@Ki

thank you, i appreciate you speaking to me like a person :)

LOL the rest of you judging me fron your ivory towers should reserve your judgement cause you don't really care what happens to me

You're using this fake concern to preach your own morals not to help me

you don't care about the repercussions im gonna end up living
but at least i'll have peace of mind right?

Bullsh*t!!

im the one who's gonna end up alone!

what does it matter if i did the right thing if end up alone?

You're concerned about yourself enough for all of the rest of us, haha.

lol, that i am :p:

i just don't wanna ruin everything ya know?

we work together and have to see each other everyday
if it ends up bad, it's gonna SUPER AWKWARD between us

nah. it doesn't have to be awkward. just have a conversation exploring the direction of the relationship. if it's just sex and hanging out, and that's cool with both of you, rock it. if she wants you to be monogamous, then you have a decision to make out of respect for another human being and the fact that you don't want to be a liar. you don't want to be a liar, right? and if it ends up that the most adult thing thing to do is cut it off, then be adults and deal with it. it's not the end of the world, and you could probably hang out without having sex and getting your d*ck sucked if you two have as good a bond as you're leading on.

it can't just be about you wanting to not be alone. this is ripping you in two precisely because that need to not be alone is actually folding in on itself because you gave it too much attention. it's made you weak and you need to overcome it. you can call that judgemental or whatever, but you'd only be fooling yourself if fooling anyone at all.

but again, if she's cool with you doing god-knows-what with other women, then you're golden. some women are totally okay with that. so are some men. some people just want to have fun and not be committed. but it's gotta be honest, or it'll have your head spinning.

That's great, she can make her own decisions. What if she decides she has feelings for you? This is why you need to be honest with her about everything. Honesty should be at the forefront of every kind of relationship. Sit down, have a serious conversation, and if that ruins everything then you have confirmation that this wasn't going anywhere in the first place. If she's not serious about you, she should have no problem letting you go.

If you're fearing the repercussions of your actions, you have to realize that you're responsible. But yes, your conscience will be cleared and if that's more important to you, you'll be able to deal with the consequences.

That's the main reason why office romances are risky. If/when it comes to that, you'll have to swallow your pride and deal with it.

Not everything is as cut and dried as we'd like it to be.

this thread is so ****ing skeezy

^Seems that way, since even when I was trying to be civil and help him out, he has no intentions of being mature and talking to his real life girlfriend about it.

He just wants us to make him feel like he's not a douche for this

That's my feeling as well. We're not here to validate or justify somebody's poor choices.

I don't know if you read the first two sentences of the first post but that probably wasn't his intent.

He kind of brought it on himself for sharing his story first instead of waiting for others then back peddaling and saying that the thread isn't about his personal story.