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The Batlord 04-04-2013 08:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Burning Down (Post 1303483)
I was saying that I think it's important to know someone's sexual history before you sleep with them to know about any potential diseases, etc, if you're monogamous.
But we're not talking about monogamy. In monogamy there should be a presumption of intimacy that makes it acceptable to expect a certain amount of transparency in general and sexual history would just fall under that.

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If both of you are dating other people at the same time then it's important to let them know THAT, and you can just assume that they're sleeping around as well. And if the relationship is open like that, concerns about STD's, pregnancies, etc should be at the forefront.
But why shouldn't this include random hookups? You can get AIDS from a one night stand the same as you can from a regular sexual relationship.

Paedantic Basterd 04-04-2013 08:41 AM
If you're in an exclusive relationship with someone, probably all that's necessary is "I've had a few partners", and you can both have a first date at the clinic and take some extra precautions.

If you're sleeping around behind someone's back, you're not giving them that heads up.

The Batlord 04-04-2013 08:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Pedestrian (Post 1303806)
If you're sleeping around behind someone's back, you're not giving them that heads up.
Because your personal life is not their business. I get what you're saying and it has logic, but I think privacy trumps it. If you're in a friends with benefits relationship you should assume that the other person is sleeping with other people, but that doesn't mean that you have a right to that information.

Scarlett O'Hara 04-06-2013 05:08 PM
Damn straight I would deserve that information. I'm not risking a sexually transmitted disease. But that is why I wouldn't put myself in that situation in the first place.

Burning Down 04-06-2013 06:57 PM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord (Post 1303810)
Because your personal life is not their business. I get what you're saying and it has logic, but I think privacy trumps it. If you're in a friends with benefits relationship you should assume that the other person is sleeping with other people, but that doesn't mean that you have a right to that information.
But I have a right to know if they have an STD that I could catch. If you know you have an STD and you do not tell your partner, and they catch it, they have a right to sue you. And in a lot of places, if you knowingly have HIV/AIDS and you give it to a partner without telling them, that's a felony. So yeah, if I caught something from the person I was sleeping with, I wouldn't really give a damn about who exactly they caught it from at that point. I would just want to know that they are infected with something.

http://health-care.lawyers.com/v2/Do...ut-an-STD.html

Black Francis 04-07-2013 02:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Engine
Far be it from me to give give dating advice but in the case of internet "hookups", an emotional affair is what's being had.

However, I think the OP made a point (more than once) to say that his current physical relationship is established as casual, uncommitted, and not monogamous. So.. why would his "internet hookup" be any worse than him dating multiple people in real life? That's pretty normal for humans.

I'm confused about why people presume that the real-life girl expects monogamy. OP said expressly that she does not. If she does then, yeah, I agree with the "you're a sleazy douche" comments but he claims that she does not. If in doubt, he should talk to real-life girl about it and accept the consequences, as has already been said.
i think i love you Engine <3

i think i was very clear about that but somehow i ended up being a sleaze bag :(

and a little update, we did talk and now we're officially dating so to speak..

The Batlord 04-08-2013 08:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Burning Down (Post 1304511)
But I have a right to know if they have an STD that I could catch. If you know you have an STD and you do not tell your partner, and they catch it, they have a right to sue you. And in a lot of places, if you knowingly have HIV/AIDS and you give it to a partner without telling them, that's a felony. So yeah, if I caught something from the person I was sleeping with, I wouldn't really give a damn about who exactly they caught it from at that point. I would just want to know that they are infected with something.

http://health-care.lawyers.com/v2/Do...ut-an-STD.html
We're not talking about STDs (of course you should tell a sexual partner about any STDs). We're talking about sexual history, and you still haven't answered my question. Does a one night stand have the right to your sexual history?

FETCHER. 04-08-2013 08:49 AM
Well if you're not completely monogamous with someone then you should be using protection instead of relying on them to tell you that they've got their finger in more than one pie. They don't need to tell you that if its not exclusive because it would be none if your business.

Burning Down 04-08-2013 08:51 AM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord (Post 1304842)
We're not talking about STDs (of course you should tell a sexual partner about any STDs). We're talking about sexual history, and you still haven't answered my question. Does a one night stand have the right to your sexual history?
Well one night stands are generally anonymous, right? You don't know this person, they don't know you, so nobody is really obligated to say anything about their sexual history. Just assume that they've slept with a number of other people and leave it at that.

I've never had a one night stand so I'm not exactly sure what the rules and expectations are.

The Batlord 04-08-2013 08:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Burning Down (Post 1304847)
Well one night stands are generally anonymous, right? You don't know this person, they don't know you, so nobody is really obligated to say anything about their sexual history. Just assume that they've slept with a number of other people and leave it at that.

I've never had a one night stand so I'm not exactly sure what the rules and expectations are.
You can still give them a disease. If the logic is that the possibility of giving someone a disease means that you are obligated to tell someone of your sexual history then it shouldn't matter how well you know them or want to know them.


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