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Originally Posted by WolvenDogma (Post 1315383)

I apologize but I don't really understand...

Do you choose to forgive her and be the bigger person if it will also mean you live longer? Or would you be the coward who gives up the fight because the outcome is uncertain?

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Originally Posted by WolvenDogma (Post 1315389)

I wish to see if my feelings for her are truly still intact, but first to see if she is actually sorry for everything she put me through. And if all of that is good, then to be the bigger person, I refuse to kneel for her actions against me ever again, submitting to her because my love is so strong. I'd rather die on my feet than live on my knees.

So ask her, don't punish her. You won't get an honest answer if you do that.

We havent even spoken in almost 6 months... I have no idea what she's like now... I plan on talking to her friends, seeing how theyre the ones who drug me back into this never ending battle.

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Originally Posted by WolvenDogma (Post 1315374)

Well, if you've ever read my lyrics you probably know I have quite the issue with my ex-girlfriend. Well here's the short of it, 1 year ago I fell in love with this girl, Lyrick. Pure love at first sight stuff, and we ended up dating for about a month when she said that she had cheated on me and was leaving me out of guilt.

This does my absolute ****ing nut in, women who give bull**** wishy washy excuses as to why they do shit. Left you out of guilt lol, how decent of her, That's quite manipulative to be honest.

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That day I nearly committed suicide and began self harm. Over the next 8 months I went through hell trying to get her back, and in the end. She moved away to a town down the road. In my heart all I know is that she will always be in my mind, I kid you not that every day for the past year and a half has been spent thinking about her. Well, recently her friends have come around saying that she "Hasn't forgotten about me" and "Misses me." Well, I'm at a crossroads... Should I give her a 2nd chance if there is the opportunity? Tell her that I won't stand for anymore bull**** and try to make a go of it again? Or should I pretend she doesn't exist anymore and keep moving on? Lately i've been falling deeper into depression, and closer to suicide that ever. Maybe this would help me get better... I need opinions guys... They say that if you love something, let it go. And if it comes back, its yours and if not then it was never meant to be... Well the thing I love may be returning... And I don't know what to do....

Those are breadcrumbs bro. If she wanted another chance she'd be kicking your door down to get to you, trust me. Anything other than a sincere apology is b/s and not worth replying to.

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Originally Posted by WolvenDogma (Post 1315380)

She later said that she had lied to me about that on the grounds that I was so clingy...
Which i cannot deny. I was and still am over-attached. But still, so much she did... so many times she broke me... And I still love her after everything... Whats wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong with you. The fact is, she isn't attracted to you. Everything else is b/s.

Do you think if you were the man of her dreams, she would be arsed if you were clingy lol?

I admit desperation is a turn off for women but I doubt that's the case here, it just sounds like you love her and she's not arsed. Obviously if that's the case, you will come across as clingy.

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Originally Posted by Fluffy Kittens (Post 1315548)

I admit desperation is a turn off for women but I doubt that's the case here

Being obsessed with a woman for what one or two years after dating for a month. Yeah, totally not desperation.

@ WolvenDogma

Your "relationship" sounds like high school BS that isn't gonna last past high school anyway. Forget her. You're obviously in an unhealthy way over this, so putting yourself back into it is just going to make that worse.

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Originally Posted by The Batlord (Post 1315571)

Being obsessed with a woman for what one or two years after dating for a month. Yeah, totally not desperation.

Obsessed?

And he says he liked her before they dated.

EDIT - I agree with the 2nd bit you said though actually.

The r/ship I'm in now is really good for me b/c she's not in town a lot so I don't get that feeling of suffocation that generally comes along w/ being in a r/ship.

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Originally Posted by Ass napkin ed (Post 1315599)

The r/ship I'm in now is really good for me b/c she's not in town a lot so I don't get that feeling of suffocation that generally comes along w/ being in a r/ship.

So why be in a relationship?