I've always been the kind of person who can't move on from a relationship without total severance of contact. And no, sometimes that's not possible, and it's extremely difficult. You've got to choose non-contact where it's possible to do so, and when it's not, you just have to weather the **** storm and hope you come out on the other side. Good luck, sincerely.

That's probably the dumbest thing I've ever heard anyone say. This isn't a normal situation. While she's been able to manipulate her way out of homelessness for a month or so, I've been getting her bills to my address, her debt, and her constant somehow getting my number to tell me about her happiness and marriage. If she was in another state it'd be different, but she's doing what she can to make me feel bad of all people.

This is pretty much how it is. She was the first person I was ever with. I shared all my "first relationship" stuff with her so to see her in this state isn't an easy thing to consume. I try to not let it bother me, but today it really is. Watching her sneak into a McDonalds was lower than anything I've ever seen.

Normal for you, numbnuts. Not her.

LiL is another human being, and she is suffering. Do you have the means to ease her suffering? If so, help her! For the love of God. Put aside your history, your pride, whatever, and be the human.

you're not a pussy at all. you're in a situation most people won't be able to properly understand. i think mord might be right in some regards with his last post. i know the last thing you probably want to do is speak with her, but if you feel bad for her situation, striking up a conversation wouldn't be the worst idea possible. maybe offer her some lunch or something, i don't know, but i'm sure under these circumstances she could use the help.

By doing what? Giving her a place to stay? Give her money? My compassion? I don't think you really understand what she put me through. You don't have to deal with this because of your current situation, so its very easy to say what you say from the sidelines.

Fair enough. Easier said than done. "You must do what you think is right, of course." Compassion is a good start. Maybe if you go up to her, talk to her, ask her if you can help out with anything (within your means), that act of compassion may open the door to something.

I'm on your side Ki. LiL made her bed.

Here's a recent text message conversation between my ex and I.

her: How are you?
Me: Go **** yourself
Her: Oh come on. I want to talk. I miss you
Me: Yeah, well I miss your cunt. that's it.

I don't concern myself with her because my life is in tatters that I don't need to be rekindling the past to only realize how much I miss her.

Your life isn't in the best situation pal. Instead of thinking about her, you need to think about how you're going to get on your feet.

Just thought of something else, Ki. Moving would solve some of your immediate problems. Do you have the means to move?