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SGR · 02-05-2021, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Preciate that sister!

On a semi-serious note, obviously I want MB to be a place where I can be me and write what I want to write but other people feel uncomfortable when I move too far in certain directions. It’s a really hard sell to convince me they should feel uncomfortable but it’s an easy sell that people DO feel uncomfortable whether I like it or not. I’m not like an everywhere should be a safe space for everyone type of liberal but I also think it’s totally reasonable for everyone to feel basically comfortable here. Naturally, I think everybody ought to cheer me on and tell me everything I do is awesome but the mods have to balance giving me full liberty with how certain things make other people feel. I’m just saying I plan on reeling in certain aspects of my personality in deference to other people’s psychological space. Even if I don’t really get WHY people get upset I still want people to come on the forum and enjoy themselves. If they’re really bothered by what I’m saying then they’re not enjoying themselves and I want everyone to have a good time.

**Marie Monday** · 02-05-2021, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Preciate that sister!

On a semi-serious note, obviously I want MB to be a place where I can be me and write what I want to write but other people feel uncomfortable when I move too far in certain directions. It’s a really hard sell to convince me they should feel uncomfortable but it’s an easy sell that people DO feel uncomfortable whether I like it or not. I’m not like an everywhere should be a safe space for everyone type of liberal but I also think it’s totally reasonable for everyone to feel basically comfortable here. Naturally, I think everybody ought to cheer me on and tell me everything I do is awesome but the mods have to balance giving me full liberty with how certain things make other people feel. I’m just saying I plan on reeling in certain aspects of my personality in deference to other people’s psychological space. Even if I don’t really get WHY people get upset I still want people to come on the forum and enjoy themselves. If they’re really bothered by what I’m saying then they’re not enjoying themselves and I want everyone to have a good time.

Good. I appreciate that.
This is exactly what I've been trying to talk to you about. No one is saying people should feel uncomfortable, and I think it's pretty clear from the modding here that there is quite a lot of freedom about what can be said, but the goal is to make sure people can feel at ease. Trying to understand why people are upset is not essential, but it does help of course. Cheers for being serious and empathetic about this.

Trollheart · 02-05-2021, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Preciate that sister!

On a semi-serious note, obviously I want MB to be a place where I can be me and write what I want to write but other people feel uncomfortable when I move too far in certain directions. It’s a really hard sell to convince me they should feel uncomfortable but it’s an easy sell that people DO feel uncomfortable whether I like it or not. I’m not like an everywhere should be a safe space for everyone type of liberal but I also think it’s totally reasonable for everyone to feel basically comfortable here. Naturally, I think everybody ought to cheer me on and tell me everything I do is awesome but the mods have to balance giving me full liberty with how certain things make other people feel. I’m just saying I plan on reeling in certain aspects of my personality in deference to other people’s psychological space. Even if I don’t really get WHY people get upset I still want people to come on the forum and enjoy themselves. If they’re really bothered by what I’m saying then they’re not enjoying themselves and I want everyone to have a good time.

Welcome back man, missed ya!

This is a big step for you, and to be fair, one you probably needed to take a good while ago. As you say, sometimes it's not enough to say "I didn't mean it or I don't see why you're upset", it's understanding why the person is upset. Insulting or demeaning someone without meaning to is still insulting or demeaning them, and while you can't quite be held responsible for saying something you didn't know might offend, once it's pointed out to you, the man in you should (and hopefully will, from now on) realise it's wrong, apologise and make sure it doesn't happen again.

All that said, you're still a knob.

OccultHawk · 02-05-2021, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

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Trollheart · 02-05-2021, 02:38 PM

Key · 02-05-2021, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Preciate that sister!

On a semi-serious note, obviously I want MB to be a place where I can be me and write what I want to write but other people feel uncomfortable when I move too far in certain directions. It’s a really hard sell to convince me they should feel uncomfortable but it’s an easy sell that people DO feel uncomfortable whether I like it or not. I’m not like an everywhere should be a safe space for everyone type of liberal but I also think it’s totally reasonable for everyone to feel basically comfortable here. Naturally, I think everybody ought to cheer me on and tell me everything I do is awesome but the mods have to balance giving me full liberty with how certain things make other people feel. I’m just saying I plan on reeling in certain aspects of my personality in deference to other people’s psychological space. Even if I don’t really get WHY people get upset I still want people to come on the forum and enjoy themselves. If they’re really bothered by what I’m saying then they’re not enjoying themselves and I want everyone to have a good time.

Well if you want to change, prove it. Words are words. that's all they are.

OccultHawk · 02-05-2021, 03:43 PM

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Well if you want to change, prove it. Words are words. that's all they are.

Well I can make a pledge:

1) I will not make any suggestive, provocative, flirtatious, or any kind of joke or any other sort of comment to or about Marie under any context whatsoever without exception. It’s completely off limits.

2) I will not make any suggestions to you about how you live your life or anything at all. In fact, I will not engage you at all unless you engage me first and even then I will not argue, debate, or challenge you in any way. I’d like to still comment on your music but if you don’t want me to I won’t do that either. I won’t even listen to you if that’s what you prefer but I think that would be a real loss for me. Anyway, even if you make a dig at me or if you don’t I’m not going to retort in anyway.

3) I’m not going to question how or why anyone else self-identifies as it’s none of my business and unhelpful.

I’m still gonna be an adolescent dorkus obsessed with ding dongs deez nuts and vaginas because goddamn I’m still gonna be me.

I hope that’s somewhat to your satisfaction.

OccultHawk · 02-05-2021, 03:45 PM

PS I’m still gonna joke around with Marie but not the kind of **** she obviously doesn’t like. Y’all know what I’m saying. Like I might say the Dutch smell like cheese or whatever.

**Marie Monday** · 02-05-2021, 03:51 PM

ribbons · 02-05-2021, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Marie Monday

^ LOL - cool as ever.

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