I think I could be bisexual. Like the idea of being with either a guy or girl doesn't really seem weird to me. The first time I really thought it could be possible was when I thought that the guy Ricky from my so called life had a really cool fashion sense and thought he was so cool. Originally I thought he was just dressing all 90s like but then I found out later in the show that he was gay. He was my favorite character too. I find myself rooting for the gay protagonist in shows quite often too. Its definitely possible that I could be bisexual but in all I really don't know at this time I have never had much of an experience to really push it.

do the ole boner test man.

What is that

watch some hunks nude, wrestling in oil preferably

if it rises, welcome to bi-land

Awesome, I'm glad you shared it with us, I had no idea whatsoever.

I just read a few stories for the first time. I'm an emotional wreck :|.

From one private and prudish person to another, Jack, I'm really glad to see you comfortable enough with us to be honest. I know I'm still not most of the time, haha.

I feel like everytime I tell people I have asexual tendencies they think I mean I'm bi-sexual or that I'm not interested in having relationships. I've kind of experienced in a small way what's it's like to tell people you're gay just because people don't understand what the hell I mean :laughing:

I know someone who is pansexual, and she told me once that people assume that she can't have a monogamous relationship with someone because of her sexuality, which isn't true at all.

I don't think all of that's a qualifier for your possible sexual orientation. Maybe it's because I'm straight, and I know I am, but it seems to me that if you're sexually attracted to both men and women, that's pretty much all you need to look at. I look up to both men and women regardless of their sexual orientation, think they're cool, and root for them. And I know when a guy is attractive or not. It doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to him or want to jump his bones.

I think Duce made it as simple as it is... if you want to bone a guy, you'll know.

There are a lot of ways to look at sexuality, and it's a very complex topic, but I think most people look at it on a sliding scale. Looking at it this way, it's quite normal to not be exclusively homosexual or heterosexual. I know the most famous study, the Kinsey study, showed that about half of the males tested had reacted sexually to both sexes in their adult life. I'm not really sure what "reacted" means in this case, however.

As for Odyshape, nothing you were describing was sexual.

So, I know that I don't post here incredibly often, but I feel that I might as well make a contribution to this thread.

So, I figured out that I was gay not too long ago. Before that I had been in denial for several years, trying to force myself to be straight, but it never felt right. Eventually, through a combination of various factors, I realized that I was actually attracted to men and stopped hiding from myself. That was...half a year ago? Maybe more? I can't really remember when the exact time was that I "knew", it was more of a gradual process.

In any case, I kept it to myself for a while; I had never been one to discuss sex with people (mostly due to my insecurities with regards to my own preferences), and I wasn't (and still am not) looking to date, so it was fairly easy. Eventually, though, I came out to a few friends, who took it exceedingly well. With the prospect of university coming up soon, though, I feel that soon i'll probably have to come out to my other friends and family, because I do want to start looking into having an actual relationship, but I have no interest in trying to hide it from everyone (and I imagine that with facebook and all that now it would come out on its own sooner rather than later).

My worry now though is that certain people will ostracize me completely in my family. We've never had a homosexual, and it's not a topic that ever really comes up, so I don't know for sure how a lot of them feel. Still, i'll have to bite the bullet at some point. Any pointers on how to broach this subject from those who have done it before?

It's absolutely fantastic that you've done this, and thanks for sharing it with us! In regards to the way your family will see you, what you ought to find is that they love you as a person, and usually shouldn't be particularly hostile to you.

It's about not just about confidence, it's that you've found out something else about yourself, which is nothing to be ashamed of. Hopefully your family will understand!

I wish you the best of luck!

I know you guys are going to undoubtedly call bull**** on me but I think I might be bisexual. I've had crushes on girls, I'm turned on by girls and I would certainly date a girl. I just hate announcing this fact because I might get made fun of or told I'm only saying that for attention.

A lot of bi girls get accused of that, but I believe you. What's also annoying is that some people think that bisexuality is a myth; that bisexuals are just gay people in denial or some other equally stupid belief.

If it helps at all, I feel exactly the same although I'm male.
I'm not calling bullshit or anything, I think it's perfectly reasonable and something I'm equally uneasy about.

I definitely subscribe to the idea that bisexuality is real; sure, there may be some that just don't want to admit that they're gay, but I see no reason why someone shouldn't be attracted to both sexes.

Well, so far we have had Dayvan Cowboy, Odyshape, Doctor Soft, Il Duce, Above and myself at least say that we either are or think we are bisexual.

You can't really just dismiss it, I suppose.

Bunch of homos;)

I've considered it myself. The way I see it, with the amount of "mancrushes" and "girlcrushes" about, a huge amount of people are at least a little bi-curious.

I know...

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I'm not gay, but I had a lot of people (especially in High School) assume I was or ask me out of curiosity. I remember in a Photography class two of the students were SO sure I was gay.

Yo why I am not on the bi list? :B

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Punks not allowed.

You know what? I honestly didn't know... sorry!
It has been edited accordingly.

Punk rockers are people too!

It's aight. Also about your questioning, are you sure you just haven't been spending too much time around us fagellios? :laughing:

Beats learning anything, I suppose ;)

They often say that saying you're bisexual is often down to uncertainty or lack of fatherly influence, but I've got to the stage where I've decided to throw all that crap out the window because I honestly would be happy to date someone who I liked regardless of their gender. Until I've actually found it uncomfortable from experience, I'm not going to say anything different.

