How many people have you slept with?

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 10-24-2010, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Spike*Spiegel

whore

*high fives*

Urban Hat€monger ? · 10-24-2010, 05:13 PM

I hate both of you

Spike*Spiegel · 10-24-2010, 05:13 PM

Doesn't change the fact that you're a whore, sweetheart

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 10-24-2010, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

I hate both of you

It's not our fault you are a dirty, dirty whore.

downwardspiral · 10-24-2010, 05:15 PM

8 and I'm 20. I lost my virginity when I'd just turned 14.

Urban Hat€monger ? · 10-24-2010, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla

It's not our fault you are a dirty, dirty whore.

Actually.....

Freebase Dali · 10-24-2010, 05:16 PM

I don't think it's wrong for a girl to simply want to fuck without looking for a relationship. The stigma attached to that is ridiculous... as though females aren't allowed to seek pleasurable, sexual gratification. What, are they not entitled to it? I don't think there's any reason for a girl to be ashamed about a high number of sexual partners, provided she's being responsible enough to ensure protection and not be spreading diseases and having babies all over the place.

Numbers of sexual partners are compared against an average of what "most" people achieve before they lock themselves down into a permanent relationship. Just because there's a "most" doesn't make it a rule.
That said, I've only had 14 different sexual partners [and I'm 29] not including the prostitutes in the brothels of Germany (yes, I did that, and I don't feel bad about it.) and your typical scenarios where the fooling around doesn't get any further than a blowjob or what have you. Of those 14, only 5 were actual relationships. The rest were good, temporary romps for the sheer gratification of it, and I don't see any logical reason for there to be anything wrong with that. For both males and females.

As I got older, though, I stopped going out as much and naturally things slowed down a lot. Now days, it's rare for me to even meet an interesting girl much less bring one home.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 10-24-2010, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

Actually.....

VEGANGELICA · 10-24-2010, 05:36 PM

I've had sex with ten people, but only with two of them did I feel I was really "making love."

If you actually count the number of times you've had sex, I suppose it is like Urban said about his number of partners...I never counted, and that would be hard to do because if you're with someone for a long time and the relationship is working well, I don't think you count how many times you have sex together.

In answer to the OP, I think there is no unrespectable number of partners - whether 0 or 100 - as long as both partners are willing and able to give informed consent.

However, I'd be afraid to be with someone who has had sex with a lot of different people, because I'd be afraid of being discarded easily, too. I'd rather be with someone for whom sex means something beyond just sex...in other words, sex plus relationship.

Freebase Dali · 10-24-2010, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

I've had sex with ten people, but only with two of them did I feel I was really "making love."

If you actually count the number of times you've had sex, I suppose it is like Urban said about his number of partners...I never counted, and that would be hard to do because if you're with someone for a long time and the relationship is working well, I don't think you count how many times you have sex together.

In answer to the OP, I think there is no unrespectable number of partners - whether 0 or 100 - as long as both partners are willing and able to give informed consent.

However, I'd be afraid to be with someone who has had sex with a lot of different people, because I'd be afraid of being discarded easily, too. I'd rather be with someone for whom sex means something beyond just sex...in other words, sex plus relationship.

I agree with most of this. However, I don't think there's anything wrong with a person having sex for the pleasure of it, without getting into a relationship. I don't think that's always a reflection of where your heart lies in a relationship, but I can understand why people would see it that way.

10-24-2010, 05:13 PM	#52 (permalink)
Urban Hat€monger ? The Sexual Intellectual Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Somewhere cooler than you Posts: 18,605	I hate both of you __________________ Urb's RYM Stuff Most people sell their soul to the devil, but the devil sells his soul to Nick Cave.

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downwardspiral Music Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 734	8 and I'm 20. I lost my virginity when I'd just turned 14. __________________

10-24-2010, 05:13 PM	#53 (permalink)
Spike*Spiegel Five Feet of Fury Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: suburbanite Posts: 761	Doesn't change the fact that you're a whore, sweetheart

10-24-2010, 05:16 PM	#57 (permalink)
Freebase Dali Partying on the inside Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 5,584	I don't think it's wrong for a girl to simply want to fuck without looking for a relationship. The stigma attached to that is ridiculous... as though females aren't allowed to seek pleasurable, sexual gratification. What, are they not entitled to it? I don't think there's any reason for a girl to be ashamed about a high number of sexual partners, provided she's being responsible enough to ensure protection and not be spreading diseases and having babies all over the place. Numbers of sexual partners are compared against an average of what "most" people achieve before they lock themselves down into a permanent relationship. Just because there's a "most" doesn't make it a rule. That said, I've only had 14 different sexual partners [and I'm 29] not including the prostitutes in the brothels of Germany (yes, I did that, and I don't feel bad about it.) and your typical scenarios where the fooling around doesn't get any further than a blowjob or what have you. Of those 14, only 5 were actual relationships. The rest were good, temporary romps for the sheer gratification of it, and I don't see any logical reason for there to be anything wrong with that. For both males and females. As I got older, though, I stopped going out as much and naturally things slowed down a lot. Now days, it's rare for me to even meet an interesting girl much less bring one home.