Sore throat kept me up all night. I can handle most of my other ailments but I would honestly rather die than have a sore throat. Ughhh

Now that the shock has worn off, Linda did the right thing. I seriously don't want to live together anymore either. I didn't realize how much tension and bad vibes had been going on with us these past couple of years. Her being gone for over two weeks has opened my eyes.

We're also getting along great. We're speaking on the phone a lot and can both tell the difference. Lots of laughing and we're coming to closure on stuff really easily. I drafted up a Divorce Assets Distribution Agreement and both her and her legal counsel think it's really thorough and fair to both of us. (I'll post it if anyone's interested for future reference. The only personal stuff is me and Linda's names).

I cleaned out her closet yesterday and stumbled across this. Not sure why we never hung it and it got so buried.

https://i.imgur.com/Pbz9qdo.jpg

Talk about a HUGE lump in the throat. This was 34 years ago right after Sherri was born. I'm still sporting my wedding haircut (Linda was 4 months pregnant when we got hitched). Told Lin about it and she choked up too. We both agreed to give it to Sherri.

You try anything to soothe it? Hot Ribena is usually good for me.

I'd be rather hesitant to post legal ****, especially for a divorce that hasn't been finalized.

Don’t. Someone can PM you if they want advice.

Your feelings are probably going to bounce up and down. My only advice is don’t go on deep benders. Heavy booze can make you creepy spiral.

I'm happy you and Linda are in a better place now, Chula.

Usually I use cayenne pepper. (I just dump about 1/4 to 1/2 of a teaspoon into a bowl of soup and eat it and, if I remember, I'll continuously sip on broth that has lots of cayenne in it also. Gargling with cayenne pepper water works better though) It's just due to the post-nasal drip-- it keeps happening whenever I miss a dose of Primatene. Really annoying. I've had lifelong sinus problems though; perhaps I should look into that.

Agree totally. You could regret doing that.

Also, glad you're coming to a point where you can both talk, and even laugh, together. Very mature, and very glad for you and the kids too. Hope the divorce goes through smoothly and quickly, if you're both decided that's the way to go.

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Got it.

Just to be clear, it's not "legal ****" yet. It's a proposal. It has to be drafted into legal **** by Linda's counsel. Here it is in generic form.

Wife and Husband Assets Distribution Divorce Agreement - Jan. 15, 2018

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% from the sale of their home after the following:
1. The current mortgage is 100% paid off
2. Any realtor or other associated fees are paid off
3. Moving expenses are reimbursed

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of all profits from the commissions or outright sale of the company that he has partial ownership in.

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of any profits from the future sales of his musical instrument collection, including guitars, amplifiers, and miscellaneous effects pedals.

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of the profits if he chooses to sell their co-owned automobile.

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of any profits if he’s able to sell any furniture, home electronics, kitchen items, exercise equipment, and other misc. home items.

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of any State or Federal refunds from their 2017 tax returns.

- Husband agrees to pay Wife 50% of his IRA distribution after he starts withdrawing payments from it – either bi-weekly, monthly, a full cash out, or any other distribution arrangement.

- Husband agrees to assist Wife with her monthly cost of living expenses as long as the amount doesn’t negatively affect his ability to pay his monthly cost of living expenses.

- Both parties agree to remain gainfully employed to the best of their ability in order to support their monthly living expenses.

- Both parties agree to limit monthly expenses to the essentials for a six-month period after the divorce is finalized (insert actual date here) so that they can both get a clear assessment of their personal financial needs. If after six months either party is not comfortable with their current financial situation, mediation will be used to come to a financial agreement that’s in the best interests of both parties.

- Both parties agree to be forthright, open, and honest about any plans to make any changes to their financial situations during the six-month period mentioned above and at any time afterwards. If any plans would require an additional financial burden be put on either party to the degree that they could not pay their essential monthly expenses, mediation will once again be used.

In the name of science.