VEGANGELICA |
06-07-2010 08:01 PM |
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Originally Posted by VocalsBass
(Post 877737)
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I'm sorry about your cousin, VB. What an awful way to die...and no time to say goodbye.
There is never enough time, but it is especially sad when someone has not had a chance to live a full, long life...and especially hard when neither the people who die, nor the people who love them, have a chance for a little closure beforehand.
The only comfort I can perhaps offer is to tell you a conversation I've had several times with my mom, as I've prepared for her eventually dying since I was quite young. When I was younger and told her that I will miss her when she dies, assuming she dies before me, she said that when she is dead, if she *could*, she would still love me. (We're atheists.)
Somehow, I found it comforting to know that it would be an unchanging fact that she loved me and wished she could do so throughout my life, even when she is dead. What will be harder for me though, I feel, is watching my mother lose herself and her life...especially if it is painful.
When I've had friends die, this is what always haunts me: knowing that they have suffered such a great loss (their life). I have never found any solution to that...just acknowledging that it is a loss and a terrible thing. I hope that the pain of death is offset by the joy of living.
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