need the reassurance. i did at first cause it just felt good and made me feel special. after awhile tho it was just about having her always be thinkin about me and creatin this ****ty dependence thing. its hard to explain i guess but it was just an immature relationship that i learned from and now i strive for glory

I get that guys are territorial but I'm not going to apologize to him for something i did years before we met that doesn't affect the way I feel about him or the way I treat him one bit. A single drunken fvck does not a slut make. I make allowances for his insecurity and immaturity all the time but he seriously needs to learn that there are certain things that only bother him because he lets them bug him, and it's not my job to fix it for him. I work with little kids, I don't need to deal with them when I get home too. You're right though, this is his first serious relationship.

[butthead aka 216]

many men go thru that. maybe its insecurity. i was not defending him or anything, in fact i am suggesting leaving him lol. just my 2 cents and giving insight to a personal type of situation and where my mind was at

[hate paper doll]

Originally Posted by butthead aka 216

many men go thru that. maybe its insecurity. i was not defending him or anything, in fact i am suggesting leaving him lol. just my 2 cents and giving insight to a personal type of situation and where my mind was at

Oh, I hope I didn't offend you. Not my intention at all, it's great advice and I appreciate it.

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by hate paper doll

I have literally been on the phone with him for six hours and I'm shaking right now, I'm so mad. No matter what, i'm wrong. I tried to apologize, tried to tell him that I'd try to be more considerate. Doesn't matter. Then he starts asking questions about people I've slept with in the past. I try to explain to him that you shouldn't ask questions if you can't deal with the answer but he won't drop it. So I answer his questions and he expects me to apologize for a one night stand I had years before we met and has zero bearing on our relationship. I refuse because I don't think I did anything wrong and he proceeds to tell me that's slutty and disgusting to him and the fact that I don't agree with him upsets him. Then I told him to fvck himself and hung up, and now I want to just scream. This is all such bullsh1t, i'm over it.

That's the kind of bs that gets said when a guy is trying to get out of a relationship and has already set his sights on someone new. Finding stupid little things to fight over. The big difference is that your guy is a major sensie so he might actually feel that way(overly insecure about the past) which is stupidly ridiculous.

[bob.]

Originally Posted by James

I'm gonna make a confession a lot like Sansa's - I have never had feelings for someone who wasn't in some way unattainable or out of bounds. I don't know why.

James i'm the exact same way man....every time i start to fall in like with someone....she is always just out of reach

i agree with DJ....anytime you start asking about past sexual relationships you are just asking for an end....whether he knows it or not....not necessarily already looking....is he much younger than you?

[Frownland]

I still make a conscious effort to not step on the cracks on the sidewalk. OCD here I come.

[bob.]

you're not OCD you just really love your mom

[Sansa Stark]

Originally Posted by James

I'm gonna make a confession a lot like Sansa's - I have never had feelings for someone who wasn't in some way unattainable or out of bounds. I don't know why.

~ the thrill of the chase moves in mysterious ways~

Love is a weird thing

Also I seem to attract clingers so bad, like dudes will never understand that I wouldn't ever ~need them in the way a normal person would and that kind of makes me feel like I'm a broken person tbh

[hate paper doll]

Originally Posted by djchameleon

That's the kind of bs that gets said when a guy is trying to get out of a relationship and has already set his sights on someone new. Finding stupid little things to fight over. The big difference is that your guy is a major sensie so he might actually feel that way(overly insecure about the past) which is stupidly ridiculous.

Pretty much. I can understand the insecurity, but if the only way I can make him feel better is to call myself a slut he can get fvcked.

Originally Posted by bob.

James i'm the exact same way man....every time i start to fall in like with someone....she is always just out of reach

i agree with DJ....anytime you start asking about past sexual relationships you are just asking for an end....whether he knows it or not....not necessarily already looking....is he much younger than you?

There's an age difference and a cultural one too. He's a cultural Muslim, totally atheist but still set in his ways - doesn't drink, eats halal, and is a prude. It bothers him when I stick to my guns and do something he hates, like wine with dinner and such. I've explained to him multiple times that he doesn't own me and that i won't apologize for doing things that don't hurt or concern him and he always swears he isn't trying to change me- until he does it over and over again.