The Confessional Thread

[DwnWthVwls]

Typing without vowels is a right and none of you have it. Step off.

[RoxyRollah]

Originally Posted by Oriphiel

I took issue with this post:



It could only have been directed at your post or mine, and neither deserved to be insinuated as flame-bait. You were just trying to convey that you didn't like having your private life on display while also keeping things calm, and I was just pointing out that it was hardly a "****storm". But Urban wasn't actually taking a shot at anyone, I just misinterpreted his post.

Also, I'd appreciate it if everyone just moved on. The discussion was switched to PM's for a reason; to keep this from dragging on into some public spectacle.

Why do you keep doing this? You always think everything any one says in a critical manner like its a personal attack on you.You are the drama you complain about.

[Oriphiel]

Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

Why do you keep doing this? You always think everything any one says in a critical manner like its a personal attack on you.You are the drama you complain about.

I don't think I really crave drama all that much. I mean, every time I've gotten into an argument with you (or anyone else), I've always tried to move things over to PMs, but you always refuse. And since you're currently trying to revive an argument that has already been resolved, I think that you have to admit that you like a little drama yourself.

Regardless, I've already asked that everyone forget about the recent misunderstanding. If you have something to say about it, please do it in a way that doesn't only make things worse.

[Key]

I have a confession to make:

Whenever I listen to music while I'm walking somewhere, I imagine myself playing the music at a live gig as if I am the artist that made the music.

[DwnWthVwls]

You're so vain.

[Key]

Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

You're so vain.

Oh like you don't do that too. I cant be the only one.

[Black Francis]

I used to do that all the time when i was younger

it's a good time killer for when you're taking the bus everywhere.
When you get your own car though, that's when the fantasy goes up a notch and you can actually drum on your steering wheel and sing like no one is watching (except someone probably is)

[Oriphiel]

Originally Posted by Ki

Oh like you don't do that too. I cant be the only one.

I do it all the time too! I can't help myself...

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by ladyislingering

I'm literally so ugly that my boyfriend screams at me for even putting my hand 2 inches away from his thigh.

I'm so ugly.

I'm so ugly that people probably just tolerate me on a minimal basis and it's some kind of joke between all of them.

I honestly wish I had a terminal illness.

26 years and I've never felt pretty just once.

Babe I think everyone can **** off. Seriously, you come into the confessional thread to discuss relationship and personal self confidence issues, like I have many a time. And so because you're dating a forum member you suddenly can't talk about it? KI you need to grow some balls and treat your lady right. Of course I think you two should talk about your problems privately but if either of you want advice please do talk to us about it.

In terms of your self esteem lil, the issues with your relationship may actually be a figment of your imagination. I'm not making light of your feelings but from observation, your own confidence issues may be making you think that KI is not attracted or whatever you are thinking right now.

I want to share my personal experiences with my looks. I started at 12-13 thinking I was the ugly, had people telling me I was ugly and I hated myself dearly. But after a while I began to tell myself, constantly beating myself up and abusing myself was not going to give me a happy future so I made sure I never gave myself put downs, even if I was bullied. It worked with time! By 15 I was looking better, grew into my looks and had a rather big self confidence. By 18 I completely accepted myself and liked my good and bad points physically. I walked around with my head held high and I felt grateful for the way I looked. I got sooooo much attention from guys, I got attention on forums too. Realistically if I had not forced myself to gain self confidence I would have looked the same but not got attention or been happy.

Confidence is something you can create, no matter how you look. Obviously I had an agenda for wanting attention but growing confidence can be for many reasons, not just that. It can be so you can walk down the street and not attack yourself for how you look and society dictates you should look like, but also you can feel good and not even worry about it. You do look beautiful I've seen you, but no matter how many people tell you, you won't believe it unless you begin to tell yourself. Start with cutting out the negative mental thoughts, and let me know how it goes. I can guide you along the way if you want!

[Key]

Originally Posted by Vanilla

KI you need to grow some balls and treat your lady right. Of course I think you two should talk about your problems privately but if either of you want advice please do talk to us about it.

Complete double standard right here, and the only reason i'm responding is because you mentioned my name. First of all, why should I have to man up when i'm trying to keep personal issues and forum issues separated. Her and I don't have issues together, we have a few fights here and there, and I admit that it's usually my fault, due to first off, never having a relationship in my life, and secondly, anger issues from how I grew up. Not blaming my parents or family life, I blame myself for being unable to control it. However, I don't feel like I need to justify myself when I say that I'd rather not have my relationship issues on the internet for the whole world to see. Secondly, I don't need advice, i've surrounded myself with good people in my life, and the last place i'd look for relationship advice is on an internet forum where I come to relax and get away from real life. I'm not saying I can't come to you guys, but her "outburst" was random and it shocked me that she'd even think to put it here instead of talking to me about it first. Yeah, she went here before going to me (granted I was pissed and was unapproachable). I've been talking to her today and she even admitted that it wasn't the right thing to do to come to the forum before coming to me. So, you can think of that any way you want. I'm not going to be looked at as the bad guy when all I want is to keep our personal issues in our own lives.