I think you've spoken about him on here before. It really sucks. I hope that he grows up, but ultimately that's up to him.

My cousin is like 37 now and the exact same way. He's the one I talked about a long time ago who threw his skateboard at a bus and freaked out because the cops were called and the canine unit came, and the dog mauled his leg. Because he was being an assh*le. He still hasn't grown up - still taking drugs like its candy and now his body is giving out on him.

I've had the same problem with a brother as well. He's doing alright now, but it took him having a kid and turning 26 to realize that he had to get his **** together. Throughout the years, he was doing drug dealings, buying alcohol for underage kids, hanging out with those same kids, being homeless, stealing cars, living in places that weren't even places that he could call home. I can't even tell you the amount of times that I felt sorry for the people that'd be in contact with him because I knew the next day he would just screw them over with some bull**** tactic like "all I needed was money". I kept telling my parents that they need to stop helping him, but they always stuck with "it's not that easy, he's our son", and things like "you don't understand". I actually did understand completely due to it pretty much making my childhood one without the help of an older sibling. Lots of people say that they got a lot of help from their older siblings, but I can safely say that I didn't learn **** from mine except for how to stay out of jail for a day, only to go back in for some other bull**** thing. He's been to jail more times than I can count.

I remember hearing a story where he was with a group of "friends" and he had one of those knuckle things that you hit people with. He broke someone's car window, someone he didn't even know, and drove off with the car. Keep in mind that he also put one of his friends in the trunk so that they could all fit in the car. The police caught him.

I also cannot tell you the amount of times i've had police, bounty hunters, and other various people walk up to my parents door about my older brother. I'll never forgive him for making my childhood a ****fest, but i'm only nice to him now because he hasn't ****ed up again, yet. I've also had to leave my house numerous times just so I could spare my sanity in certain situations.

I enjoy his company at times; he's a funny guy, but I don't trust him and I'll never forgive him for the pain he caused you, and for completely robbing you of the guidance you needed as a middle child. The dumb shit he did will be permissible in time, but not that. Not ever.

On a sidenote it's my baby's birthday today. He would have been 14. He passed away on February 30th, 2012 (yes, there was a 30th of Feb that year).

The bold hit home. I'm in therapy at the moment for a lot of reasons but mostly because of my living situation. I love my parents but their judgement on how to deal with my younger brother is very skewed. I end up in a catch 22 where if I try to take control of the situation, my brother resents me for it, and if I let my parents control it they end up doing the wrong thing. The psychological damage it's doing to me is getting bad. I feel like I'm watching a car wreck in slo motion an can't stop it. For example, my dad bailed him out last night. I said he should so that Ryan learns a lesson. They just feed their baby bird whenever it's hungry.

It's horrible. Thanks for all the support though. You guys are like therapy to me.

I never went to therapy for it, but it's evident that a lot of pent up anger is due to not being able to just have my say in a lot of situations that had to do with things my brother did. Every time my mom mentions "he's trying to get better", I just shrug and say "whatever." It's just to the point that I don't care if he's doing better or not, I just don't want to be dragged into it again. I live on my own, and i'm not letting it bother me like it did when I lived in the same house as when all the situations took place. Getting out of the house where it happens is the best thing for you, honestly. Just make every excuse you can just to be away from it. I know it sucks to see your parents bend over backwards to make your brother see the lighter side of things, but you putting energy into it is exhausting you, and nobody will know except for you.

I'm glad I can talk about this, because we have the same issue and have lived with the same thing growing up. Just as long as you know what's important in your life, everything will be fine.

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Seriously though, thanks for that. Makes me realize it won't always be a bag of sh*t. I'm going to be moving out within the year. I have a couple of options lined up. I don't wanna leave my parents but I just can't live like this anymore.

^You'll be better off in the long run. I still have a lot to get through in terms of pent up anger, but it helps to be able to be in your own place and think about it, instead of being stuck in a house full of negative energy.

I saw Yeezus at the Garden and it was epic. The ticket was worth every penny. I was five feet from QuestLove and Idris Elba. I saw Steven Spielberg and Lenny Kravitz was sitting 20 feet from me. Saw A Tribe Called Quest perform for their last time ever!

Sounds amazing!

Steven Spielburg? WTF?