Awkward social situations

s_k · 02-08-2011, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

I wasn't trying to say you were desperate and I wasn't like taking a jab at you. I'm just saying, I know why me and my ex don't talk. Cause we are never going to be in a relationship again. Took like half a year of banging and constant back-and-forth, and fighting and letting go and all that stuff to realize it. But eventually you just get to that point where you don't want them, they don't want you, and you move on.

Allright. Well I've been through that and we both never had the idea of giving up for more than a couple of minutes (The "I really can't take this anymore"-moments, you know).

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I'm saying that you are NOT at that point. You never will be cause you want her back. She seems like she wants you back too. Let me ask you this: If she keeps dating this other dude and someday marries him...or since you said about not believing in marriage, lets just say they date for the next 20 years. Are you going to be happy with staying a friend like you are now?

Sure, no prob.
I won't be waiting for her to come back. That would be sick.
I've never really done that. It's over, we've tried until we were sure it was over. It's not realistic to think it's going to work the next time.
But it IS realistic to think that we still have a lot of reasons for staying friends. More than anyone else in our lives. We have a lot to talk about, a lot of understanding for eachother so we can help eachother.
It's a different situation from yours. We were definitely meant to be friends, at least. And I'm usually not all that much into the 'meant to be' stuff, but this has been confirmed over and over and over again. We are absolutely convinced we should stay together one way or the other.
And not having sex really doesn't change a bit about how we feel. Yes there is a certain physical attraction, but even if I only speak to her via the internet, it's still obvious we need eachother in our lives. I'm pretty convinced I won't find a second person like her. It doesn't matter that it's 'only' friendship. There's just too much good stuff to let go.
Really, if you knew her the way I do, you would read you own posts and say 'man that's insane'

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djchameleon · 02-08-2011, 07:28 AM

ummm s_k you are banned from discussing your ex like ever again? lol Dirty shouldn't have gotten you started again. it's just something we'll never really understand, even though I'm beginning to understand it more.

s_k · 02-08-2011, 07:34 AM

Am I banned for that? I didn't know?
I sort of didn't want to talk about it, but I don't really think it's nice to ignore dirty's posting

Bloozcrooz · 02-08-2011, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

ummm s_k you are banned from discussing your ex like ever again? lol Dirty shouldn't have gotten you started again. it's just something we'll never really understand, even though I'm beginning to understand it more.

Lol..S k it does sound like your still in love with her in a way. Like the wanting her back kind of way. However you cant help how you feel man so I understand...somewhat. I could introduce you to a couple chicks I know though that would probally leave you more bitter than Billy Bob Thorton in Bad Santa if you like? Then you wouldnt be worried in the least about being a friend to any of them. In fact you woudnt worry about opinion from anyone at all for that matter. Just a suggestion though

Howard the Duck · 02-08-2011, 07:40 AM

it all sounds pretty obssessive to me

s_k · 02-08-2011, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Boozinbloozin

Lol..S k it does sound like your still in love with her in a way. Like the wanting her back kind of way.

Oh I want her back in a 'kind of way'. Just not in the way we used to be.
I don't know if it would ever work again. I don't think so.
But so far I see no reason why we shouldn't be friends.

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However you cant help how you feel man so I understand...somewhat. I could introduce you to a couple chicks I know though that would probally leave you more bitter than Billy Bob Thorton in Bad Santa if you like? Then you wouldnt be worried in the least about being a friend to any of them. In fact you woudnt worry about opinion from anyone at all for that matter. Just a suggestion though

Haha, I seem to pick out the right girls somehow.
I listen to my friends who have the most awful problems with girls and I can't help but thinking 'not mine...'. I dunno, I think I'm doing something right here. But should I ever discover the opposite, you lot will be the first to know.
In the meantime, don't bother

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MoonlitSunshine · 02-10-2011, 01:09 PM

I'm just thinking her current boyfriend must be getting pretty annoyed that he's not the guy that his girlfriend talks to the most. There aint room for three people in a couple.

s_k · 02-10-2011, 03:04 PM

Well... I was there first

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He sees her every week, I see her once every six weeks.
And he's the one who wants to come late and leave early.
He's the one who doesn't want to SMS because he thinks of it as 'expensive and unneccesary'.
So it's not that I talk a lot to her, he just doesn't do a **** to get in contact with her.

Bloozcrooz · 02-13-2011, 04:41 PM

Being around my x-wifes boyfriend when they come to pick up my son. And knowing she's cheated on him several times with me...well im getting use to it now. At first it was weird.

s_k · 02-13-2011, 05:04 PM

As easy going as I may seem about my ex... I don't want to see her new boyfriend. No ****ing way.

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MoonlitSunshine Dat's Der Bunny! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,088	I'm just thinking her current boyfriend must be getting pretty annoyed that he's not the guy that his girlfriend talks to the most. There aint room for three people in a couple. __________________ "I found it eventually, at the bottom of a locker in a disused laboratory, with a sign on the door saying "Beware of the Leopard". Ever thought of going into Advertising?" - Arthur Dent

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s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Well... I was there first . He sees her every week, I see her once every six weeks. And he's the one who wants to come late and leave early. He's the one who doesn't want to SMS because he thinks of it as 'expensive and unneccesary'. So it's not that I talk a lot to her, he just doesn't do a **** to get in contact with her. __________________ Click here to see my collection

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s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	As easy going as I may seem about my ex... I don't want to see her new boyfriend. No ****ing way. __________________ Click here to see my collection

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Howard the Duck Live by the Sword Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia Posts: 9,075	it all sounds pretty obssessive to me

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Bloozcrooz Justifiable Idiocracy Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 1,244	Being around my x-wifes boyfriend when they come to pick up my son. And knowing she's cheated on him several times with me...well im getting use to it now. At first it was weird.