It is, but they don't owe it to you.

Holding the door for others is an automatic reaction for me. It's courteous. People always say thank you. They're pretty polite.

That seems like kind of fine point to me. I do kind of think we owe it to our fellow humans not to be rude.

The first thing I thought of when I saw this thread:



I was immediately intrigued when I first saw this video, but it's definitely true. Get a few friends in on it with you, and you'll be surprised (or maybe not, if you expected it to work) at how people are so intent on conforming in an anonymous group setting.

It's bizarre.

Edit: And also related to the thread:

I can't understand being offended if they don't. They didn't ask for it and it just doesn't seem rude to me if they just walk on through.
I do hold doors for people and if they flatly ignore me I feel nothing. Shit, maybe I need to see a psychologist about this.

I don't know. If someone does something nice for me, I think I'd be pretty rude if I didn't thank them in some way. Maybe it's just the way that I was raised.

Why are we making saying two words out to be a big deal? You're acting like they've terribly inconvenienced you by now making you say "thanks" lol. I always hold doors and always say thanks, and yeah am slightly irritated when people don't thank me but it happens so often that it lingers in my mind for like 5 seconds.

It doesn't even enter my mind whether they thank me or not, and I'm probably a non-thanker myself. An open door seems like nothing more than an open door whether it was opened by another human or by the wind. Even when I'm the person holding it open for somebody.
I was raised to be polite and I'm seriously a little bit freaked out by this small example of a lack of empathy because I never realized it before. Schizoid pathology does run in parts of my family so hopefully it's just my nurture.

Man, I wish the wind opened doors for me. :(

"Thank you" to me is a gesture that they appreciated what I did for them, if they didn't appreciate and don't care that I held the door, of what use was opening it? I do it for their sake and "thank you" to me is a reminder that they like when I do it, and don't feel inconvenienced by it. Maybe I'm overthinking this :shycouch: