Human Behaviour

Stephen · 12-09-2012, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Thom Yorke

Lying to fit in, no matter how small or inconsequential of a lie it is ("Oh yeah, I've seen that movie.")

Yeah my 8 yo daughter does that all the time. Some of the stuff she makes up just to fit a conversation with her friends really puzzles me.

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Originally Posted by jackhammer

Drivers who don't indicate. I don't drive so I get pavement rage. There is a roundabout that I have to traverse everyday on my walk to work and I am lucky if 10% of drivers indicate a left turn so if you are not indicating to take that left turn I am completely in my right to cross over.

I really hate that. Like if I'm waiting at a t-intersection for someone and they turn the corner without indicating so I waited for nothing. Especially frustrating when it wastes a break in traffic so you're sitting there another 5 minutes.

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Originally Posted by jackhammer

People who say thank you when you hold a door open for them restore my faith in good manners as I always hold a door open for people. People who DON'T say a thank you will get a very sarcastic " you're welcome" at the top of my voice. Not had a retort yet but then a shaved head and beard usually works as a deterrent not to mess.

What about when you hold a door open for someone and there is a rush of people exiting but no-one else moves to hold the door for those coming behind them so you either stand there like an idiot holding the door for everyone or let the door close on someone which looks bad when you held it for all those who came before them. Stupid social quandaries.

Trollheart · 12-09-2012, 08:20 PM

Yeah, I was gonna post in the "Grinds my gears" thread about holding doors. It's worse with women. I swear, at least 70 percent of the women (young girls. older women, very old grandma types) for whom I've opened, held a door or let them go first fail to even acknowledge the gesture. It's no big thing to do it, but you could just as easily not do it, as many I see do. So when you're a gentleman it's nice to be thanked. Even a ****ing smile will do, but to be totally blanked, and they walk through as if it's their divine right to go ahead of you, that you should hold the door and they owe you nothing, not even thanks, in response. That pisses me off. I also do the "You're welcome", but as unlike Jack I'm a weedy glasses-wearing nerd, and a coward, I say it quietly through gritted teeth.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 12-09-2012, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Yeah, I was gonna post in the "Grinds my gears" thread about holding doors. It's worse with women. I swear, at least 70 percent of the women (young girls. older women, very old grandma types) for whom I've opened, held a door or let them go first fail to even acknowledge the gesture. It's no big thing to do it, but you could just as easily not do it, as many I see do. So when you're a gentleman it's nice to be thanked. Even a ****ing smile will do, but to be totally blanked, and they walk through as if it's their divine right to go ahead of you, that you should hold the door and they owe you nothing, not even thanks, in response. That pisses me off. I also do the "You're welcome", but as unlike Jack I'm a weedy glasses-wearing nerd, and a coward, I say it quietly through gritted teeth.

They don't owe you anything.

Thom Yorke · 12-09-2012, 08:27 PM

Want a thank you for holding the door?

Problem solved.

**Janszoon** · 12-09-2012, 10:16 PM

Why is it that, when you're trying to pass someone who is walking slowly on the sidewalk, they almost always start to drift to the side that you're trying to pass them on? Is it simply that people drift from side to side as they walk so you have 50/50 chance of passing on the wrong side? Or is some weird reaction people have to other people trying to pass them?

Engine · 12-09-2012, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Hermione

They don't owe you anything.

Agreed. And it's not even a sexist thing. My ex used to rage when she held a door for anybody (of any gender) and they didn't thank her. I never understood it. Never will. Don't hold a door for anybody if you're doing it for praise. If you do it because you feel it's polite then just do it and don't expect any response.

Rjinn · 12-09-2012, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon

Why is it that, when you're trying to pass someone who is walking slowly on the sidewalk, they almost always start to drift to the side that you're trying to pass them on? Is it simply that people drift from side to side as they walk so you have 50/50 chance of passing on the wrong side? Or is some weird reaction people have to other people trying to pass them?

I get people always leaning the way I'm trying to pass them. Sometimes I have to awkwardly squeeze in. But yeah, it does seem like a weird pattern.

Burning Down · 12-09-2012, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Hermione

They don't owe you anything.

QFT.

I hold doors for people because I was taught that it is a polite thing to do. Most of the time people do say thanks or something along those lines, but I don't expect it. They don't owe me anything. I do nice things for people because that's how I am - I don't do them to gain approval or anything of the sort.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 12-09-2012, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Burning Down

QFT.

I hold doors for people because I was taught that it is a polite thing to do. Most of the time people do say thanks or something along those lines, but I don't expect it. They don't owe me anything. I do nice things for people because that's how I am - I don't do them to gain approval or anything of the sort.

Exactly. The only time I do throw out a nasty comment to someone in public like that, is if they bump into me w/o saying excuse me. That's ****ing rude.

**Janszoon** · 12-09-2012, 10:41 PM

It is pretty rude for people to not say thanks when someone else holds a door for them though.

12-09-2012, 08:20 PM	#12 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,992	Yeah, I was gonna post in the "Grinds my gears" thread about holding doors. It's worse with women. I swear, at least 70 percent of the women (young girls. older women, very old grandma types) for whom I've opened, held a door or let them go first fail to even acknowledge the gesture. It's no big thing to do it, but you could just as easily not do it, as many I see do. So when you're a gentleman it's nice to be thanked. Even a ***ing smile will do, but to be totally blanked, and they walk through as if it's their divine right to go ahead of you, that you should hold the door and they owe you nothing, not even thanks, in response. That pisses me off. I also do the "You're welcome", but as unlike Jack I'm a weedy glasses-wearing nerd, and a coward, I say it quietly through gritted teeth. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018*

12-09-2012, 10:16 PM	#15 (permalink)
Janszoon Mate, Spawn & Die Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Rapping Community Posts: 24,593	Why is it that, when you're trying to pass someone who is walking slowly on the sidewalk, they almost always start to drift to the side that you're trying to pass them on? Is it simply that people drift from side to side as they walk so you have 50/50 chance of passing on the wrong side? Or is some weird reaction people have to other people trying to pass them? __________________ A Night in the Life of the Invisible Man Time & Place 25 Albums You Should Hear Before the Moon Crashes into the Earth and We All Die last.fm

12-09-2012, 10:41 PM	#20 (permalink)
Janszoon Mate, Spawn & Die Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Rapping Community Posts: 24,593	It is pretty rude for people to not say thanks when someone else holds a door for them though. __________________ A Night in the Life of the Invisible Man Time & Place 25 Albums You Should Hear Before the Moon Crashes into the Earth and We All Die last.fm

12-09-2012, 08:27 PM	#14 (permalink)
Thom Yorke Music Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,848	Want a thank you for holding the door? Problem solved.