My best friend text me and asked me if there was something between us, and I text back saying no, that I could understand why he would think that.


and now he's ignoring me.


I know this because I text him asking him and he ignored it...

He has a crush on you?

yeah pretty much, although he never said that he acts really weird when he likes someone and he's been acting weird for a while but I never knew it was me.


I've got my finger in other pies man.



As much as I love him as a friend I could seriously never go there.

Just tell him that he's like an apple pie, and you want rhubarb.

Theres not a lot you can do really if he is ignoring you. Just be available to be talk and be honest but empathetic when he stops ignoring you.

So me and an acquaintance of mines have been getting really close recently, he had a party at the weekend and I left my bag accidentally when I left for work the next morning, so yesterday I go to pick it up and I took him to Asda for some food because his parents are currently on holiday, we come back and watch tv and talk crap for a while, then he asks me if I want to stay for dinner so I say 'yes' and his brother and his gf came round too, when we left (I offered to drive his brother + his gf home on my way to my sisters as they stay in the same street) we didn't hug, kiss, nothing. I dunno if it was because of the audience or if he's just not that interested in me but then I think why would he make me dinner?




I'm actually so bad at reading guys, I find it quite hard to believe when a guy likes me so I don't know if it's just me? Because it probably is.


AAAAAHHHHH.




Edit: me and my best friend are cool btw, or as far as I am aware anyway.

Well, while it's difficult to tell from what you have posted here whether he would view your relationship as a friendship or potentially something more, and I know you have stated you have or have had self-confidence issues, why exactly do you find it hard to believe any bloke wouldn't be interested?

If you really want to know if he's interested in you more than a friend just come out and ask him. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't hesitate to let you know where he stands.

I don't know, I just have a hard time believing guys would want to seriously date me, I know random guys can and do find me attractive but find it hard to believe they would want to make me their girlfriend. I dunno it's hard to explain and is probably the sole reason I've never had a boyfriend.

The sole reason being that you yourself find it hard to believe that they would be interested in you that way, you mean?

Maybe this is the case. I don't know. While I obviously don't know you personally, what I do know about you would suggest you are attractive, intelligent and have a sense of humour and really, I don't see any reason why plenty of lads wouldn't be interested in you that way. You've said yourself that you are more confident now than you were, maybe more confidence in who you are will continue to come with time. I'd say you deserve that.

Not that I think you necessarily need a significant other to justify your existence or anything, but the concept of being a "whole person" sounds silly to me. What does that even mean? I don't think percentages of wholeness were involved in human evolution. In fact I think that if the concept of being a "whole person" makes sense at all then I think the nature of human existence would preclude the possibility of you being one without human relationships since humans evolved as social creatures. Whether or not this means that you need one or more of those relationships to be romantic can be up for debate, but if you think it's possible to be a "whole person" all by yourself then that just sounds like nonsense. The human brain just wasn't built for that.

whole person by my own standards!!!!

As far as the whole "other half" thing goes, I feel like it's more about finding a partner that matches how you see yourself and where you are heading in the future. Not about being an incomplete person without them which is just romantic nonsense.

I bet there are loads of guys willing to date you. I used to struggle to find guys that were willing to be my boyfriend and until I became confident in myself then I started to find them. A lot of guys are shy and find it hard to admit when they like you, particularly if you are outgoing among your friends.

You are beautiful, charming and kind I would totally date you if I were a guy.

You're such a great guy for saying that. I've noticed you always see the good things in people and judge them on that.

Yeah that's pretty much it :( lol.

You always know the right kinda stuff to say. Which is why I probably burden you more than anyone else haha :)

Thanks lady! :) I do think it has a lot to do with my confidence, I've noticed a few different occasions where guys have clearly shown some sort of interest.




I also apologise for constantly coming on here with my guy problemsquestions constantly but I'm ridiculously private and I wouldn't speak to any of my friends about it.

Never a burden Kay. You know how to get in touch as and when you want to.

you can always fb msg me, if you need advice/a listening ear wife <3

I know, sometimes I don't know if I'm being an idiot or not so I'd rather speak to you guys. The two of you are wee gems :love:

So I'm still seeing this dude, we've never spoke about what's actually going on between us and he's coming to stay tonight so I probably won't have a better opportunity to ask him than tonight. I don't really know how to go about it other than saying "what's happening here?" Haha, I'm actually hopeless. Any ladies had to do the same in the past that could help me?

What do you think is going on? If you're saying you want to be exclusively dating then just ask him if hes down with that scenario. If your just curious how he feels about you then ask. I never understood the lack of communication in relationships. Its very easy to just ask a question. If your question scares him off, then he wasn't worth your time. If he wants to be single then you know. If he wants to date you exclusively then you still know where he stands. That will be 30 dollars Kay. :shycouch:

You'll never make it in the whoring business fred goddamn

I got me and my boyfriend drunk on Whiskey and I brought it up then and he was like yeah of course! So you could try that? I think some guys are just as shy as us ladies. :)

In my past it's usually one of those post-sex pillow talk things that gets asked.

FETCHER (Kaycee?). I think it's more likely he wants to be friends with benefits. I guess whatever happened has already happened, but in my experience asking the "what are we" question can very quickly kill what is happening. Hope that is/was not the case for you.

We've not had full on sex yet as neither of us ever carry a condom and I'm definitely not willing to have sex without one. I had one of those post-sex pillow talks yesterday haha, I told him I wasn't sleeping with him until I knew he wasn't going to be an arsehole and he seemed quite hurt that it would cross my mind. He's a mutual friend of mine, my brother and sister so my brother has already gave the embarrassing big brother speech.

I think I might try that, we both live with our parents so don't really have the opportunity to drink at home so we normally go to the pub with friends!

Hmmm, I see. How crude of me to assume you guys were already going at it. Welllllp in that case he must be hanging around for something. Better to just get it out in the open. First, tell him what you want out of the friendship. Then maybe he'll open up about what he's thinking. That's all you can do, really. And I echo what other posters have said about the fact that if he gets freaked out/doesn't really answer he probably had the wrong intentions anyway. :)

It's nearly happened a few times because my parents are on holiday haha. I told him the last time we sat together I really liked him and he said he liked me too, so I guess that's good.

And yeah I will do, it's not just us wondering what's going because we go out all the time together, for instance he invited me to his friends birthday night out in Glasgow. He's a really nice guy I've known for years though and he makes me laugh hundreds. Can't really ask for much more, can I?

I'm single.

So don't post in the relationship thread brah.

Sorry, I'm a girl not a dude. :yeah:

Haha, I wasn't being completely serious btw, I made this thread when I was single :) it's pretty much a place for all boy/girl troubles. You can give more to the thread than just saying your single though, can't really reply to that, can I? :)

Then we should go out sometime. http://www.atheistnetwork2.com/image...s/ilikeyou.gif

You perve! I thought we were going out?

I'm a rolling stone, baby.

Bitches be trippin'. :pimp:

I hope you bloody well enjoyed yourself matey! It's on the couch tonight buddy. No sexy time for you.

So when your boyfriend is away it's playtime? Lmao

Looks like it's time sneak out and drown my sorrows at the strip club. Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name.