I had a great relationship with a woman and then all of a sudden, one day she dumped me for no apparent reason.

Are you sure you're not me? LOL! Although I go to the movies a lot, I drink (but I don't go crazy and sometimes go for long periods without it), and I'm simply uncomfortable at huge parties. I often wondered how someone could ever love me with all my idiosyncrasies and interests. But then I concluded that if they love me, then they can accept those things. There's no such thing as "normal", really. I'm a little strange, and my boyfriend is equally as strange in his own way. Some of that could be due to him being from another country - different cultural norms and such that might be weird to me but not to him.

One of my biggest idiosyncrasies (if you want to call it that), is that I don't like the feeling of being touched. I really like my personal space, and I was happy to meet someone who respected that and who waited until I got to know him better before going forward.

I know the feeling. I really do. But one time I tried it and it worked wonders, setting everything in motion. Worked wonders for my parents too :)

There is always a reason maybe you just didn't pick up on the signs before it happened.

Hey, it's good to see someone with many of the same quirks as myself. Yeah, that's the conclusion I've come to, myself. If they're worth pursuing, they'll enjoy my weirdness, not be turned off by it. I'm pretty sure I'm just going through some post-20 angst, looking at the world, my life, and my future and wondering, "what the flying fudgemonkey am I doing?" Cue confusion and stress.

Interestingly, I'm the exact opposite. I thoroughly enjoy touch, all touch. And I mean, beyond a sensual, sexual way. I just mean, I enjoy casual physical contact with those I am close to, friends, family, whatever. I don't really feel like I'm a friend of someone until I can hug them, but I know this is NOT the case with most of America, so I just have to convince myself that just because they're not wanting a hug, does not mean they aren't my friend. I know there's some psychological oddity there, but hey, at least I recognize it.

I should have been clearer. I actually meant that I don't enjoy touches from people I don't know that well. People brushing past me in a crowd is uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, I like most kinds of physical touch. I'm just very selective about who gets into my personal space.

I saw it coming and even told her that but she completely denied it. This is what threw me off, because I started to think we had something.

I've been there, letting love cloud your judgement and second guess your gut instincts.

How can you have something if you never stuck your dick in her?

In theory you can. We were talking about getting married before she broke up. We talked about doing it eventually as well.

So you were talking about having sex AND get married? Are you all in high school or something? Not being condescending, just asking.