She ought to be informed. If she's cool with it then, all power to you. It's your dishonesty that irritates me, not your sex life.

There's really no need for name calling so plz stop insulting me

you are judging me like im fooling this girls when im not

read my posts carefully and then form your opinion also don't just focus on my story answer the thread

Er, don't you have a child? I don't know if it's by this (real not online) woman, but if so then she's invested in your life and I think you should probably be thinking of your kid rather than who do you want to sleep with?

Sorry dude but you'll get no sympathy from me.

When I read this thread I thought the title meant can you meet someone online without being already involved? That's not a hookup guy: you're cheating on her. Online or not makes no difference, unless you've told her and she's okay with it, which frankly I'd find hard to believe.

i understand what you mean

but can you understand me?

she doesn't seem to care to be exclusive her actions don't reflect that

if i bring it up, it's gonna come out a nowhere and it might even irritate her even though she doesn't want to be with me

cause see, we have like an unspoken agreement and idk what's gonna happen if i bring it up

and if im forced to choose, what if i choose her and she doesn't even want to be with me?

here i am trying to be a nice guy in a situation that doesn't call for it

i understand you guys mean well but things aren't that simple

^You need to clear your conscience though. It doesn't matter what she thinks. If you tell her and she reacts not in a good way, that's not your fault. You need to tell her regardless.

Then you're just stringing her along. Let her know about how you don't have strong feelings for her before it's too late. Just break it off. If you never had the commitment talk with her, I can also assume you never had a talk where you established that you were just FWBs or that you are in some kind of open relationship. So really, you're going behind her back and talking to other girls. Neither relationship is going to last if you're not honest with anybody, least of all yourself.

@Trollheart

Don't misunderstand, the point of this thread was to talk about internet relationships

my story was just related to that it's not the main point of this thread

And omg, since when are girls fragile little flowers that don't the same sh*t us guys do?

Girls cheat too

And understand, we came to that agreement to be as realist as possible

that is to say, she can go out with her friends and hook up with a guy if she chooses to

how can we demand from each other exclusivity when we are not even there?

also mentioning my daughter is completely irrelevant
this has nothing to do with her or how i behave as a father to her

See this is actually helpful :)

you're right, i should do it for myself
cause it's true, im splitting in 2

@Burning down

you are still not getting that im not stringing her along, she's a 23 yr old girl and makes her own decisions

Im not using her more than she is using me

even before i made this thread i was thinking of sitting down and talking this out with her

but what if i ruin it?

to you guys this is just another post but to me this is my actual life!!

im not gonna f*ck up my situation just cause you guys don't approve, it doesn't matter how much you insult me or demean me i KNOW what im doing wrong and what im NOT doing wrong

If you missed any more points you could play for the Canucks.

Personally, if I were in your shoes, I would tell her to sit down with you, and have a serious talk about your relationship with her and see what she wants to do with the current relationship. If you and her both agree that it isn't working, than you guys can separate and you can continue to be with your internet girl conscience free. However, I don't think putting it off is going to help, because the bad karma and nagging conscience will only get worse. Do whatever you want to do, but i'm just giving you some serious advice to help you out.