The Confessional Thread

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by ladyislingering

I'm literally so ugly that my boyfriend screams at me for even putting my hand 2 inches away from his thigh.

I'm so ugly.

I'm so ugly that people probably just tolerate me on a minimal basis and it's some kind of joke between all of them.

I honestly wish I had a terminal illness.

26 years and I've never felt pretty just once.

Babe I think everyone can **** off. Seriously, you come into the confessional thread to discuss relationship and personal self confidence issues, like I have many a time. And so because you're dating a forum member you suddenly can't talk about it? KI you need to grow some balls and treat your lady right. Of course I think you two should talk about your problems privately but if either of you want advice please do talk to us about it.

In terms of your self esteem lil, the issues with your relationship may actually be a figment of your imagination. I'm not making light of your feelings but from observation, your own confidence issues may be making you think that KI is not attracted or whatever you are thinking right now.

I want to share my personal experiences with my looks. I started at 12-13 thinking I was the ugly, had people telling me I was ugly and I hated myself dearly. But after a while I began to tell myself, constantly beating myself up and abusing myself was not going to give me a happy future so I made sure I never gave myself put downs, even if I was bullied. It worked with time! By 15 I was looking better, grew into my looks and had a rather big self confidence. By 18 I completely accepted myself and liked my good and bad points physically. I walked around with my head held high and I felt grateful for the way I looked. I got sooooo much attention from guys, I got attention on forums too. Realistically if I had not forced myself to gain self confidence I would have looked the same but not got attention or been happy.

Confidence is something you can create, no matter how you look. Obviously I had an agenda for wanting attention but growing confidence can be for many reasons, not just that. It can be so you can walk down the street and not attack yourself for how you look and society dictates you should look like, but also you can feel good and not even worry about it. You do look beautiful I've seen you, but no matter how many people tell you, you won't believe it unless you begin to tell yourself. Start with cutting out the negative mental thoughts, and let me know how it goes. I can guide you along the way if you want!