The Batlord

Friendzoning definitely exists and it's not just unrequited love. It's like squares and rectangles. All friendzoning is unrequited love, but not all unrequited love is friendzoning. You can have unrequited love and not have all that much contact with a girl, but friendzoning implies some actual intimacy. The way I see it is that it's when a shy guy wants a girl, but can't say anything about it, so he just becomes her best friend to stay close to her. The girl doesn't take him seriously romantically since he's shown himself to be sexually nonthreatening, but enjoys the devotion he shows her and he basically becomes her gay best friend.

It's really not a healthy relationship for either of them since the guy is holding onto a fantasy that is keeping him from developing any romantic relationships with anyone else and the girl is likely getting the emotional fulfillment that she'd normally be getting from a romantic relationship from this guy and not from whoever she happens to be dating. I have a hypothesis that the whole reason that so many guys supposedly in the friendzone complain about the girl dating *******s is because there's a "type" of girl that generally attracts these guys (who themselves conform to their own type): the type of girl who tends to develop unhealthy romantic relationships with *******s.


I believe it. Your mother was the first, and will likely always be the most important, relationship with a female you will ever have. It basically sets all of the standards you have for women and the patterns of behavior you develop towards them. Even if you don't date women like your mother, I imagine you're still choosing them based on your relationship with the most important woman in your life. Even if you were abandoned by your mother and never knew her this likely will also set the tone for your relationships with women in general.

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Goofle

The "friendzone" is quite clearly a thing. I have experienced it on both sides.

The problem I find with talking about these subjects is that I think people live completely individual lives and the idea that these circumstances can somehow affect everybody in the same way is quite absurd to me. I liked a girl, we became friends, she wasn't interested and that was the end. We are still friends and I now only like her as a friend. That is how I personally reacted/dealt with the situation.

Same with the "Men are attracted to girls who are like their mother" discussion. To me it is completely ridiculous to make those claims as it not only takes away the individuality of each woman, but also makes out as though I have no control over who I like and what type of person I want to be with.

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Taxman

So do you really believe you can control these things?

Dayvan Cowboy

People are not learning the importance of citations!

GuD

Wouldn't the difference between "friendzone" and unrequited love/feelings be that you don't have to be friends with a person to have unrequited love/feelings for them?

Edit:

All of these examples sound like templates for every corny he-gets-the-girl-in-the-end kinda romantic comedy ever.

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Neapolitan

I heard it's in high school where most males develop what they think females think of them, and they project what girls think of them in high school to women they meet later in life.

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Dayvan Cowboy

Maybe romcoms are the reason peoole think the friend zone exists

TheBig3

ftfy

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The Batlord

No. Romcoms just romanticize them. Real friendzones never work out.

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TheBig3

qft

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