You scare me, Salami.

Bloody hell, I could actually try to and post a picture of myself if you like.

i really wanted to suck on the dong of some Japanese dude in the subway just now

I have a hard time accepting it when women claim themselves bisexual, because I was involved with a lot of people in my peer group who claimed bisexuality for the attention it afforded them. I can't count on one hand the friends I had who were lesbians that dated men, and never one another (although all of them said they would screw one another). It's one of those things that has been tarnished by social dishonesty, and as a result I don't often take it seriously, I'm afraid to say.

People in my highschool thought I was gay too, and I can't really blame them looking back. Really though, it wasn't that I wasn't interested in men, I was just surrounded by assholes.

There is quite a phenomena of female bisexuality as soon as we get to college. I'm not complaining. Two sets of boobs is always better than one.

The gay rumour went around about me too but then everyone found out I lost my virginity to a guy two years above me at high school. I had sexual desire to girls back when I was 17, I pashed a girl that I thought was absolutely beautiful and then when 18 I hooked up with my hairdresser at the time, but now I'm sure I'm 95% straight. Girls are great kissers though.

Although I was able to come to terms with my sexuality while in college, gender identity is something I've always had issues with.

Many a time, I've read about transgender folks, and thought that it didn't quite seem to fit me, but it wasn't far off, either. I've never really been able to identify with girls, though. I don't understand how their minds work, and all of my close friends are guys. When I hang out with friends and one of them mentions that I'm a girl, I honestly feel kind of irritated, because I always feel like I'm just one of the guys.

With that said, I don't feel like I'm completely male, nor that I should be biologically male. This is why I never was able to label myself as transgender; for the most part, my physical identity has always been fine by me. I have no desire to have a penis, nor do I desire to dress like a man. My mind, however, has always felt predominately male. With men, I can always feel where they're coming from, and it's always been easier for me to empathize with males. As a child, I was likely to spend my recess playing games with the boys, chasing the girls, and talking about baseball and Goosebumps books. Conversation always flowed naturally with the guys, but always felt uncomfortable and confusing with girls. But I've almost always kept my hair fairly long, taken care with my make-up when I go out, and attempted to wear clothes that were more femininely flattering. The idea of even dressing completely tomboy-ishly or cutting my hair off, not wearing make-up...that doesn't appeal to me in the slightest, because that doesn't feel like me.

What I'm saying is that I'm really trying to come to terms with my gender identity...I'm not too sure what I am. I'm physically female, identify as physically female, but mentally, I feel more like a male. I suppose the term most typically used is gender queer, but I'm really not sure if that's correct.

The closest I can come right now to understanding it is that "I'm Sara."

i don't really have any transgender issues, i'm completely comfortable with being a man

i am however, metrosexual, and has a few feminine traits

I actually have a hard time convincing people that I'm gay. Apparently I'm really straight acting which is like what no have a purse.

It's not your issue if you can't convince people. It's the people who aren't open to other people's views that are the issue. The only persons opinion that matters is your own.

And I apologize if that came off as preachy, it wasn't my intention, i'm just saying is all, with the most sincerity I can give.

This is going to be a big shock to most who have met me here already today: I'm gay.

How I ended up here is kinda a long-winded story, but you're not going to be trapped on a couch for nine years like Ted Moseby's children.

As far back as I can remember I was attracted to males. The male physique especially,. I can't put a precise date on this, but 'twas prolly around 9 or 10. I never really gave it much thought of consideration at the time because I just assumed I was straight and that was just the way it was. I lost my virginity pretty early, In a pretty..random chance encounter with a friend of mine..and this was a recurring thing for a little bit but again even though I clearly was attracted to guys I just never gave it any consideration because as a male only child that's what I was expected to be.

Most of high school (from what I remember) I continued under the assumption I was straight. I never dated girls irl but I online dated a girl who I'm still really close friends with.

Around 07 i kinda started talking to guys online, messing around with guys online and stuff, which opened up the possibility that I might be bi. All I remember from that period (spring 07-fall 09) was going back and forth between thinking I'm bi and I'm gay. I think that in my mind I thought coming out as bi would be more acceptable to my parents, because there might "still be some hope" or whatever.


This was my first "coming out experience" Like I mentioned in the orientation thread, I tested the waters by coming out first as bi and then as gay to people I knew online.

There wasn't a single light bulb moment..but I guess I just realized that...I don't have any desire to be sexually intimate with a woman.

My first coming out experience with a person irl was in a car with two of my friends from college..it was really awkward cause..we were talking about something relating to dating..like maybe it was us going on a triple date and I made some comment offhand, and one of them just straight up asked me..and the rest of the car ride home, which was only a Ew minutes, was just..silent..and afterward I had to go someplace for a class meeting, leaving the whole situation open and awkward..I talked to one of the guys on Skype during the meeting and afterward him and I went for a walk and I essentially came out to him..I eventually came out to the other friend in the car later, and they were both amazingly supportive about it.

The next couple months i came out to friends at home, the rest of my college friends, and immediate family.

Almost everybody was amazingly wonderful about it all. I feel blessed, as a gay man to have such wonderful and supportive friends and family and blah blah. Haha :)

Anyway that's all I have for now..I think

Okbye

I seriously respect everyone's sexuality. I do not judge a book by it's cover. I mind my own business.

I look back on my post and think, how do you know if your gay/bisexual? For those that are, what made you realise you were attracted to the same sex?