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View Poll Results: Does the Friendzone really exist?
Yes 13 65.00%
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Old 12-24-2013, 09:41 PM   #31 (permalink)
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really ? because honestly men will pick a woman with qaulities similar to their mother....
I'm with DJ on this one - where are you getting that from?
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Old 12-24-2013, 11:16 PM   #32 (permalink)
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I want to know, do you lose respect from a woman who sleeps you quickly after meeting her?
When that happens to me, one of two things will happen.

1. My ego will be stroked (among other things), and I will think we just really hit it off and the stars aligned, and this is something that wouldn't have happened if she were with someone else who didn't quite do it for her.

2. I will assume that she does this all the time, and I will consider her hungry for the lovin', and while I may give it to her because of my own selfish desires, I won't consider anything serious with her beyond a casual fling.

Knowing my current (and I say current for a reason) personality, I'll tend to lean toward option 2.
BUT... at some point I figured out why I was getting that impression and it had everything to do with where I was meeting women and why. Naturally, things played out like they play out.

The good thing about option 2 is that you're in prime real estate for the kind of women you can't judge on defaults, because you're there for a reason, and they're there for a reason. It's a short term social contract, and there is no friend-zoning when you're bringing a woman home from a bar. Indeed, if you get friend-zoned when you drop trouser, that's another statement entirely.

Me, not looking for any sort of meaningful relationship currently, I'll tend to find myself in option 2 territory. And I don't think any less of them than I do myself. It's a mutual thing.



Regarding the whole friend-zone thing, I don't think it's real in the way guys think it's real. Like others have said, it's often a card that's played, or a response to an unreasonable or unexpected event. But people can be fickle about their emotions. Long-time friends can become more than that. It's not an irreconcilable divide. But I do think it's a waste of time for someone to maintain a friendship on the hope of something more, if that friendship isn't the most valuable part of the relationship.
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Old 12-24-2013, 11:30 PM   #33 (permalink)
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I've had people tell me I've been put in the "friendzone" when I have told them I tried to get something going with a chick and get rejected. I find it stupid, and almost insulting when people give me the friendzone excuse. It feels like they're trying to cheer me up by blaming someone else, like I can't take a bit of disappointment. I try and be nice to everyone, and I find it silly to think that just being kind to someone will get your dick wet. I'm pretty much done trying to get into a relationship for now only for the sake of my own sanity.
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Old 12-25-2013, 07:14 AM   #34 (permalink)
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In case Sansa has continued questions...
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Old 12-25-2013, 07:28 AM   #35 (permalink)
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Old 12-25-2013, 07:58 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Argh ffs.

Thing is I know a couple lads like this.
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Old 12-26-2013, 09:49 AM   #37 (permalink)
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I'm with DJ on this one - where are you getting that from?
just an observation.... seriously...might be askew, but hell my old avatar suggested that I was drunk all the time so it could be through martini goggles that I see this.

I find that most of the men I have been out with have mentioned that something I do, or a statement I make ( slightly reminds them of their mother) not completely but just enough for it to be made mention of... so I based my conclusion on this, that indeed men gravitate towards women that remind them of their mother in some innate way...)

Now sonny, can you move outta the way Perry Mason is on....
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Old 12-26-2013, 09:54 AM   #38 (permalink)
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Wow you really put a lot of thought into that one, didn't you sweetheart?

Bless.
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Old 12-26-2013, 10:24 AM   #39 (permalink)
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I'm with DJ on this one - where are you getting that from?
in this day and age, people seem to forget the virtues of citations and **** like that. I love it when people say "YOU CAN'T TRUST WIKIPEDIA" but trust any article that says "scientists say....". At least wikipedia will force the writers to say which scientist at which institution.

that's just how i feel about citations and how you should remain skeptical of everything, even news articles. /endrant
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Old 12-26-2013, 02:20 PM   #40 (permalink)
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in this day and age, people seem to forget the virtues of citations and **** like that. I love it when people say "YOU CAN'T TRUST WIKIPEDIA" but trust any article that says "scientists say....". At least wikipedia will force the writers to say which scientist at which institution.

that's just how i feel about citations and how you should remain skeptical of everything, even news articles. /endrant
So...we're agreeing here? I'm not sure what point you're coming to.
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